apologizing, choices, energy, Feng Shui, Guilt, mistakes, stress, Stress Management
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From the time we were very young, we have understood the power of “OOPS!” Sometimes tiny children, who otherwise only know the word “NO”, have caught onto the idea of “OOPS!”, the thing that is a mistake. Sometimes the glass of juice is knocked over. Sometimes the cat goes in the garbage can. Sometimes candy gets melded with a small toy, and the toy can’t operate right now, with all that sticky goodness all over it. We parent types spin around fast when we hear a tiny voice saying “OOPS!” or even “UH_OH!” Those are our clues to come running and fix the mistake.
However, for adults, we may sometimes make mistakes we don’t even realize are mistakes. I will share two of mine now. Fortunately, I realized they were mistakes!
I was visiting my mother in Denver, while she had some serious surgery. I was treating her with energy healing, ahead of and after the surgery, to shorten the recovery time–which worked! I was staying in her house, for a week, while she was in the hospital 3 minutes away. MISTAKE #1: I realized Mom had a magazine photo cutout, taped to her bedroom wall, slightly rumpled, of polar bears relaxing together. I thought it would look so much nicer in a frame. So out of love and good intentions, I purchased a frame and put the relaxing polar bears in it (as below- original photographer unknown). I then found what I thought was a great spot, and I placed the framed photo there. I was so pleased!
But when Mom came home, and I proudly showed her my gift of love, she said, “but before, they were right where I could see them every morning when I woke up. They lifted my day.” OOPS! Fortunately, I was able to not only apologize and explain myself, but to correct this mistake. And after Mom passed, the Estate gave me the polar bears. Now they are in my bedroom, and I see them, with love, when I wake up each morning.
During that same week of Mom’s surgery, I made MISTAKE #2, which revolved around furniture. Sometimes, you cannot repair a mistake, but you can apologize. Mom’s house was very clean and neat. I knew it was going on the market soon. So, being familiar with Feng Shui, I began absent-mindedly adjusting the positions of the living room chairs. They had been placed to roughly form a social square, but at strange angles. I started correcting them to face in the 8 Feng Shui Directions, and I got into a snarl. I got to a point where two lamps could no longer be plugged in, so there was no local lighting in that area. OH maybe that’s why the arrangement had been done the way it had? And there were a couple of other problems I created with my well-meaning, helpful efforts. I tried to put the furniture back and simply could not restore the strange angles. OOPS! I did the best I could, but I felt terribly guilty. I was due back at the hospital, and I confessed all to Mom, saying I was out of line and I was SO SORRY. I was astonished that she waved her hand casually and said, “oh, that’s fine—don’t worry about it.” She really was unconcerned. Whew!
By the way, I did a clearly Good Thing that week. I found the correct color paint in the basement and repainted a wall that somehow was only half painted. Score 1 for helpfulness!
So when you make a mistake, do you admit it and try to fix it? And apologize? If you don’t do these things, you’ll feel guilty. And guilt depresses the parasympathetic nervous system for hours after one guilty thought! So handle it as well as you can, for both good relationships and good health. And that will be you, ever more Healthy Happy and Loving Lifesm!
In my daily series this month, I hope to strongly convince you that positive living is the way to be, and that it results in greater health and happiness and joy. Plus, it’s more fun! And that would be me and you, shaping our lives anew, ever more Healthy Happy and Loving Lifesm!
Kebba Buckley Button is a stress/energy management expert, holistic healer, and award-winning author who celebrates life. She has a longtime natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within: Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office. They are also available in Scottsdale, Arizona, at the Franciscan Renewal Center bookstore and at the bookstore at St. Barnabas on the Desert Episcopal Church. Or simply email us to order: email@example.com . Thank you!