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With Valentines’ Day coming around soon, some are feeling Love Stress. We are starting to see sesonal candy, décor and cards everywhere. We’re starting to think about what we want to do for Valentines’ Day. And we’re starting to think a lot about the love in our lives. I recently wrote about Valentines’ Day itself (http://wp.me/pw4HM-sp).
A song written by Paul Francis Webster, familiar from the movie of the same name, taught us all the truth that
Love is a many-splendored thing.
Love and caring take so many forms that many of us miss love and caring signals that are coming our way. All of us can figure out that someone loves us if they say so. But we miss other signs. And we miss opportunities to express our caring to others, because we don’t share in ways they can recognize. Especially if you’ve been wanting to experience more love and caring, here are some tips to change that. Here are ways to notice when people are connecting with you, in however light and brief a way:
- Someone smiles and says “hello!” They find you interesting enough to connect.
- Someone compliments you.
- Someone offers you their newspaper as they are leaving the café.
- Someone lets you know one of your tires is very low.
- The group waits to start until you arrive several minutes late.
- An acquaintance suggests you get together for coffee.
- A committee member touches your arm as they go by.
John 13:34 (NIV) tells us:
A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.
People express love and caring in a half-dozen different “codes”—words, doing-for, gifting, spending time with, touching, and giving money. Your thoughtfulness is love! So here are some light ways for you to express caring and love. Please only make genuine gestures:
- Smile happily and say “hello!’ in a friendly way. Practice at church.
- Compliment someone. Remember, it’s “how great you look in that dress!” Do not say, “what a great dress!”
- Before you leave the café, ask the people at the next table if they would enjoy having your paper.
- Let someone know their tire is low or their headlamp is out.
- If someone drops something, pick it up for them, and smile happily.
- If you are expecting a committee member who is usually on time, wait a few minutes for them to arrive before you start.
- Think of someone from church or a class that you would like to know better, and ask them if they would like to possibly have coffee sometime. If they say they are awfully busy, well, you tried. If their voice brightens, schedule it.
- Place your hand lightly on a friend’s back as you go by.
In John 13:34, Jesus tells us we must love one another. Now you know more ways to do that. Be a part of that as you receive and share caring and love.
And there is always more love to share. You can beat Love Stress by increasingly following these pointers! And that’s Upbeat Livingtm!
- Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert. She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within: Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office. Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com.
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