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Yin and Yang: Let Your Nature Nurture You
Are you forcing yourself to act against your true nature? Not only can stress cause fatigue, but fatigue can cause stress. It’s vital, if you are tired a lot, to ask yourself which started first. If you are ridiculously tired, one factor may be that you are forcing yourself to act against your true nature. This is incredibly wearing and leads to a lot of wasted energy, as well as misunderstandings in relationships.
Some people are even in a job or a profession that forces them to function against their true nature. In the classic American Winner Model, everyone is supposed to succeed by being extroverts: forward, talkative, witty, persuasive, and assertive. This is great for those whose temperaments are suited to this behavior, and it is very unhealthy for those who would be forcing themselves against type. Some people are trying to be quiet introverts, working in cubicles away from other workers when they actually need interactive jobs surrounded by many people and much activity. Others are trying to work in highly interactive environments that are giving them the sensation of being hammered. These workers need a quiet corner and a job structure with breakaway, stand-alone tasks. Some love to lead, and some love to follow. Some love to supervise and some love to sit doing repetitive tasks for years at a time. Fortunately, we need all these types in most career fields.
There are a number of useful personality inventory tests, and you may have taken several of them. I hope that you learned some interesting things about your nature from these systems. One useful framework that is not widely used is the oriental philosophy of the opposite natures, yin and yang. In Chinese philosophy, everything and everyone has a relatively yin or yang nature. Some substances and some people are very yang, and some are very yin. Some are on the scale in between. Balance is the goal.
Following is a figure, Yin and Yang Characteristics, that shows the relative yin and yang of different qualities. See if one of these, yin or yang, sounds more like the real you.
Yin And Yang Characteristics
Passive vs. Active
Weak vs. Strong
Cool vs. Warm
Dark vs. Light
Moon vs. Sun
Inward vs. Outward
Taking in vs. Giving Forth
Left hand vs. Right Hand
Feminine-grounded vs. Masculine-grounded
Listening vs. Talking
Asking vs. Explaining
Responding vs. Initiating
“Taking in” vs. “Giving forth”
Nurturing vs. Caregiving
If you like to express yourself verbally a lot during your work day or in your personal relationships, you may be more of a “yang-grounded” person. Try to be in jobs that require verbalizing, and find relationships with people who are listeners. Conversely, some of you are getting exhausted from the level of verbalizing required in your job and relationships. You have more of a “yin-grounded” nature, and it will always be exhausting to have to talk a lot. Try to be in jobs that can be handled with written communication and find a talker-initiator for your significant other.
Some of you are stressed out from supervising because you need to be in breakaway tasks (yin). Examine the possibilities for going down or across the organizational tree; you will spend less time and money on doctor visits. The more your life activities and your nature are in sync, the healthier, happier, and more peaceful you will be. Nurture your nature, and let your nature nurture you.
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Kebba Buckley Button is a stress/energy management expert, holistic healer, and award-winning author who celebrates life. She has a longtime natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within: Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office. They are also available in Scottsdale, Arizona, at the Franciscan Renewal Center bookstore and at the bookstore at St. Barnabas on the Desert Episcopal Church. Or simply email us to order: email@example.com . Thank you!