Healthy Happy Loving Life: Get Joy From Gratitude

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Joyful hibiscus tree in the Feng Shui Garden

How many times have you heard people exclaim, “Don’t let anyone steal your joy!”  That’s lovely advice if you started with joy.  But many grew up without joyful relatives or joyful circumstances, and they are not very familiar with joy.

Henri Nouwen said,

Joy does not simply happen to us.  We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day.

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The ultimate answer to finding joy is to practice gratitude.  Start with lovely flowers, for example.  Select some that appeal to you and study them and their unreasonable beauty.  Joy will seep into your consciousness as you begin to weave the wonder of the flowers into your mind and heart.  Feel grateful.  Give thanks, if you are a person of faith.

Now study the clouds during the day, the sunset, and the stars at night.  Give thanks for all this beauty.  Watch a toddler run and laugh.  Feel grateful.  Watch a favorite dog or cat and enjoy its hijinks.  Feel grateful.

I believe very deeply that we are in-joy-meant– that we are designed to be in joy.  So keep practicing these studies in gratitude, and you will develop a joy that no one can steal.  And that’s you being ever more Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: Life Moves On

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20th Century Baker Nursery Sign

I was excited when I realized what I was seeing, right in front of me, at the Arcadia Color Nursery, on 52d Street in Phoenix:  the original Baker Nursery sign!  That day, it happened to be caressed by a fairyland-worthy curtain of weeping, blossoming branches.  In fact, we had just discovered the Arcadia Color Nursery that day (2020).  We were also discovering that members of the Baker family had decided to open this nursery after the closing of the Baker Nursery near 40th St. and Osborn.  The Baker nursery stood there from 1968, when Jim Baker purchased a failing nursery, according to newspaper accounts (Arizona Republic).

This classic sign must have graced that 9-acre property from about 1968 until the nursery closed in 2014.  Jim Baker sold the property to a developer, and now the Villas At Baker Park stand where once there were deeply tanned staff, tall trees, greenhouses and open tables covered with colorful blooms.  My Feng Shui Garden had flowers from Baker Nursery in every season.

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A few days ago, I wrote about our tendency to think of things as good or bad.  While I am still sad whenever I drive past the old Baker Nursery site and see the new homes, I am glad for the family and know they are blessed by the sale income.  So it feels bad that the nursery is gone, and it feels good that the family has hopefully done very well out of the redevelopment.

Today, I got another shock.  Looking for the phone number of Arcadia Color Nursery, I found a note on Yelp that said Moon Valley Nurseries had bought them out, and they closed as of February 1.  A commenter says Arcadia Color Nursery is closed for remodeling.  I do hope Moon Valley revives the site.  And maybe even leaves the iconic sign that says Baker Nursery, that leans against the wall of the outbuilding.

Like any individual plant, life always moves along and begins to look different. As we grieve the Past for a moment, we must then embrace the Now, in order to move into the Future we desire.  And that’s being ever more Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: 3 Way Cure for Boredom

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Can we agree that boredom has been a huge issue everywhere in the last year?  So today I’m sharing an evergreen article from ezinearticles.com, by Linda H. Hudson. Her article is titled, “3 Way Cure for Boredom”.  Other than the photos, which I selected,  I am sharing her article in its entirety.  

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3 Way Cure For Boredom

Expert Author Linda M Hudson

Here are 3 suggestions on how to cure boredom when you are stuck and seeking something to do:

Boredom Killer #1. Get out of the house. This is the oldest boredom antidote in the book right here.

I sometimes find that I get bored when I’m in the house. If your boredom started in the house, you must be tired of staring at the same stuff. So the instinctive thing to do is just get get out!

Get yourself to a friends house or to the mall, try the park. Take the dog out if you have one. You know damn well he’s been holding his crap in since you got home – he’ll love you forever if you walk him! Just do something so you can to take yourself away from the region of your house you got bored in.

Cure My Boredom Tip #2. Don’t come back for at-least one hour!

If somehow you can get away from your ‘place of boredom’ for that one hour, then I guarantee that area won’t be such a bore-zone when you get back! Stay away for at least that amount of time. This is just enough to make the place you got bored in, somewhat ‘fresh’ again.

Cure For Boredom #3. Make up something fun to do!

What do you like doing think? Thinking is a cure for boredom in itself but that’s a article for another time. Back to the subject if you play a sport, find a friend or acquaintance who’s up for a game. It doesn’t really have to be anything competitive but if competitiveness is what motivates you do it! A quick game of football hacky-sack, basketball, soccer,…these things can kick boredom in the face!

The social aspect of this is very important. Just being able to see a face you haven’t seen for a while oh let’s say 2 days or so should be enough to un-bore you, a good friend can be a great boredom killer.

There are alternative to killing boredom other than getting out of the house. I’ll list the top three.

* The Computer= Gaming+ The Internet: umm… you can’t really go wrong there. Unless you’re the ‘Internet God’ then I guess you’ve seen it all, but still you can find all types of interesting things to help you cure boredom.

* Console Gaming: You have the Xbox 360, PS3 and the Wii pick your boredom killer either one them could satisfy you for hours maybe even days or weeks hell months even.

* Watch A Movie: I prefer the action and horror genre as my boredom cure of choice but whatever type of movie stimulates your mind should be a suitable boredom antidote.

The thing is you have to try and break away for your everyday routine once in a while it’s the only sure fire way to cure boredom do different than what you’ve been doing to get bored, you’ll find out how to concoct the perfect boredom antidote for yourself!

Perhaps you could beat your boredom by Finding a Hobby? That link is to an article about discovering new hobby ideas.

If all else fails check out my site Cure-My-Boredom.comit has all sorts of stuff to keep your brain from numbing. Shameless plug? I know but heck I made that site cause I was bored and typed this article for that same reason. The point I’m trying to make is when your bored just do something! It’s as simple as that.

Expect more articles in the near future.

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So, how about you?  Have you been experiencing boredom in the last year?  Do any of these ideas sound good, or are you already using them and having success?  What else are you doing to combat boredom?  The more engaged with life and people you stay, the more you’ll be in the realm of Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: Good Thing or Bad Thing?

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We tend to think of things as good or bad— events, experiences, weather, choices– but do we know for sure?  And how would we define “good” and “bad“?  My Chinese locust tree buds and leafs out enthusiastically most of the year, here in Phoenix.  It provides lush shade for parking in the late afternoon.  But suddenly, in about December, all the leaves turn brown and fall away!  They do this over a 3-day period.  You’re thinking, “Oh no! This is bad! Is the tree sick?” But then, equally suddenly, about 6 weeks later, the tree begins to bud and leaf out again. And you never know exactly when this will happen.

There is a timeless parable about a Chinese rice farmer, that poses this question of good things vs. bad things.    Here is Alan Watt’s summary of the story:

Once upon a time there was a Chinese farmer whose horse ran away. That evening, all of his neighbors came around to commiserate. They said, “We are so sorry to hear your horse has run away. This is most unfortunate.” The farmer said, “Maybe.” The next day the horse came back bringing seven wild horses with it, and in the evening everybody came back and said, “Oh, isn’t that lucky. What a great turn of events. You now have eight horses!” The farmer again said, “Maybe.”

The following day his son tried to break one of the horses, and while riding it, he was thrown and broke his leg. The neighbors then said, “Oh dear, that’s too bad,” and the farmer responded, “Maybe.” The next day the conscription officers came around to conscript people into the army, and they rejected his son because he had a broken leg. Again all the neighbors came around and said, “Isn’t that great!” Again, he said, “Maybe.”

The whole process of nature is an integrated process of immense complexity, and it’s really impossible to tell whether anything that happens in it is good or bad — because you never know what will be the consequence of the misfortune; or, you never know what will be the consequences of good fortune.

As each thing happened, the Chinese farmer declined to judge its nature.  He simply accepted what was.  In today’s terms, he gave no energy to judging or reacting to each event.  He remained calm and allowed events to unfold.  I have heard a version in which the farmer always says, “Good thing, bad thing–who knows?” and another in which he says, “We’ll see.”  I have many times seen people judge and assume, then get upset and burn a lot of energy– only to find out events were unfolding in their favor.  Where do you want to put your energy?

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Have you ever caught yourself “rushing to judgement” and realized you had totally wasted your frustration energy?  How about the times when you thought you had lost your keys, you panicked, and at last, the keys showed up near where they should have been?  Choose where you put your energy, judge not, and you’ll be more and more  Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: Melt Stress by Holding Your Fingers

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Today I’m sharing a very powerful, yet simple to use, method for deep stress relief.  It’s sourced in oriental medicine.  I urge you to play with this method for at least 10 minutes after reading this article.  I promise you will feel much calmer and more harmonious after just 10 minutes.  Here’s the background and the technique.

In the 1980’s, when I first began studying oriental medicine, I didn’t know that was what I was doing.  I had found my way into a class on Jin Shin Jyutsu®, an ancient healing art rebirthed by a Japanese man, Jiro Murai, in the early 1900’s.  One of the few direct students of Jiro Murai, the late Mary Iino Burmeister, was my teacher.  I had been hampered by a multimonth ankle injury that would “heal” and then begin to hurt severely again. Two orthopedists were unable to clear this injury.

Finally, friends sent me to a holistic practitioner, who would place his fingertips lightly on pairs of points on my fully clothed body, while my pain seemed to melt away.  I learned this was Jin Shin Jyutsu.  After these sessions, I also felt more cheerful and vital.  I asked the therapist for homework, and he gladly taught me a few points to do at home. My second orthopedist knew nothing of the Jin Shin work I was receiving, and he was very excited that the ankle finally healed.  Meanwhile, the therapist let me know where I could get Jin Shin training.  I gradually learned it was based on the Tao and a branch of oriental medical tradition.

I learned that different types of stress accumulate in different circuits and locations in the body.  Some call the circuits “meridians”.  Some think of “the nervous system”, the physical neural network in the body, which circulates impulses around the body, and to and from the brain.  I learned that we can correct the flow of energy in the body, by going to and holding spots Jin Shin Jyutsu calls “Safety Energy Locks”, and I call “access points to the nervous system”, or sometimes, “trigger points”.  While a diagram of the body’s “meridians” will not look quite like a diagram of the physical nervous system, there are clear parallels.

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Even without a holistic therapist, there is much you can do to harmonize yourself, working from the fingers.  Five major emotions, or attitudes, are reflected in the fingers:  the thumb for worry, the forefinger for fear, the middle finger for anger, the ring finger for sadness, and the little finger for pretense or “too much to do”.  Look at your fingers now.  Are you seeing bends, thickening of joints, or repeated injuries to the same finger?  Ask yourself if your stress profile matches the key emotion for that finger.  Now gently “hug” the distressed finger with the other hand, for 5 minutes, and feel the body and mind relax.

In meetings, at movies, or on airplanes, why not quietly give the whole body a treatment, using finger holds and breath?  Hold each finger, at its base, in sequence, while exhaling and inhaling three times.  Spend extra time on the fingers where you feel pounding pulses.  When you have treated from left thumb to little finger, touch your right fingertips to the left palm, and take three breaths at this hold.  Then continue, treating the fingers of the right hand, plus the right center palm.  If you lose your “place”, just start again anywhere, and repeat as much as you like.

In the thirty years since I took up Jin Shin Jyutsu, I have seen success with every condition to which this art is applied.  The power of the fingers and points is astonishing.  This art is now a key area of my holistic healing practice.

Now, using your own circuits, you can empower yourself and melt your stress.  Get a “finger on the pulse” of your attitudes and fatigue.  Feel the power of stress relief using finger holds.  Profound relaxation and relief are yours, if you will simply play with this method.  And notice you are now more Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: One Word Chants to Change Your Life

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In my holistic healing practice, I often hear people say they cannot concentrate.  They cannot quiet “the monkey mind”– chatter chatter chatter!  But what if you could say one word that would magically bring your thoughts to one point and allow you to concentrate?  Sometimes, the briefest communication is the most effective.  I recommend this One Word Chantsm, repeated many times if necessary:  FOCUS. You are kindly giving direction to your inner mind.  Just try it. You’ll be amazed.

Clients sometimes tell me they are so wound up that they are unable to let go, even when they are in a session, receiving energy therapy or a massage.  They realize they are tight or even rigid, lying on the cushy, soft, luxurious therapy table, receiving from a favorite therapist.  They realize they should be sinking into a mellow state, but they aren’t.  In this situation, I recommend this one word chant, repeated frequently: RELAX.  Sometimes a second One Word Chant compliments RELAX, and that is RECEIVE.  Try alternating these.  You must be somewhat relaxed, at least, to be open to receiving. So these two One Word Chants fit together well.

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Does a single word sound too simple to change your life?  Have you ever called out “HELP”?  Or “AMEN”?  Just try it.  Using a One Word Chant is a new habit, and it’s one that will help you build the life you want.  Your life is precious.  And you only go around once, at least this trip.Support yourself with a One Word Chantsm, to be more and more Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: What Causes Your Stress?

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What’s stressing you out?

As a stress management expert and holistic guide, I hear people describe their stress every day. What they are usually describing are the stress symptoms, not the causes– headaches, stiff necks, back pain, legs that ache, feet that burn… the list goes on and on.  They are often grasping a body part that hurts, or rubbing points on the face.  Many of these people didn’t realize they “had stress” until something began to hurt.  Their bodies tell them when stress causes are too much.

A second group I talk with are the ones looking for strategies and solutions for the causes of their stress: conflicts, unmet needs, and circumstances.  Here’s a chart of these causes:

Stress Sources

CONFLICTS

Difficult People

Available Time vs. Needs and Goals

Available Resources vs. Needs and Goals

Personal Values vs. Values of an Authority Figure

Worry/Anxiety About These

UNMET NEEDS

Unmet Emotional Needs

Unmet Physical Needs

Pain, Chronic Health Conditions

Limited Body Mobility

Old Emotional Agendas

Feeling Limited Or Trapped

UNEXPECTED EXTERNAL FACTORS

Significant Personal Loss (Death of Spouse or Child, Job Loss)

Significant Community Loss (9/11 Attacks, Superstorm Sandy, COVID19 Pandemic)

Do you have any of these stress sources in your life?  Of course you do!  We all do.  What we need to keep in mind is that stress symptoms in the body can turn into conditions and diseases.  In Oriental medicine, this is area-specific; each emotion affects a particular part of the body.

 

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One of my mentors said this:

“Stress is probably ultimately the underlying cause of all disease.”

 –Dr. Gladys T. McGarey MD, MD(H)

Medical research has proven that stress is a factor in human health conditions, especially depression, heart disease, HIV/Aids, and some virally caused cancers. In a review of a range of medical studies, psychology professor Sheldon Cohen, of Carnegie Melon University, found two pathways by which stress might increase how sick we are.

Stress creates changes that may, in turn, cause or increase illness.

First, stressed people don’t sleep well and are less likely to take care of themselves and follow doctors’ orders.  Second, stress impacts the body’s endocrine system, which should be releasing certain patterns of hormones that affect the immune system and inflammation.  Stress creates changes that create changes that may, in turn, cause or increase illness.  Cohen found a strong relationship between stress and depression, especially in people with strong social stress factors, like a divorce or the death of someone they love.  Workplace stress and other forms of chronic stress, however, were more likely to contribute to heart disease.  Since 2000, a number of studies have also shown that there is a link between stress and HIV/AIDS.  No doubt upcoming studies will relate stress and COVID19 symptomology.

Given the Pandemic we are living with currently, it seems wise to manage our stress as well as we can, to stay as well as we can.  There are so many tools for dissolving stress and its symptoms: attitude/philosophy, developing personal peace, breathwork, diet, exercise, meditation, energy therapies. We’ll discuss those more in upcoming articles.

Stress can be costly, and this is your life!  Wouldn’t you rather be Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm?  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: Message Mugs We Love

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I was excited to get all the responses to my favorite-mug sharing a few days ago! I want you to have the healthiest, happiest life that you absolutely love!  And mugs can be a supporting player in that life. Mugs comfort and reassure.  They transport liquids that wake us up, that revive us, and that warm us up.  Sometimes a mug even gets commandeered to hold soup, chili, or cereal.  Even pencils!

Some mugs remind us of a place we’ve been, like the Starbucks in Cabo San Lucas.  Or the street fair where we found the array of lovingly hand-crafted ceramicware.  Some mugs are simply beautiful, and they create points of color in our office or living room.  There are mugs that represent a company or candidate, or even a city.  I once received a mug that said, “Genuine Souvenir of Israel”; on the bottom, it said “Made in Hong Kong”.  Plus, it was the ugliest mug I have ever seen.

One of the greatest delights of a mug is that it may remind us of something important– a value, a goal, a mood we aspire to.  These are the message mugs.  Today, I’m sharing 5 of my favorite message mugs, collected over the years.

  1. The first I actually found in a Walgreens.  In 5 words, it reminds us that we all have limits, and our job is to do our best, that’s all: DON’T STRESS- DO YOUR BEST.  Great advice for anyone.

2.  For this red mug, the message is in the shape.  It’s a heart!  This was unusual when I found it about 10 years ago.  When I sip from this mug, I remember all the people who love me, and I remember God’s love.  (To find a heart-shaped mug today, just ask your search bar– there are hundreds now.)

3.  This is the mug that reminds you your burdens are not yours alone.  God is taking care of things on a much more profound level than we can imagine.  We are only responsible to do our part.  The reverse side of this mug reminds us of Ps. 55:22, “Cast all your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you.” (These are available online in several styles.)

4.  The message of this one is clear.  It also reminds me of all the love that surrounds us all the time. It’s from an Ellen Degeneres design line and probably still available.

5.  This last one is from Taliesin, the Frank Lloyd Wright school of architecture.  “Love is the virtue of the heart…Decision the virtue of the will.”  I like to drink from this one when I want to feel strong and motivated.

 

So there you have some of my favorite message mugs. Do you have some that are meaningful or motivating for you?  There are so many opportunities to feel bad in this world.  Use the tools you have to comfort, uplift, and motivate yourself to create the life you want!

The more we are in step with the positive and the supportive, the inspirational and the motivational, the more we find we’re Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm The choices are up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: We Must Let Go of the Past

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In grad school, I had a cohort who was very productive.  Each morning, he would come in, get coffee, and make a prioritized list of everything he needed to take care of for the day.  But here was his special secret: at the end of the day, he would tear up and throw away the list!  He was a master at this principle: we must let go of the past.  He did what he could and then he would let the rest go.

Years ago, when my uncle died, his spirit came to me the next day, saying “forget the past!”  I was so astonished.  First, how could a spirit be speaking to me at all?  (That’s another article.)  He was almost shouting, as if to say, “I have just one minute to speak through the Veil, there is one secret I want to share, and this is it!”  I have puzzled over that short warning many times.  I do love to ponder and analyze, and too often I wonder Where They Are Now, both old school friends and famous people.  But wouldn’t my energy be better spent on the warp and woof of my own life and that of my husband?  On cultivating the fun, friends and clients I have now? On enjoying the relationships and projects I have now? On tending The Feng Shui Garden?

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We can’t live in both the present and the past at the same time.  Consider the stages a butterfly goes through, until it shows up on our flowers as that delicate flying thing: it’s an egg, a caterpillar, a pupa/chrysalis, and then…an emergent beautiful creature that can fly.  It’s doubtful the butterfly ponders how lovely it would be to go back to a pre-flight form.  It can only be one form, and it can only move forward in its life, never backward.

So it must be with the former relationships, people, and perhaps habits, of the past. You can’t have the new if you don’t let go of the old.  So:  where is your energy going each day? We must let go of the past to be thinking about the Now.  All those relationships that went by the wayside–there were reasons.  You are different now.  There are many new friendships waiting to be forged, new projects to be fulfilled, new goals to be met.

Now is now, and to live in the Now, we need to keep releasing the Past and turning our attention back to present things, present questions, present love, present enjoyment. The more we seek our best balance, let go of the Past and focus on the Now, the more we find we’re Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: Crying is Good!

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Crying is natural.  Babies cry when they are hungry, need a change, or simply want to be held; we’ve all seen those tiny faces crumble as the crying comes.  People cry at funerals because they are sad.  People cry because they are happily shocked, like when a young puppy is handed to them.  People cry when they are frustrated, as when they’ve just found out they’ve been betrayed.  People cry for joy, as when their beloved just proposed.   And people cry in relief, as when they have just come through tough challenges, now over.  An elephant in India (#RajuTheElephant) was seen clearly crying when its shackles of many years were removed, and good people relocated him to an elephant sanctuary; Raju is doing wonderfully, 6 years after his rescue. I cry with compassion and relief when I think of his journey and his final rescue and retirement.

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The eyes tear up for non-emotional reasons also.  The tear glands release reflex tears when you get something irritating in your eye.  And the routine moisturizing tears are called basal tears.

Science has found that other tears have different compositions, depending on why the person is crying.  According to WebMD, UCLA clinical psychologist Stephen Sideroff says, “Crying activates the body in a healthy way…[stress] Stress “tightens muscles and heightens tension, so when you cry you release some of that,” Sideroff says. “[Crying] activates the parasympathetic nervous system and restores the body to a state of balance.”  And we always want to seek the best balance!

Seeing a movie that touches us can cause tears to well up.  I’ve been in theaters where everyone was clearly crying, or nearly crying.  In Japan, there are even clubs where people go to cry together.  Some find crying with others makes it easier to cry their own tears.  Is that true for you?

The more we seek our best balance, release the unhappy and take in the happy, the more we find we’re Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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