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Let’s take a fresh look at Lateness Stress. Face it: when you’re late, the other party is stressed, and you are stressed, and the whole situation is stressful and undesirable. In “Lateness Stress: You?” (http://wp.me/pw4HM-rQ), I posed a few questions to help people focus on the role of lateness in their lives. On the positive side, what are you teaching people about yourself when you are regularly on time? When you always do what you say you will do, when you said you would, or sooner, what do other people know about you? They know they can count on you. Especially in this time of constant, rapid change, that separates you from the crowd!
If you are often late, a Chronically Late Person (CLP), you may be taken as a self-centered person who does not have regard for the person you are meeting or the organization you are providing products for. Socially, if you are late for coffee dates and theater dates, you give the message that the other person is just not as important as whatever else is in your day. And what about being late to that board meeting, with a publicly advertised start time, when you are a member of the Board? Should everyone wait for you? Some people wait for 15 minutes and will never schedule with the CLP again.
Certainly, there are occasional events that interrupt even the most reliable, organized, timely people. My friend Mollie Kidari is a guru of youth programs, both local and international. Mollie says, “Sometimes lateness is being a single mom with three daughters with three different agendas, and three different crises that can happen before getting in the car in the morning.” I get that. And if you are normally on-time and prepared, people will forgive an occasional late arrival.
Do you mind being seen as a CLP? Or would you like people to think of you as a reliable person, who keeps his/her agreements? Can you change to timely habits? Anyone can, if they want to. Choose how you show up and show out, and people will respond well.
And that would be you, ever more Healthy Happy and Loving Lifesm!
Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert, holistic healer, and award-winning author who celebrates life. She has a longtime natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You , Inspirations for Peace Within: Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. The books are shown and reviewed on Amazon (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br) and can be obtained through Kebba’s office ($10 pdf, $20 softback–includes postage). Our email/PayPal is: email@example.com .