Excuses Stress

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I collect quirky media stories, and this one came to mind today, as I was thinking about Excuses  Stress: the static and drain caused by someone else or ourselves making excuses. Several years ago, I found this gem: “Ex-wife accused of identity theft blames dog for leading her astray”.  In Arlington, Washington, an ex-husband found money was leaving his accounts without his previous permission.  Police investigators determined his ex-wife was paying her expenses with the unauthorized funds.  When asked about using her ex-husband’s bank account, the woman said her dog ate her personal checks and she had no choice but to use her ex-husband’s account.

Now let’s back up a moment.  She said she believed she had no choice.  But we are always at choice. Most people have another pad of checks, because checks typically come in batches of 160 or more. So maybe the dog ate all her check pads, as well as her checks in her checkbook, which was lying within reach of the dog’s mouth (why?).  This woman probably has a debit card and can make online payments.   She didn’t choose to do that.  Debit cards and emergency replacement checks are available at all branches of her bank or credit union.  The woman didn’t choose to avail herself of those services.

So maybe there was a long holiday weekend involved and she couldn’t talk to staff at her bank branch for 3 days.  But hello!  The banks all have 800 numbers with staff standing by to help customers around the clock.  As far as we know, she didn’t choose to call the 800 number, nor did she email or try online chat to get help.  Alright, so maybe there was a storm and all long-distance phone service was down.  In desperation, perhaps the ex-wife thought, well, maybe I can use my ex-husband’s account.  This leaves yet 4 more questions:

1. Why did she not choose to ask his permission?
2. How did she still know or have a record of his bank account number?
3. With her own check pads all destroyed (if we accept that), where/how did she get checks from his account?
4. Was she planning all this in advance, and is that how she had whatever she needed to access his account?  That sounds much like a group of choices. Planning is making choices.

Benjamin Franklin said,

He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.

According to the ex-wife’s version of events, implicitly, if she had fed the dog something tastier than checks, none of this fuss would ever have occurred.  Oh, but that must be wrong, because then she would have had some responsibility for what happened and for solving it.  Now she is being investigated for identity theft and forgery.  If she goes to jail, she will have many fewer choices.  I hope she will see the irony.

In this story, the ex-husband is no-doubt stressed by having to deal with his ex-wife taking his funds.  Now she is stressed because she has been caught and held responsible.  (And she still has to order herself some checks.)  People who make excuses just hate being held responsible.  Excuses are the stories people offer, to keep from taking responsibility for their ineffective and “bad” choices.

Life is our greatest experiment, with hundreds of choices to make each day.  With the option to make many choices comes the responsibility of making those that will give us the strongest results.  Are you currently making any excuses for the way you are handling or not handling something? Why not exit your excuses and start experimenting, to build up your positive lifestyle more?  That can eliminate your Excuses Stress!

And please, will you keep your dog and your checks completely separated?  And send me any quirky news items you find!  Now that’s Upbeat Living^sm!

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UpBeat Living: Can You Be Pleasant When They’re Rude?

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Can you hold the High Ground of Graciousness when others are being rude?  It depends on how high you think the stakes are.  Unpleasant people are an unfortunate fact of life.  They are not fun. They make us wince.  They cause our stomachs to knot up.  They sometimes try to generate conflict.  But now and then we have to deal with these people.  It’s crucial to be as congenial as you can be with them as well as with the sometimes-awful situations they can create.  You never know who is listening and how many years they will remember how you handled it.

 

The importance of being pleasant was brought home to me following a particular gathering of a cooking club to which I belonged.  For some reason, I couldn’t go that night, which may have been a good thing.  What happened became legendary to the club members. The club always cooked to a theme, and people would bring all the dishes, prepared, to the host’s home.  The host or hostess always coordinated the dishes well ahead of time.

 

This particular night, an hour into the meal, a notoriously late member of the group arrived.  He had not said he wanted to come, and all the dishes were arranged for.  This friend had brought some fresh seafood, which was irrelevant to the evening’s theme.  The hostess, wanting to be…pleasant, let this friend come in and participate.  One of the more expressive members asked why Mr. Seafood should be allowed to join the evening and asserted he should leave.  Mr. Seafood prepared his dish in the hostess’s kitchen from scratch, while the group moved on to dessert, according to the original plan.  In escalating tones, Mr. Expressive told Mr. Seafood that he should respect the group more and abide by the agreements: reserve ahead, prepare the dish in his own kitchen, and arrive on time, prepared.  Other voices began to rise.

 

“Rudeness is the weak man’s imitation of strength.” 

 ~ Edmund Burke

 

Most agreed with Mr. Expressive in principle, and they were tired of Mr. Seafood behaving as he does, and had done for years.  However, they began to tell Mr. Expressive that it was best to be pleasant.  No one wanted outright strife.  Then voices were raised on this point.  Two people actually tried the seafood dish during dessert.  Raised voices turned to hurt feelings.  One couple said it was simply unacceptable to air unpleasant thoughts like this at a social gathering.  Mr. Expressive said, but he was right.  [And I was in strong agreement with his points, while different people were telling me later about the evening’s events.]  Topping off the situation, the two who had tried the seafood dish got food poisoning from it.  The outcome was that Mr. Expressive lost respect and friends, and the group never met again.  The stress of outright conflict was too uncomfortable for the group.

 

A client shared a related story with me.  For a time, in an HOA situation, there was a neighbor who was especially critical of much of what went on with the community.  She would send verbally violent emails to Board members and neighbors, wildly angry about the gate needing repairs or the dumpsters being too full.  Online or in person, she would exclaim, “UNACCEPTABLE!!!!!!”  Neighbors stopped responding to her emails, ignored her at Board meetings, and gradually steered away from her altogether.  She lost all her social equity, all her influence in the community, and all of what could have been friendships with many fine neighbors.  There is a level of blatant aggression and conflict that is simply too stressful for people, so they turn away.

 

The next time you find yourself with people expressing unpleasantly, be as pleasant as you can be, or remove yourself, if possible.  Laugh and make light remarks.  Be the one who breaks the tension if you have those skills. Even if you agree with the aggressor’s points, don’t join the tension, if you can avoid it.  You can always talk with the aggressor later, after things have cooled off.  To enjoy your relationships the most, smile and be easygoing.  You’re the one who will be invited back.  You’re the one who will keep the relationships.

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition (http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc).  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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UpBeat Living: Peaceful World: Day 14 of Season for NonViolence (SNV): Humility

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© 2013 Kebba Buckley Button.  World Rights Reserved.

Who doesn’t love peace?  Who wouldn’t love a world in which all peoples treat each other like, well, people?  Who wouldn’t love a world in which countries are in robust commerce with each other, and everyone is prospering, and everyone has food, shelter, and health care?

Now, think of the most prominent terrorist dictators of the last century: didn’t they seem to feed on the power, rather than opportunities for peace?  Did their egos feel the violence they fomented?  Would humility have changed how these dictators behaved and how many of their own countrymen they killed?  Could they have operated as they did, had they been humble?  Today, the 14^th day of Season for NonViolence, we consider the quality of humility.

Here is AGNT’s meditation for Day 14:

DAY 14 Feb. 12:  The thought for today is HUMILITY.  Making mistakes is a part of learning and growing, simply an error in approach.  Paradoxically, the only way we can begin to escape from the consequences of our actions is to stop running from them and to face them with fortitude and humility.  In this sense, every difficult situation is a precious opportunity for learning.

When we humbly acknowledge our mistakes and reflect on what we have learned, it frees us from the need to be defensive.   Being free from defending our position creates an opportunity for nonviolence.

The seeker after truth should be humbler than the dust. The world crushes the dust under its feet, but the seeker after truth should so humble himself that even the dust could crush him. Only then, and not till then, will he have a glimpse of the truth.

-Gandhi

Today:  As I gaze up at the stars tonight, I am aware of how small I am, how my life is but a fleeting moment in the vast scale of time and distances of the solar system and the universe.  And in that moment of humility, I acknowledge that I DO make a difference.

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a corporate stress management trainer and the author of the 2012 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core (on Amazon.com >Books>Button) and the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (on Amazon.com >Books>Buckley).  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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UpBeat Living: Peaceful World: Day 13 of Season for NonViolence (SNV): Creativity

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What if we lived in a world without violence?  How would you feel about that?  What if every person on Earth were focusing their creativity on joyful growth? Now on the 13th day of the Season for NonViolence (SNV), we have been unfolding ways to find and grow nonviolence within ourselves.  What new thing might Martin Luther King, Jr. be thinking about doing today? How would Mahatma Ghandi spend an extra hour today? NonViolence really begins with what is inside each heart.   Are you in?

From the Association for Global New Thought (AGNT), here is the meditation for SNV Day 13:

 

DAY 13 Feb. 11: The thought for today is CREATIVITY.  The human soul’s natural desire is to create.  The best thing you can do to a human soul is to express the natural desire to create.  Your life is your creative expression.  Creativity allows something unpredictable and joyous to express through you.

“Why should we use all our creative power? . . . Because there is nothing that makes people so generous, joyful, lively, bold and compassionate, so indifferent to fighting and the accumulation of objects and money.”  -Brenda Ueland

Today:  I reflect on what I am creating in my life today by identifying at least five ways in which I can express my creativity joyously.   I will create something that expresses my feelings about nonviolence.

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a corporate stress management trainer and the author of the 2012 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core (on Amazon.com >Books>Button) and the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (on Amazon.com >Books>Buckley).  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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UpBeat Living: What I Learned From The Golden Globe ® Awards

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© 2013 Kebba Buckley Button.  World Rights Reserved.

 

It was an unusually cold night in Los Angeles, at the Beverly Hilton Hotel.  Twenty million viewers sat at home, riveted to their TV sets, enthralled as the stars made their way slowly along the red carpet.  It was the 2013 Golden Globe® Awards. The men were in elegant suits.  The women wore stunning, graceful designer gowns, many reminiscent of eras past.  News teams dotted the length of the red carpet, interviewing and photographing the stars, the directors, and key industry icons.  Despite the 40 degree air, the stars walked slowly, apparently relaxed, in joyful expectancy of a delightful evening.

The Awards ceremony itself was a good-natured gathering of the entertainment industry, brought together by the Hollywood Foreign Press Association (HFPA).  Informal humor abounded, as colleagues kidded colleagues.  When Jennifer Garner stood to present an award, she apologized, laughing, saying her husband, Ben Affleck, had forgotten to thank two people.  She thanked them on Affleck’s behalf, then went on to present the award as scheduled.  There were a number of takeaways from the evening.

• Year-round maintenance of your skin and figure are vital.  You may need to be at an important event any time.  The stars all looked fantastic.
• Smiling is paramount, regardless of the cold, and the fact that your unspeakably beautiful designer gown would be comfortable at 80 degrees.  The stars all looked pleasant and happy.
• People are always watching your act and noticing your expression. Try to be aware of where the cameras are.  An impression may last a lifetime.  The stars all looked joyful, expectant, welcoming, friendly.
• “Of course, the best journeys are shared.” Damian Lewis said it, and I’ll quote him many times.  With whom are you sharing your journey?  Would more sharing feel good and be more satisfying?
• An evening of sharing and laughing with and celebrating your friends is one of life’s greatest experiences.  So finish your workout, get your smile on, and share that journey.

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a corporate stress management trainer and the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You, and the 2012 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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UpBeat Living: Possibilities, Choices, Changes

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One of the most powerful things we can do for ourselves is to be open to positive possibilities in all aspects of life. Are you willing to allow yourself to get well? Are you willing to allow yourself to achieve a promotion? Are you willing to allow yourself a massive upswing in income? Are you willing to allow yourself a happy love relationship?

Have you ever noticed that there are some small or simple things you want to have in life but you don’t seem to go after them? Some of them are so easy to get, yet you don’t go get them. Why not? For example, many people complain about the chair they sit in the most. They say it just doesn’t fit them, it’s too high, it’s too deep, it’s too hard or unsupportive here or there. You have been in these conversations and heard the speeches. Some people can go on for years claiming they want a different desk chair, dining chair, or recliner. Do these folks act like they want to change the chair? Or do they act like people who want to talk about the chair and keep on talking about the chair? What is actually stopping the chair owner from changing the chair?

It is completely clear when we truly want something: we go after it. A morning coffee or mid-day lunch is an absolute goal, achieved daily and without fail, for many people. In larger decisions, we all know people who are sure of what they want. When their chair is not right, they try adjusting it and adding or subtracting pillows. If that doesn’t meet the requirement, then they go to stores that sell chairs in their price range and start auditioning chairs. Soon, they show you their wonderful new chair, beaming at how pleased they are with the both the comfort and the problem solution. These people are open to successful changes.

The classic formula for achieving something is:

1. Set the goal.
2. Set the approximate time frame and budget. List the steps needed.
3. Take action.
4. Stay focused until complete.
5. Enjoy your achievement.

So why do we so often fail to get to Step 3? I propose that there is a category of desire which is not a real desire. It’s the category of What We Want to Want (W4). If I only want-to-want my new chair, I will not take action. I am not willing to take action. Willingness is an element for success. Inaction is not just a matter of laziness, although it may appear so.   How many people do you know who want-to-want a new job or relationship?  What other examples of W4 can you think of?  You may want to journal about examples you have seen, or examples from your own life.

Do you really want it?  Or do you want-to-want it?  — Kebba Buckley Button

Here is a short method for you to try, in three steps.

1.  Write down your goal, such as: get comfortable chair, find someone new to date, get new job, increase income by $10K per year, get rid of scars, learn to program dreams, increase stamina 50%, lose fifteen pounds without their finding me again. Note how relatively willing you are to do anything about this. Do you want it? Or do you only wish you wanted it?

2.  Write down all your reasons for achieving this goal. What payoffs will you enjoy when the goal is achieved?  Again note your relative willingness to take action. It’s higher now, isn’t it? If not, figure out for whom this goal was really set. Was it for your parents, was it for appearances, or was it for someone else? Now, if this goal wasn’t really your desire, consider setting it aside! Otherwise, proceed.

3.  Vividly picture yourself having achieved this goal, and feel exactly how good it is to have this item, condition, or achievement in your life.

Plan to repeat Steps 2 and 3 daily. Vision it! Check your relative willingness again. Wow! Are you ready now? Then it’s time to stop wanting and go take action! Repeat as desired. Enjoy!

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a corporate stress management trainer and the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You, and the 2012 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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UpBeat Living: Manage Your Energy, Not Your Stress

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Many people think of stress as something of a climatic condition, a sort of heat. Picture a large thermometer labeled “How hot will you get today?”  Let’s call that The Stress-O-Meter (sm). In this model, people talk about “heating up” as they get stressed and “cooling off” as they unstress. They may say, “Boy, he really got hot under the collar at that meeting!” or “Yow, that’s a hot topic!” or “What a heated discussion we had at that board meeting!” People may tell a stressed-out person to “cool off” or “chill out” or even “calm down” meaning “come down in your stress/heat level.”

People ride up and down their personal Stress-O-Meter, the thermometer of stress, during their day. They heat up, then they cool off or chill out.   What happens when someone gets so stressed out that they hit the top of their Stress-O-Meter? They “explode” or “go over the top,” just as a thermometer explodes when overheated.

While this way of seeing stress is very popular, it doesn’t serve us.  In the Stress-O-Meter model, we have no real control of our stress.  How much more powerful is it to see stress as a matter of perception and focus, as we’ve been discussing, with each of us as the manager of our personal energy budget each day?

“Now you can become an energy manager!”

–Kebba Buckley Button

Now, you can become an energy manager!  Right now, try stretching your ideas about how to use your week. Imagine that your energy is measurable in Energy Dollars, instead of in hours and minutes. Imagine that, for each day of the week, you have a budget of 1440 Energy Dollars. That’s one Energy Dollar for every minute of the day. Now imagine that it’s up to you to invest your Energy Dollars wisely. You lose Energy Dollars when you invest them in people and activities that exhaust you. You multiply your Energy Dollars when you sleep really well or invest in people and activities that energize you.

We have talked about the power of positive stress vs. negative stress (https://kebbabutton.wordpress.com/2013/01/08/upbeat-living-the-upbeat-living-energy-equationsm/ ). Review it again now, and journal a few examples of ways you became tired or energized in the last week or two. Just for fun, try giving  your positive and negative energy investments Energy Dollar values. Do you see any patterns? Overall, are you gaining or losing energy during your week?

Stress can come from internal or external causes. We cannot fully control anything outside our own body or mind. We can, however, control our reactions (meaning “choose effective responses”) to internal or external causes. We are most likely to choose effective responses and strategies if we are selecting proper breathing techniques, proper diet and fluids, best posture, best exercise regime, good sleep, and satisfying recreation.

How would you like to start getting younger again?

–Kebba Buckley Button

Operating your life as though there is a giant Stress-O-Meter can only lead to an exhausting lifestyle, running on nervous energy. I call this the False Energy Range. In that range of energy, both fatigue and dis-ease, or “disease”, will accumulate. To escape the False Energy Range, you need excellent rest, correct refueling, breathing clear air, drinking high quality water, and beginning refreshing re-creation, or “recreation.” Escapees from the victimhood of exhaustion and negativity can then use LifeTools(sm) to convert stress to energy and respond more effectively to situations. This restructuring of thinking and responses then leads you into what I call the Real Energy Range. Now energy and productivity start climbing up, and each person starts to recharge, re-empower, revitalize, and actually rejuvenate.  How would you like to start getting younger again?

Next time:  Positives we can add, to lift our energy!

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a corporate stress management trainer and the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You, and the 2012 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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UpBeat Living: What Causes Your Stress?

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“Stress is probably ultimately the underlying cause of all disease.”

 –Dr. Gladys T. McGarey

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“The Mother of Holistic Medicine”, Dr. Gladys T. McGarey (M.D., M.D.H.), has said, “Stress is probably ultimately the underlying cause of all disease.”  Now, medical research has revealed that there is no longer any doubt that stress is a factor in human health conditions, especially depression, heart disease, HIV/Aids, and some virally caused cancers. In a review of a range of medical studies, psychology professor Sheldon Cohen, of Carnegie Melon University, found two pathways by which stress might increase how sick we are.

Stress creates changes that create changes that may, in turn, cause or increase illness.

First, stressed people don’t sleep well and are less likely to take care of themselves and follow doctors’ orders.  Second, stress impacts the body’s endocrine system, which should be releasing certain patterns of hormones that affect the immune system and inflammation.  Stress creates changes that create changes that may, in turn, cause or increase illness.  Cohen found a strong relationship between stress and depression, especially in people with strong social stress factors, like a divorce or the death of someone they love.  Workplace stress and other forms of chronic stress, however, were more likely to contribute to heart disease.  Since 2000, a number of studies have also shown that there is a link between stress and HIV/AIDS.

Have you ever noticed you were more tired when stressed?  Did you ever have a cold that got worse when you got bad news?  Who has experienced neck pain and headaches, when there is too much to do, or there is just too much going on around you?

Your symptoms are natural!  The body does not like negative stress!  Below is a chart of Stress Sources.   Glance over the chart and ask yourself, “when was this true for me?”  Then journal out your thoughts.

How do you react to stress, or how you have reacted in the past?

Next time, we begin a series on specific tools for beating stress, whatever the cause!  Stress is costly, and this is your life!

Figure 1.  Stress Sources

 

CONFLICTS

Difficult People

Available Time vs. Needs and Goals

Available Resources vs. Needs and Goals

Personal Values vs. Values of an Authority Figure

UNMET NEEDS

Unmet Emotional Needs

Unmet Physical Needs

Pain, Chronic Health Conditions

Limited Body Mobility

Old Emotional Agendas

Feeling Limited Or Trapped

UNEXPECTED EXTERNAL FACTORS

Significant Personal Loss (Death of Spouse, Job Loss)

Significant Community Loss (9/11 Attacks, Hurricane Katrina, Superstorm Sandy)

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a corporate stress management trainer and the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You, and the 2012 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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UpBeat Living: Stop Feeding Your Fatigue! Part 1

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© 2013 Kebba Buckley Button.  World Rights Reserved.

In this series, you will learn what actually causes fatigue. More importantly, you will learn how to stop causing your own fatigue. If situations or relationships tire you out, you can use new strategies to stop getting tired and worn. If you feel tired after eating or drinking, you can switch to taking in food and drink that is energizing for you. Through understanding and changing your choices, you can truly stop feeding, increasing, and recreating your own fatigue.

Get Ready for Change

 

Welcome to your personal course in discovering your true self, The Secret Energized You^sm! You’ll notice that I use words differently, or use new words, to get people to take a fresh look at how life works. I present ideas and methods called LifeTools, throughout these articles. These are not just nice ideas. They are techniques and processes for you to use to rework areas of your life where you want to discover more energy, vitality, connection, success, joy, and transcendence. You can use LifeTools to solve negative conditions and to create positive energy. Life is an experiment! The Universe is your laboratory. What you get in life is the result of the way you have been experimenting and the tools you have been using. What tools will you use in your experiment? You must change your choices to change your results.

 

You must change
your choices to
change your results.

There is a cultural idea in modern life that you can talk about a problem until you are exhausted, or your counseling budget is, and the problem will somehow go away. Actually, talking endlessly about a challenge will often magnify it. Some say, “What you resist persists”. You may even overwork the problem mentally and get “paralysis by analysis”. You may say, “I just want to survive this difficult time!” But I want much more for you. I want you to understand problems differently and then do things differently. I want you to thrive, not just survive. I want new results for you. I want you to fully discover The Secret Energized You.

Aim to thrive,
not just survive.

In live presentations, I often say, “I don’t want much from you today—I just want to completely change your life!” If you read these articles and use the LifeTools, you will find profound changes in your energy and the joyful dynamism of your life. Welcome to your fresh new approach to creating and fully living the life you want!

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a corporate stress management trainer and the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You, and the 2012 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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