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Healthy Happy Loving Life: Inspiration from Fun Olympics

09 Monday Aug 2021

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Olympics, Spennylympics

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Every day, I look for good news that I can both enjoy and share; good news is good for us!  It shifts our brain and body chemistry.  It helps us feel better and stronger, and our body-mind-spirit systems work better.  I search for reports of progress by research scientists, forward steps by nonprofits, the latest child inventors and prodigies, the youngest new member of Mensa, animals saving humans, fish returning to the Hudson River… You get the idea.

So today, I’m sharing a perfect story:  a couple in Britain, Stuart Bates and Charlotte Nichols, performing Olympic-type games on their own.  To raise money for ALS research.  Now, if you are wondering what ALS is, let’s hope neither you nor anyone you know ever gets it.  Its full name is Amyotropic Lateral Sclerosis, also known in the UK as Motor Neurone Disease, also known as Lou Gehrig’s Disease, after the famous baseball player who suffered from it.  Unfortunately, ALS is a progressive nerve disease that will eventually kill the sufferer, after a few months of intense pain.  It’s horrible.  Stuart Bates’s brother, Spencer “Spenny” Bates, died of ALS in 2011.

So along came the 2021 Olympics, with 17 days of games. And Stuart Bates and Charlotte Nichols decided to play 96 of those, just the two of them, with coaches and friends cheering them on.  Every major news outlet covered this audacious yet cheerful project.  According to The Guardian, the couple raised over 100,000 pounds or about $180,000, far beyond their original goal of raising 10,000 pounds.  Stuart and Spenny Bates’ mother commented to CBS News that Spenny was “probably laughing his socks off in Heaven.”  In an interview with Studio London, Stuart Bates said real Olympians were texting their friendship and support from Tokyo. Professionals from many sports fields contributed their support, and for team sports, such as (British) football and rowing, the couple competed within professional teams.

If you want to help celebrate the Spennylympics and the future conquering of ALS, you can give to the cause at Spennylympics.com or mndassociation.org .

Do you feel inspired now?  Thinking of some positive projects of your own? Well, that’s you, being ever more Healthy Happy and Loving Lifesm!


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is an energy transformation expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life. She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: Life Moves On

01 Monday Mar 2021

Posted by Kebba Buckley Button in Arcadia Color Nursery, At choice, bad thing, Baker Nursery, Embrace the Now, good thing, good thing or bad thing, Kebba Buckley Button, living beyond, stress, the life you want

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20th Century Baker Nursery Sign

I was excited when I realized what I was seeing, right in front of me, at the Arcadia Color Nursery, on 52d Street in Phoenix:  the original Baker Nursery sign!  That day, it happened to be caressed by a fairyland-worthy curtain of weeping, blossoming branches.  In fact, we had just discovered the Arcadia Color Nursery that day (2020).  We were also discovering that members of the Baker family had decided to open this nursery after the closing of the Baker Nursery near 40th St. and Osborn.  The Baker nursery stood there from 1968, when Jim Baker purchased a failing nursery, according to newspaper accounts (Arizona Republic).

This classic sign must have graced that 9-acre property from about 1968 until the nursery closed in 2014.  Jim Baker sold the property to a developer, and now the Villas At Baker Park stand where once there were deeply tanned staff, tall trees, greenhouses and open tables covered with colorful blooms.  My Feng Shui Garden had flowers from Baker Nursery in every season.

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A few days ago, I wrote about our tendency to think of things as good or bad.  While I am still sad whenever I drive past the old Baker Nursery site and see the new homes, I am glad for the family and know they are blessed by the sale income.  So it feels bad that the nursery is gone, and it feels good that the family has hopefully done very well out of the redevelopment.

Today, I got another shock.  Looking for the phone number of Arcadia Color Nursery, I found a note on Yelp that said Moon Valley Nurseries had bought them out, and they closed as of February 1.  A commenter says Arcadia Color Nursery is closed for remodeling.  I do hope Moon Valley revives the site.  And maybe even leaves the iconic sign that says Baker Nursery, that leans against the wall of the outbuilding.

Like any individual plant, life always moves along and begins to look different. As we grieve the Past for a moment, we must then embrace the Now, in order to move into the Future we desire.  And that’s being ever more Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: 3 Way Cure for Boredom

28 Sunday Feb 2021

Posted by Kebba Buckley Button in At choice, bored, boredom, Kebba Buckley Button, living beyond, stress, Stress Management, the life you want

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Can we agree that boredom has been a huge issue everywhere in the last year?  So today I’m sharing an evergreen article from ezinearticles.com, by Linda H. Hudson. Her article is titled, “3 Way Cure for Boredom”.  Other than the photos, which I selected,  I am sharing her article in its entirety.  

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3 Way Cure For Boredom

By Linda M Hudson, Submitted On August 06, 2010

Expert Author Linda M Hudson

Here are 3 suggestions on how to cure boredom when you are stuck and seeking something to do:

Boredom Killer #1. Get out of the house. This is the oldest boredom antidote in the book right here.

I sometimes find that I get bored when I’m in the house. If your boredom started in the house, you must be tired of staring at the same stuff. So the instinctive thing to do is just get get out!

Get yourself to a friends house or to the mall, try the park. Take the dog out if you have one. You know damn well he’s been holding his crap in since you got home – he’ll love you forever if you walk him! Just do something so you can to take yourself away from the region of your house you got bored in.

Cure My Boredom Tip #2. Don’t come back for at-least one hour!

If somehow you can get away from your ‘place of boredom’ for that one hour, then I guarantee that area won’t be such a bore-zone when you get back! Stay away for at least that amount of time. This is just enough to make the place you got bored in, somewhat ‘fresh’ again.

Cure For Boredom #3. Make up something fun to do!

What do you like doing think? Thinking is a cure for boredom in itself but that’s a article for another time. Back to the subject if you play a sport, find a friend or acquaintance who’s up for a game. It doesn’t really have to be anything competitive but if competitiveness is what motivates you do it! A quick game of football hacky-sack, basketball, soccer,…these things can kick boredom in the face!

The social aspect of this is very important. Just being able to see a face you haven’t seen for a while oh let’s say 2 days or so should be enough to un-bore you, a good friend can be a great boredom killer.

There are alternative to killing boredom other than getting out of the house. I’ll list the top three.

* The Computer= Gaming+ The Internet: umm… you can’t really go wrong there. Unless you’re the ‘Internet God’ then I guess you’ve seen it all, but still you can find all types of interesting things to help you cure boredom.

* Console Gaming: You have the Xbox 360, PS3 and the Wii pick your boredom killer either one them could satisfy you for hours maybe even days or weeks hell months even.

* Watch A Movie: I prefer the action and horror genre as my boredom cure of choice but whatever type of movie stimulates your mind should be a suitable boredom antidote.

The thing is you have to try and break away for your everyday routine once in a while it’s the only sure fire way to cure boredom do different than what you’ve been doing to get bored, you’ll find out how to concoct the perfect boredom antidote for yourself!

Perhaps you could beat your boredom by Finding a Hobby? That link is to an article about discovering new hobby ideas.

If all else fails check out my site Cure-My-Boredom.comit has all sorts of stuff to keep your brain from numbing. Shameless plug? I know but heck I made that site cause I was bored and typed this article for that same reason. The point I’m trying to make is when your bored just do something! It’s as simple as that.

Expect more articles in the near future.

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So, how about you?  Have you been experiencing boredom in the last year?  Do any of these ideas sound good, or are you already using them and having success?  What else are you doing to combat boredom?  The more engaged with life and people you stay, the more you’ll be in the realm of Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: Good Thing or Bad Thing?

27 Saturday Feb 2021

Posted by Kebba Buckley Button in At choice, bad thing, Conflicts, good thing, good thing or bad thing, judge not, judging, Kebba Buckley Button, living beyond, stress, Stress Management, the life you want

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We tend to think of things as good or bad— events, experiences, weather, choices– but do we know for sure?  And how would we define “good” and “bad“?  My Chinese locust tree buds and leafs out enthusiastically most of the year, here in Phoenix.  It provides lush shade for parking in the late afternoon.  But suddenly, in about December, all the leaves turn brown and fall away!  They do this over a 3-day period.  You’re thinking, “Oh no! This is bad! Is the tree sick?” But then, equally suddenly, about 6 weeks later, the tree begins to bud and leaf out again. And you never know exactly when this will happen.

There is a timeless parable about a Chinese rice farmer, that poses this question of good things vs. bad things.    Here is Alan Watt’s summary of the story:

Once upon a time there was a Chinese farmer whose horse ran away. That evening, all of his neighbors came around to commiserate. They said, “We are so sorry to hear your horse has run away. This is most unfortunate.” The farmer said, “Maybe.” The next day the horse came back bringing seven wild horses with it, and in the evening everybody came back and said, “Oh, isn’t that lucky. What a great turn of events. You now have eight horses!” The farmer again said, “Maybe.”

The following day his son tried to break one of the horses, and while riding it, he was thrown and broke his leg. The neighbors then said, “Oh dear, that’s too bad,” and the farmer responded, “Maybe.” The next day the conscription officers came around to conscript people into the army, and they rejected his son because he had a broken leg. Again all the neighbors came around and said, “Isn’t that great!” Again, he said, “Maybe.”

The whole process of nature is an integrated process of immense complexity, and it’s really impossible to tell whether anything that happens in it is good or bad — because you never know what will be the consequence of the misfortune; or, you never know what will be the consequences of good fortune.

As each thing happened, the Chinese farmer declined to judge its nature.  He simply accepted what was.  In today’s terms, he gave no energy to judging or reacting to each event.  He remained calm and allowed events to unfold.  I have heard a version in which the farmer always says, “Good thing, bad thing–who knows?” and another in which he says, “We’ll see.”  I have many times seen people judge and assume, then get upset and burn a lot of energy– only to find out events were unfolding in their favor.  Where do you want to put your energy?

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Have you ever caught yourself “rushing to judgement” and realized you had totally wasted your frustration energy?  How about the times when you thought you had lost your keys, you panicked, and at last, the keys showed up near where they should have been?  Choose where you put your energy, judge not, and you’ll be more and more  Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: One Word Chants to Change Your Life

25 Thursday Feb 2021

Posted by Kebba Buckley Button in At choice, Conflicts, Health, Kebba Buckley Button, living beyond, One Word Chants, receive, stress, Stress Management, the life you want

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In my holistic healing practice, I often hear people say they cannot concentrate.  They cannot quiet “the monkey mind”– chatter chatter chatter!  But what if you could say one word that would magically bring your thoughts to one point and allow you to concentrate?  Sometimes, the briefest communication is the most effective.  I recommend this One Word Chantsm, repeated many times if necessary:  FOCUS. You are kindly giving direction to your inner mind.  Just try it. You’ll be amazed.

Clients sometimes tell me they are so wound up that they are unable to let go, even when they are in a session, receiving energy therapy or a massage.  They realize they are tight or even rigid, lying on the cushy, soft, luxurious therapy table, receiving from a favorite therapist.  They realize they should be sinking into a mellow state, but they aren’t.  In this situation, I recommend this one word chant, repeated frequently: RELAX.  Sometimes a second One Word Chant compliments RELAX, and that is RECEIVE.  Try alternating these.  You must be somewhat relaxed, at least, to be open to receiving. So these two One Word Chants fit together well.

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Does a single word sound too simple to change your life?  Have you ever called out “HELP”?  Or “AMEN”?  Just try it.  Using a One Word Chant is a new habit, and it’s one that will help you build the life you want.  Your life is precious.  And you only go around once, at least this trip.Support yourself with a One Word Chantsm, to be more and more Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: What Causes Your Stress?

24 Wednesday Feb 2021

Posted by Kebba Buckley Button in At choice, Conflicts, Health, HIV/AIDS, living beyond, stress, Stress causes, Stress Management, Surviving duress, surviving emotional disaster, Surviving extreme events, the life you want, Uncategorized, UpBeat Living

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What’s stressing you out?

As a stress management expert and holistic guide, I hear people describe their stress every day. What they are usually describing are the stress symptoms, not the causes– headaches, stiff necks, back pain, legs that ache, feet that burn… the list goes on and on.  They are often grasping a body part that hurts, or rubbing points on the face.  Many of these people didn’t realize they “had stress” until something began to hurt.  Their bodies tell them when stress causes are too much.

A second group I talk with are the ones looking for strategies and solutions for the causes of their stress: conflicts, unmet needs, and circumstances.  Here’s a chart of these causes:

Stress Sources

CONFLICTS

Difficult People

Available Time vs. Needs and Goals

Available Resources vs. Needs and Goals

Personal Values vs. Values of an Authority Figure

Worry/Anxiety About These

UNMET NEEDS

Unmet Emotional Needs

Unmet Physical Needs

Pain, Chronic Health Conditions

Limited Body Mobility

Old Emotional Agendas

Feeling Limited Or Trapped

UNEXPECTED EXTERNAL FACTORS

Significant Personal Loss (Death of Spouse or Child, Job Loss)

Significant Community Loss (9/11 Attacks, Superstorm Sandy, COVID19 Pandemic)

Do you have any of these stress sources in your life?  Of course you do!  We all do.  What we need to keep in mind is that stress symptoms in the body can turn into conditions and diseases.  In Oriental medicine, this is area-specific; each emotion affects a particular part of the body.

 

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One of my mentors said this:

“Stress is probably ultimately the underlying cause of all disease.”

 –Dr. Gladys T. McGarey MD, MD(H)

Medical research has proven that stress is a factor in human health conditions, especially depression, heart disease, HIV/Aids, and some virally caused cancers. In a review of a range of medical studies, psychology professor Sheldon Cohen, of Carnegie Melon University, found two pathways by which stress might increase how sick we are.

Stress creates changes that may, in turn, cause or increase illness.

First, stressed people don’t sleep well and are less likely to take care of themselves and follow doctors’ orders.  Second, stress impacts the body’s endocrine system, which should be releasing certain patterns of hormones that affect the immune system and inflammation.  Stress creates changes that create changes that may, in turn, cause or increase illness.  Cohen found a strong relationship between stress and depression, especially in people with strong social stress factors, like a divorce or the death of someone they love.  Workplace stress and other forms of chronic stress, however, were more likely to contribute to heart disease.  Since 2000, a number of studies have also shown that there is a link between stress and HIV/AIDS.  No doubt upcoming studies will relate stress and COVID19 symptomology.

Given the Pandemic we are living with currently, it seems wise to manage our stress as well as we can, to stay as well as we can.  There are so many tools for dissolving stress and its symptoms: attitude/philosophy, developing personal peace, breathwork, diet, exercise, meditation, energy therapies. We’ll discuss those more in upcoming articles.

Stress can be costly, and this is your life!  Wouldn’t you rather be Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm?  It’s up to you!  


Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: Sugar as an Energy Food– Not!

07 Monday Dec 2020

Posted by Kebba Buckley Button in dopamine, Effective Living, Happy Healthy Loving Life, Kebba Buckley Button, stress, sugar, sugar is an energy food, the life you want, yang food, yin food

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In recent decades, we have heard repeatedly that sugar is an energy food.  Doesn’t that sound wonderful?  And sugary foods and beverages certainly taste good.  So we might easily assume that sweet foods and beverages are body-friendly.  But now is a good time to challenge that perception.  On balance, sugars may not be your great friend.  Today, I speak from my holistic healing practice.

When we eat sugars, the mesolimbic dopamine system in the brain clicks on.  The brain’s neurons start releasing dopamine, which makes us feel happy. And this makes us want more of that stuff that causes dopamine production:  sugars.  Ever notice that when you start eating ice cream from the container, you keep wanting more?  That’s the brain calling for more of that dopamine-production fuel.  You are meeting your body’s biochemistry straight on! This is the effect that possibly makes people think sugar gives them energy.  They feel perked up.  Plus, if their insulin is working well, they will get more blood glucose flowing into their muscles, temporarily.

However, most people get a crash after that blood sugar high, and the blood sugar level then drops steadily until the next meal or snack.  Then the post-sugar person is weak, tired, bleary-eyed, cranky, and fog-brained.  There will be less of a crash if you have some protein with your sugary snack: a bit of chicken, tuna, garbanzo beans, nuts, cheese, or eggs.  And sweet foods with fiber, i.e., fruits, will process more slowly and give you less of a crash.

So back to why sugar actually makes us tired and weak:

  1. You burn through your available insulin, as above.
  2. Sugars are, by definition, yin foods, in Chinese medicine.  You must eat yang foods to balance yin foods, or you will be tired and weak.  More on yin– and yang foods in an upcoming article.
  3. You’re not getting nutrition to support your many thousands of metabolic processes, when you eat white sugar.  It’s refined, and that removes the nutrition, other than the sugar itself.  So on a high-sugar diet, you are malnourished, which is a weakened state.

So let’s challenge that perception that sugar is energy food! Have a little for fun and pleasure, and then eat your veggies, proteins, and limited fruit.  (More on healthy eating in an upcoming column.)  Try for the least sugar in your diet, and you will find yourself increasingly Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!

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Kebba Buckley Button is a stress solutions expert and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She also has a longtime natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: Floods of Emotions After a Mother’s Passing

06 Sunday Dec 2020

Posted by Kebba Buckley Button in Effective Living, Grief, Happy Healthy Loving Life, Kebba Buckley Button, memories, Mother loss, stress, the life you want

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Kebba’s Mom, Becky Hill Buckley. Photographer unknown.

The most emotional journey of my life has been around losing my mother several years ago.  My mother slipped away, in a Denver hospital room, in January 2017.  She was surrounded by people who loved her.  She was 91.  Her heart simply gave out.  Above is a photo (cleaned up as best I could), pulled from a group event photo.  It gave us something relatively contemporary to use for her memorial service folder.

Losing Mom was a heart-ripping watershed for me.  Not in just the usual way that we miss people when they are gone.  Rather, for me, it meant the end of seeking the closeness I had always wanted with her–affection, trust, easy conversations, sharing laughs, enjoying each other’s company. Now no more trying. No more reaching out, seeking the essential Becky, getting to know the deeper heart of Mom. No more learning better what made her tick. No more asking her opinions of things.

My older sister, in charge of the estate and house, seemed to have everything in hand.  But she finally asked me to come to Denver, to help clear the garage.  I went for 3 weeks, alternating with coming home to see clients and be with my husband: there a week, home a week, there a week, home a week, and there a week.  It was April, and the weather was very pleasant.  We worked very hard!

The neatness of the garage belied the incredible concentration of the contents:  tens of thousands of documents and photos in carefully taped boxes. We discovered many photos from decades when people didn’t just photo-document everything.  I had only previously seen one distant photo of Mom from her teen years, with a horse, as a riding instructor.  But, below is an image we found of her when she was 16.  (Remind you of anyone?) Perhaps going through all those thousands of documents and photos helped me to tie up emotional loose ends.  It also flooded and overloaded my heart and mind.  Sometimes I just sat in the emptying Eudora house and cried.  It was too much.

In one of the boxes, there were what appeared to be the items you would find on top of her desk.  She and Dad had moved to Denver about 40 years ago and had a bungalow on Zephyr Street.  Of course, it was beautifully landscaped and maintained by Mom.  After Dad passed and my older sister went through a divorce, Mom and my sister decided to share a home on Eudora St. I believe the “desktop box” was created during the move from Zephyr to Eudora; someone just swept the desktop gear into a box.  In it was a tiny ziplock bag containing a plain wedding ring.  I believe it was Mom’s, removed for a medical procedure.  I wear it often now.  More floods of memories and much comfort.

Below, you can see an iconic photo of Mom in her young married years (1954?), in hat and gloves, showing us how lovely the Golden Rain tree is.  Extremely knowledgeable about plants, she was a Master Gardener from a family of avid gardeners.  All four of her daughters also became gardeners; I made my entire back yard into a Feng Shui Garden.

When she was young, Mom had a joyful, sometimes impish side. Below is an image of her sitting on what we think was a lab table, in college days.  She was a chemistry major, so you’ll be unsurprised to see the textbooks around her on her worktable. My parents would later meet at Oak Ridge National Labs in Tennessee, working for the government, in secret, building the bomb later dropped on Japan, to end World War II.

Almost four years later, I still long to talk with Mom and ask her how she felt about this or that.  I am grateful to have known Mom, and to have had her love and nurturing in my younger years. I do my best to live my own life fully, take care of my husband, and give thanks for every Go(o)d thing. I do my best to help the younger relatives stay connected and encouraged.  There is much love circulating, and I circulate it as much as possible.  I am living the life I want.  I believe Mom would be proud of me and my life.  I am truly Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!

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Kebba Buckley Button is a stress solutions expert and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She also has a longtime natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: Memories of Seasons

05 Saturday Dec 2020

Posted by Kebba Buckley Button in changing seasons, Effective Living, Happy Healthy Loving Life, Kebba Buckley Button, memories, stress, Stress of Life's Surprise Turns, Sudden stress, sudden winter, the life you want

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For many years, I have lived in Phoenix.  We have mainly sunny and warm-to-hot weather year round, and I love that.  But many of my fondest memories are tied to the sensory joy of changing seasons.  I enjoy every season.  The cleansing cold of winter, the new life of Spring, the sustaining softness of Summer, and the astonishing transition colors and smells of Fall:  all move me deeply.  I like to just stop and be present to the sky, the sights, the air, and the smells of each season.

But most moving to me are the sudden changes that sometimes abruptly introduce the next season. Sudden Winter is most awesome to me.  And sometimes, Sudden Winter jumps in, not following Fall, but in Spring or Summer.  In April several years ago, I got to experience this in Denver.

I had prepared for the trip by packing clothes that could work comfortably in 90-degree heat or as cold as 40 degrees.  I had it nailed for the week.  I knew Denver weather could be very changeable.  But no one, including the meteorologists, saw a 2-day blizzard coming. 

Suddenly, intense winds brought in swirling heavy snow.  Denver road traffic and air traffic came to a near halt.  It was 5 degrees outside my hotel, having dropped from 60 degrees the day before.  Fortunately, in Denver, most Uber vehicles are SUVs with 4-wheel drive and year-round tires.  So I caught a ride to the nearby REI store and bought some weatherproof winter clothes.  I was the only customer in the massive store.  The rest of Denver was frozen in place.  I arranged with the REI manager to wear my new clothes out the door, into the bitter and blowing cold. 

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I could hardly walk in that wind.  Meeting my return Uber in the parking lot, I gripped  a utility pole to stay upright. The wind was so intense that it whipped my glasses off my face! I grabbed them midair as they fell, knowing I would never find them again in the blinding snowstorm, if they dropped into the several inches of snow.  I could only see anything by holding my spread fingers in front of my eyes.  

Then my huge safe warm SUV Uber arrived, sweeping me back to my hotel…where I remained for several more days, until the Denver International Airport opened again.  But, don’t feel sorry for me!  Once I arranged to extend my Oxford Hotel stay, this became a delightful Winter vacation.  Between waves of snowfall, I walked downtown Denver in my new warm clothes and boots, taking photos of the urban snowscape and fresh flowers topped with snow.  

After each photo foray, it was back to the Hotel and those sweet moments of blowing into the warmth of the lobby, smelling the fireplace fire, and pulling off my gloves and scarf.  Feeling my face happily thawing out and relaxing, I was in pure joy.  I was creating some of the most wonderful memories of my life.  I was truly Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!

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Kebba Buckley Button is a stress solutions expert and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She also has a longtime natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: A Happy Soulmate Story

04 Friday Dec 2020

Posted by Kebba Buckley Button in Dealing with stress, Effective Living, Kebba Buckley Button, Listening to God, Love, Soulmate, the life you want

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Today, I share a story that means the World to me.  It started about 30 years ago, when I was single and living in a cozy apartment.  One balmy Saturday evening, I was debating going to a party at the home of a couple I knew well.  Their parties were always easygoing fun, and I knew dozens of friends would be there.  Tempting as that was, I am a quiet person and just love staying home.  I love to paint, create some new recipe, or design a new garment.  So time rolled by, as I debated going to the party or not.  Or going.  Or not.  

Finally, I realized I was stuck.  Really stuck!  On impulse, I looked up and asked the air, “Well, what do YOU think?” I was shocked to hear a prompt, clear answer: “You will go.  You will get dressed; you will look cute.  You will meet  interesting people!”

So I quickly got dressed and went to the party.  In the back yard, I saw a very handsome man I had never met before.  His name turned out to be Ron.  

A mere 18 years later, Ron asked me out, and we went to dinner and a movie.  Within 3 weeks, we knew we were meant for each other, and we knew that God was our matchmaker.  We have now been happily married for 12 years. 

So, listen when the Air talks!  It could be an important message from our Sponsor, leading you further into:  the realm of Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!

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Kebba Buckley Button is a stress solutions expert and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She also has a longtime natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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