Healthy Happy Loving Life: Second Day Back

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Enjoying life, Healthy Happy Loving Life, Natural pain solutions

Welcome (back) to the new version of my long-running blog about being as healthy and happy as you can be, enjoying life as much as you can!  I started blogging in 2009, when social media was young.  I took a class on Facebook, Twitter, and blogging, and it was a mind-blower.  At first, I was spending 20 hours a week, learning and practicing my new skills.  I learned photo selection and manipulation, and how to get those pesky titles, subtitles, and captions in all the right places.  Now I’m fast at creating what I want.

I’m using the Ultimate Blog Challenge this month (look for the group of that name on Facebook)– one article per day– to motivate myself to get back in the driver’s/writer’s seat.  There was a lot of family business the last several years, and I just couldn’t keep up my weekly articles and newsletters.  For a couple of years, I did write monthly articles for an authors’ blog.  If you’re interested in seeing those, I will be making the collection available as a pdf ebook.  Now, a shift in family needs is allowing me to spend more time on what I’m called to do: consulting, healing, and writing.  During the last few years, I did continue teaching and speaking.  I finished two full-color browsing books:  Inspirations for Peace Within and Sacred Meditation.  My next planned book will likely be on stress and burnout.  Stay tuned!

Some people wonder how I got into the field of natural medicine.  While I don’t believe in dwelling on the negative, I will share my story briefly here.  In my twenties, I was a serious, focused workaholic engineering manager.  I published mightily; I had quite a publications list.  One night I realized the large knuckles of my hands were burning badly.  I dismissed it, since my mother had first experienced mild arthritis around the same age.  Mom had never done anything about her arthritis, other than take anti-inflammatories and supplements.  I look a lot like Mom and have had much the same metabolism.  So I thought, no biggie.  I have what she had.

Wrong!  Within a year, I was burning from head to toe, and aspirin wouldn’t touch it.  There was a terrible stiffness with the burning.  On the worst day, it took me 2 hours to turn over to reach a telephone, to call in sick.  I thought I might have about a dozen years before I would be in a wheelchair.  There would be no marriage, family, or children.  I took up yoga and jogging.  I worked and experimented and prayed. I continued my career in hydrology and engineering.

In the eighth year of my research and efforts, a miracle was revealed: I had beaten it!!  I was at a party, when a friend started talking about Her Arthritis like it was her lover.  After being introduced to her new diagnosis, she bought a new car for it.  We had been going on group campouts.  She bought all new camping equipment for her companion-disease.  She bought new furniture for her companion-disease.  I listened as generously as I could.  Finally, I heard myself say, “well, when I had horrible crippling arthritis… I did (these things to beat it)…”  I was so shocked to hear myself speak of the horrible burning condition in the past tense, that I can’t tell you what the friend replied.  Or even what my sharings were.  I do remember her frowning at me.  We were both struggling to be polite.

Within a couple of years, I was so involved in natural- and energy medicine, and natural pain solutions, that I was bored with hydrology and engineering.  I gave notice and left the engineering firm I was working for. I opened my own holistic healing practice and have now been at it for over 30 years.  I have helped many, many people with energy healing, dietary adjustments, intuitive guidance, positive languaging, relationship strategies, and understanding the “why” of their physical discomforts.

I invite you to join me on this journey of seeking happiness, health, and a love of life!

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Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert and award-winning author.  She also is an ordained minister and has a natural healing practice. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br),and Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Upbeat Living: Chocolate for Your Health!

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© 2016 Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM.  World Rights Reserved. In Upbeat Living^sm, we emphasize the positive in all possible ways; today, we celebrate the health benefits of chocolate!  Yes, it’s true.  When you think of chocolate, you can think of it—dark chocolate, anyway—as a health food.  Remember, the Inca Indians discovered it and drank it hot, without sweetening, hundreds of years ago.

A number of medical studies have shown that modern people can use it for health.  Without being too technical, here are some of the great ways dark chocolate serves the body:

• Provides antioxidant power, which fights free radicals, thus reducing risk of heart disease. Note that milk may interfere with the absorption of the antioxidants.
• Lowers mild high blood pressure.
• Is associated with drastically lower occurrence of major diseases, when consumed as natural hot cocoa. These diseases include: stroke, heart failure, cancer, and diabetes.  Natural cocoa has a very high level of epicatchin, a type of antioxidant that some believe should be classified as a vitamin.  Epicatachin is also found in some teas, wine, and some fruits and vegetables.
• Can strengthen tissue and help build muscle, due to the epicatachin.

You people who love white chocolate or milk chocolate can keep eating it as a treat.  Dark chocolate lovers, this is your time!  Snack on dark chocolate bars and put dark chocolate chips in those cookies.  Stir natural cocoa powder into your smoothies, and make your own low-fat snack bars.  Enjoy your increased vitality!  Are you feeling energized now?  That feeling is part of  Upbeat Living!

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• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com. 
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Upbeat Living: Gratitude for a Writing Challenge

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© 2016 Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM.  World Rights Reserved.

 

In Upbeat Living^sm, gratitude is a major dimension of living, creating, and getting the life you want.  As it happens, today, I am completing a 31-day writing challenge, the Ultimate Blog Challenge, and I am feeling overwhelming gratitude.  Here is some of what I’m experiencing gratitude for.

• The organizers of the Ultimate Blog Challenge, Paul Taubman and Danni Ackerman, for setting it up again and running it every 3 months, for a full month each time.
• The discipline of assembling the components of an article every day: theme, photo or 2, poster, quotes, text, format, publishing, sharing. I can see that time and structure translating to my next project:  getting my new website done.  That seems much easier now.  Bite off, chew, bite off, chew.
• The core participants, who teamed along most steadily and supported each other throughout. I will miss interacting with them, but I’ll keep up with some who have become friends.  I am grateful to have gotten to know them better, and to count on their values and sensibilities.  A few of these are Ken Weliever, Jeanine Byers, Vicki Maheu, Cindy Browning O’Donnell, Martha DeMeo, Tammy Rome, Karen Lee Banks, Alice Gerard, Maria Silvo, Nick Roseblade, Alana Mautone, Nicole Bianchi, and Paul Taubman.
• An odd feeling of being motivated by my success in systematically completing this Challenge. So often we think motivation breeds success.  But I’m very present, just now, to the opposite effect:  success breeds motivation.
• A new cheery comfort with using only closed-top mugs in my office. It may sound minor, but it eliminates a possible repeat of the Great Hot Chocolate Incident of 2011.  It’s saving massive future time and money.
• A refreshed collection of articles on my blog. Blog visitors will generally start from the most recent article, and even if they read through 31 articles, they will be seeing my freshest and best work.  I expect to continue blogging weekly, midweek, with my spiritual email still going out on Sunday evenings.
• Google listings! Google has picked up some of my articles and a number of my images!  It’s the articles with the most comments that it shows.  So those comments, friends, are literally very valuable.  Huge thanks to anyone who read and commented on my articles this month, and always.

So I’m whelmed with joy and overwhelmed with gratitude.  Thank you!  I look forward to our further adventures.  Will you keep me posted on your journey?  And in gratitude, that’s Upbeat Living!

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• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com. 
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Fear Stress: Could Fear be Your Friend?

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© 2016 Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM.  World Rights Reserved.

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Fear is wearing, fear feels bad, and fear holds us back: that’s Fear Stress.  And we all have fears.  Many try to squelch fear, because they see fear as the enemy.  Yes, you can actually fear your own fear.  However, holding us back is fear’s job.

Fear serves the primal function of revving your metabolism so you can run from a saber-tooth tiger or another dangerous enemy.  Fear causes the adrenal glands to squirt out many useful chemical compounds that boost your heart rate and other functions so you can race away from danger.  In an office environment, the extra adrenaline from fearful reactions just makes you tremble, possibly flush, and definitely feel “stressed”.  Some would use the word “apprehensive.”

We have small and large fears.  Some are spiritual, some mental, some emotional, and some physical.   Here are a few real-world examples of those.  A small spiritual fear might be, “[D]id I get the Pastor’s theme Sunday?”  A large spiritual fear might be, “[I]s God really there for me?”  A small mental fear: “[C]an I find the Chandler Library?” A large mental fear:  “[W]ill I get my taxes done correctly and on time?”  A small emotional fear may be: “[O]h no, here comes that annoying person!”  A large emotional fear: “[W]ill I ever get a soulmate?”  With fears in the physical sphere, a small one might be, “[W]ill I get to the dry cleaners before 5?’  And a large fear might be, “[W]ill that breast lump be malignant?”  Small fears often pass for worry.

You can actually fear your own fear!  Wouldn’t you rather dissolve it?

Why not make a few notes for yourself on the large and small fears you have?  Do you see patterns? Sometimes, we feel fearful, but we can’t zoom in on the actual fear.  If we can at least become aware that we are feeling fear, then here is a tool to use:  paper and pen (or keyboard) in hand, ask yourself “what am I feeling?”  Write that down.  Keep asking yourself, “[W]hat am I feeling?” and “[W]hat’s that about?”  Stick with it until you are clear on your fear or fears.  Ask yourself what your fears are telling you right now.

Now consider the twofold opportunity in befriending each fear.  Yes, opportunity!  First, where would you take your life without these fears?  What would you have accomplished already, had you not been fearful?  Second, how could you grow so that your fear would dissipate?  Journal your thoughts and feelings.  Leave space so you can add more thoughts later.  Truly, you can make those fears your friends.  Fears are your partners in opportunity.

Study of spiritual principles offers us various ways to beat Fear Stress, of whatever magnitude.  Perhaps the most powerful way is to fill your conscious mind with the positive, so that fear is crowded out.  Philippians 4:8-9 gives this method: “Finally, beloved, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is pleasing, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.  Keep on doing the things that you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, and the God of peace will be with you.”

This works even for those with no faith!  Feed the positive in your life and the negative will have no home.  Consider your fears, journalling out your thoughts and feelings.  Be honest with yourself. Then develop new habits that will displace your old fears.  It’s a new journey, but one that will endlessly enrich and expand your life.  For the life you want…why not start now?

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• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You, plus Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. All the books are available through her office.  Just call, or email books@kebba.com. 
• For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: calendar@kebba.com .

Excuses Stress

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© 2016 Kebba Buckley Button, M.S., O.M.  World Rights Reserved.

I collect quirky media stories, and this one came to mind today, as I was thinking about Excuses  Stress: the static and drain caused by someone else or ourselves making excuses. Several years ago, I found this gem: “Ex-wife accused of identity theft blames dog for leading her astray”.  In Arlington, Washington, an ex-husband found money was leaving his accounts without his previous permission.  Police investigators determined his ex-wife was paying her expenses with the unauthorized funds.  When asked about using her ex-husband’s bank account, the woman said her dog ate her personal checks and she had no choice but to use her ex-husband’s account.

Now let’s back up a moment.  She said she believed she had no choice.  But we are always at choice. Most people have another pad of checks, because checks typically come in batches of 160 or more. So maybe the dog ate all her check pads, as well as her checks in her checkbook, which was lying within reach of the dog’s mouth (why?).  This woman probably has a debit card and can make online payments.   She didn’t choose to do that.  Debit cards and emergency replacement checks are available at all branches of her bank or credit union.  The woman didn’t choose to avail herself of those services.

So maybe there was a long holiday weekend involved and she couldn’t talk to staff at her bank branch for 3 days.  But hello!  The banks all have 800 numbers with staff standing by to help customers around the clock.  As far as we know, she didn’t choose to call the 800 number, nor did she email or try online chat to get help.  Alright, so maybe there was a storm and all long-distance phone service was down.  In desperation, perhaps the ex-wife thought, well, maybe I can use my ex-husband’s account.  This leaves yet 4 more questions:

1. Why did she not choose to ask his permission?
2. How did she still know or have a record of his bank account number?
3. With her own check pads all destroyed (if we accept that), where/how did she get checks from his account?
4. Was she planning all this in advance, and is that how she had whatever she needed to access his account?  That sounds much like a group of choices. Planning is making choices.

Benjamin Franklin said,

He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.

According to the ex-wife’s version of events, implicitly, if she had fed the dog something tastier than checks, none of this fuss would ever have occurred.  Oh, but that must be wrong, because then she would have had some responsibility for what happened and for solving it.  Now she is being investigated for identity theft and forgery.  If she goes to jail, she will have many fewer choices.  I hope she will see the irony.

In this story, the ex-husband is no-doubt stressed by having to deal with his ex-wife taking his funds.  Now she is stressed because she has been caught and held responsible.  (And she still has to order herself some checks.)  People who make excuses just hate being held responsible.  Excuses are the stories people offer, to keep from taking responsibility for their ineffective and “bad” choices.

Life is our greatest experiment, with hundreds of choices to make each day.  With the option to make many choices comes the responsibility of making those that will give us the strongest results.  Are you currently making any excuses for the way you are handling or not handling something? Why not exit your excuses and start experimenting, to build up your positive lifestyle more?  That can eliminate your Excuses Stress!

And please, will you keep your dog and your checks completely separated?  And send me any quirky news items you find!  Now that’s Upbeat Living^sm!

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• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com. 
• For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: calendar@kebba.com .
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Love Stress: How to Receive More Love

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© 2016 Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM.  World Rights Reserved.

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With Valentines’ Day coming around soon, some are feeling Love Stress.  We are starting to see sesonal candy, décor and cards everywhere.  We’re starting to think about what we want to do for Valentines’ Day.  And we’re starting to think a lot about the love in our lives.  I recently wrote about Valentines’ Day itself (http://wp.me/pw4HM-sp).

A song written by Paul Francis Webster, familiar from the movie of the same name, taught us all the truth that

Love is a many-splendored thing.

Love and caring take so many forms that many of us miss love and caring signals that are coming our way.  All of us can figure out that someone loves us if they say so.  But we miss other signs.  And we miss opportunities to express our caring to others, because we don’t share in ways they can recognize.  Especially if you’ve been wanting to experience more love and caring, here are some tips to change that.  Here are ways to notice when people are connecting with you, in however light and brief a way:

1. Someone smiles and says “hello!”  They find you interesting enough to connect.
2. Someone compliments you.
3. Someone offers you their newspaper as they are leaving the café.
4. Someone lets you know one of your tires is very low.
5. The group waits to start until you arrive several minutes late.
6. An acquaintance suggests you get together for coffee.
7. A committee member touches your arm as they go by.

John 13:34 (NIV) tells us:

A new command I give you:  Love one another.  As I have loved you, so you must love one another.

 People express love and caring in a half-dozen different “codes”—words, doing-for, gifting, spending time with, touching, and giving money.  Your thoughtfulness is love!  So here are some light ways for you to express caring and love.  Please only make genuine gestures:

1. Smile happily and say “hello!’ in a friendly way.  Practice at church.
2. Compliment someone.  Remember, it’s “how great you look in that dress!”  Do not say, “what a great dress!”
3. Before you leave the café, ask the people at the next table if they would enjoy having your paper.
4. Let someone know their tire is low or their headlamp is out.
5. If someone drops something, pick it up for them, and smile happily.
6. If you are expecting a committee member who is usually on time, wait a few minutes for them to arrive before you start.
7. Think of someone from church or a class that you would like to know better, and ask them if they would like to possibly have coffee sometime.  If they say they are awfully busy, well, you tried.  If their voice brightens, schedule it.
8. Place your hand lightly on a friend’s back as you go by.

In John 13:34, Jesus tells us we must love one another.  Now you know more ways to do that.  Be a part of that as you receive and share caring and love.

And there is always more love to share.  You can beat Love Stress by increasingly following these pointers!  And that’s Upbeat Living^tm!

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• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com. 
• For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: calendar@kebba.com .
• Recent changes have made our Facebook likes look low.  Would you click “Like” in the right-hand column?  You’ll get our appreciation and a huge rise in your good karma!

Food Stress: A Little Levity on Healthy Eating

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© 2016 Kebba Buckley Button, M.S., O.M., World Rights Reserved.

Do you ever feel like there are so many rules for eating that you never enjoy a meal or snack anymore?  With so many experts and so-called “gurus” giving pointers, do you ever feel like you’re in Food Jail, boxed in by too much conflicting advice about dieting and exercise?  How are you supposed to be in Upbeat Living, if you aren’t allowed to enjoy food and beverages?  If this sounds like you, then the following interview with Dr. Hart A. Tack may provide some comic relief.  A few years ago, this interview circulated the Internet, interviewer unknown.

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Q: Doctor, I’ve heard that cardiovascular exercise can prolong life. Is this true?
A: Your heart is only good for so many beats, and that’s it…  don’t waste them on exercise. Everything wears out eventually.  Speeding up your heart will not make you live longer; that’s like saying you can extend the life of your car by driving it faster.  Want to live longer?  Take a nap.

Q: Should I cut down on meat and eat more fruits and vegetables?
A: You must grasp logistical efficiencies.  What does a cow eat?   Hay and corn.   And what are these?  Vegetables.  So a steak is nothing more than an efficient mechanism of delivering vegetables to your system.   Need grain?   Eat chicken.   Beef is also a good source of field grass (green leafy vegetable).   And a pork chop can give you 100% of your recommended daily allowance of vegetable products.

Q: Should I reduce my alcohol intake?
A:  No, not at all.  Wine is made from fruit.  Brandy is distilled wine. That means they take the water out of the fruity bit so you get even more of the goodness that way.   Beer is also made out of grain.  So have a cup now and then!

Q: How can I calculate my body/fat ratio?
A: Well, if you have a body and you have fat, your ratio is one to one.  If you have two bodies, your ratio is two to one, etc.

Q: What are some of the advantages of participating in a regular exercise program?
A: Can’t think of a single one, sorry.  My philosophy is: No pain…good!

Q:  Aren’t fried foods bad for you?
A:  Nonsense.  Foods are fried these days in vegetable oil.  In fact, they’re permeated in it.  How could getting more vegetables be bad for you?

Q:  Will sit-ups help prevent me from getting a little soft around the middle?
A: Definitely not! When you exercise a muscle, it gets bigger. You should only be doing sit-ups if you want a bigger stomach.

Q:  Is chocolate bad for me?
A:  HELLO: Cocoa beans! Another vegetable!!! It’s the best feel-good food around!

Q:  Is swimming good for your figure?
A:  If swimming is good for your figure, explain whales to me.

Q:  Is getting in shape important for my lifestyle?
A:  Hey!  ‘Round’ is a shape!

Well, I hope this has cleared up any misconceptions you may have had about food and diets.
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I hope this piece gave you a chuckle.  Now, for real food advice, and pointers you can really use to feel your best, read the next two articles and generally look around this blog.  Or send your questions to Kebba Buckley Button at kebba@kebba.com .

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• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com. 
• For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: calendar@kebba.com .
• Recent changes have made our Facebook likes look low.  Would you click “Like” in the right-hand column?  You’ll get our appreciation and a huge rise in your good karma!

Lateness Stress: You?

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© 2016 Kebba Buckley Button, M.S., O.M.  World Rights Reserved. 

 

Quick!  What do you think of lateness, either theirs or yours?  Have you ever had a problem with being on time, or have you dealt with others who do?  When I committed to write this article, I had no idea how vast a subject I was taking on, in spectrum and substance.  Not only is this a quietly hot topic, but it also has been studied by legions seeking solutions.  Surveying colleagues and friends, I’m finding that most people like to be on-time and are secretly angry when others are late.  Thoughts on both the causes and solutions vary wildly.

I first started thinking about lateness, when, as a child, I realized I knew one chronically late adult person (CLP) and one chronically early adult person (CEP).  I noticed the CLP would go to everything 20 minutes late, thus—I finally realized—reducing the unpleasant event by 20 minutes each time.  That’s a savings of 200 minutes across 10 events.  The CLP would answer the phone, knowing that we should have left 10 minutes ago, thus ensuring that the 5 minute call made us 15 minutes late.  But then it was “time to change clothes!”   Sometimes, we got to the car door, and the CLP heard the phone, unlocked the house and went back in, to answer it.  Pleading made no difference.   It was agreed to set the clocks forward 20 minutes, to help the CLP, but of course, the CLP knew about the 20 minute “grace period” and maintained that margin still.  The CEP liked to arrive early by at least 20 minutes, which served wonderfully for medical and business appointments.  However, it caused an embarrassing strain for party hosts.

It has been said, humorously, by some who are often late:

Being on time never killed anyone, but why take a chance?

I encountered a stern standard for timeliness in “Omega Vector Training”.  The leaders viewed lateness as something unnecessary, which you had created, to sabotage yourself.  At the beginning of the course, you committed to be on time for sessions.  “On time” was clearly defined as “in your seat, ready to listen and participate”.  A one-minute piece of music was played to signal “move to your seats”.  Neither stomach flu nor a flat tire was an excuse; these were seen as factors you had created.  Participants not in their seats at the last chord of the music got to stand in front of everyone and be processed about their lateness.  That training helped me to see life participation as a series of values-based agreements, with relationships bonded increasingly by the keeping of those greements.  When we agree to an appointment, we are setting a verbal contract, and keeping it shows respect for both the party we are meeting and ourselves.

If we are late, is it possibly because we don’t really want to do that thing, or because we are afraid?  Is it too many people, too much noise, or too much potential conflict?  Might we be called upon to stand up and stand out to a degree we are uncomfortable with?  Did that agreement get made for a time of day when our metabolism really can’t go at a reasonable speed?  Looking at all the times we were ever late, if we’re honest, what were the causes?  Could one cure be to change the way we make our agreements?  Make notes for yourself with all your answers to these questions.  What do you notice?

Would we be happier if we were always on time?  Would our relationships be better?  You choose.  And that’s Upbeat Living!

Next time, we’ll discuss more causes, effects, and cures for lateness.  Meantime, please keep sending your comments on lateness to kebba@kebba.com. Thanks!

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• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com. 
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LifeGate Stress: Got a Stargate?

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Kebba Buckley Button, LifeGates, peace within, stress, The life you want, UpBeat Living

© 2016 Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM.  World Rights Reserved.  

 

 

 

 

This time, we’re brainstorming about gates, gateways, and energetics.  So, where is the most beautiful gate you’ve ever seen?  Was it modern or ancient?  What was it made of?  Was it the gate to a home, or a hotel entry gate?  Was it a vintage City entry gate?  What purposes did it serve?  How did you feel as you gazed at that gate?   Gates are used mainly for security, to impress, or to commemorate something.  They are also used as entryways, to welcome guests.

The most impressive gate I have ever seen is the Stargate from the movie and TV show of the same name.  An ornate circle of “nahquadah” perhaps 20 feet across, the Stargate allows the good guys to travel out or arrive, transferring quickly between planets.  People jump into its circumference, and they are conveyed instantly.   Now consider the gate to your yard.  It allows you ingress and egress for people and packages, and it keeps out some people and dogs you might not want straying into your yard.  In Feng Shui, your gate has energetics, which vary by its placement and appearance.  It is important to keep your gate in good repair, and to keep it lovely, if possible.  Now look at the next two pictures.      

Both show the same gate, first in pieces, and then after repairs.  Which gate would you rather have?  Which is more pleasing?  Which one has better energy?  Obviously, the “after” gate is more pleasing and has better energy.  That one will help energize your yard.  It will draw in great energy, perhaps vitality, great relationships, and prosperity.

If you have been drawing in distractions, wrong turns, repeated illnesses, or untrustworthy associates, you have LifeGate^sm Stress.   So, what about your mental gateways?  How effectively do they protect your Peace Within?  What are your mental gateways allowing in?  Are they welcoming vitality, great relationships, joy, and prosperity?  Over time, you have learned to filter negative thoughts and not allow negative people to disturb your mental/emotional/spiritual peace. No doubt you are always learning better how to do this.

So on the flip side, what are you attracting?  Would you like to learn a simple exercise to attract more?   Today, you can design your LifeGate^sm and install it in your mind.  Ready?  Imagine a beautiful gate, perhaps surrounded by lush plantings, or attached to a lovely wall made of stone.  Make your gate of any material you like.  Look in magazines, in Google Images, and in photo calendars for ideas.  You can always adjust your gate later, in materials, height, width, thickness and color(s).  When you have settled on your initial LifeGate^sm, sit quietly for a few minutes, twice per day, and picture the energies you want flowing into your life through your gateway.  Picture vitality entering.  Picture your vitality arriving, then your prosperity, then any other qualities or energies you would like to have flowing in.  Be in touch with your gratitude, which will strongly support the good conditions flowing in…and staying.

Call up the mental image of your LifeGate^sm often, see it in vivid detail, and see the flow you want coming in through it.  See the gate shut to negativity and takers.   It’s your LifeGate^sm.  You are in charge.  Maintain all the gates of your life for the Highest and Best.  What will give you the best energy and the most of the life you want?  That will center you in Upbeat Living^sm. Now it’s up to you.

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Energy – Peace – Meditation

 

• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com. 
• For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: calendar@kebba.com .

New Year Stress: Starting Your New Year Gently

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Kebba Buckley Button, New Year Stress, stress, UpBeat Living

 © 2016 Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM.  www.kebba.com

Wow!  It’s a whole fresh new year—a gorgeous blank slate.  Happy New Year 2016!  Whoops (sound of brakes screeching)!  Are you happy?  How do you feel right now?  If you need to move the ice pack off your head before you can operate the keyboard, that’s okay.  I’ll wait.  Open your iPad or your iPhone Notes app, or get out that pen and paper.  Let’s take just 5 minutes together, or more, if you find this interesting.  Today is the perfect day to ask yourself some questions:

• Is your body comfortable, your heart full, your mind clear and at ease, your spirit at peace? No one is going to see your answers unless you choose to share, so jot down key words, cryptic phrases, or even write out your feelings at length.
• And what about your life and livingness? Do you have the relationships you want?  Do you feel loved?
• Is money working for you the way/s you would like?
• Are you and the Divine on friendly terms?
• What about your environment? Does it look pleasant to you?  Does the flow work for you?  Or is it dull and messy, the closets overflowing and files impossible to navigate?
• Today, how does your life look, compared to what you envisioned on January 1^st a year ago?

Wait!  Why have I not mentioned RESOLUTIONS yet? I want you to forget the guilt and forget being hard on yourself.  Most say we should jump powerfully into our new year with a renewed sense of discipline and determination.  Today, as a stress management expert, I’m supposed to talk enthusiastically about goals and resolutions, why they work and don’t work, blah blah blah.  But we can cover those tomorrow.  And please come back for that piece.  As usual, my recommendations don’t go where others usually go.  I want your life and work to be as painless and as satisfying as possible.

That’s Upbeat Living.  That’s living in the positive.  That’s living in support of yourself.  Are you in?

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• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com. 
• For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: bookings@kebba.com .