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From time to time, we are stuck in, or we see, a situation that is ridiculous, absurd, and not right. We feel stressed and anxious. We may feel frustrated, even to the point of having a tight stomach, a headache, or knots in our back, because there is nothing we can do. Here are several examples.
A TV show tells the story of a house that disappeared overnight. The husband came home and found his house missing– a site-built home, not a mobile home. It evolved that there was an inheritance dispute. Do you feel stressed, hearing about this? Yet there is nothing the observer can do about it.
In a famous story, a family hired architect Frank Lloyd Wright to build a home for them adjacent to their favorite wooded picnic spot, a flat rock at the edge of a stream, with its own waterfall. The family wanted to easily access their favorite picnic spot and eat there more often. The architect decided he wanted to build the rock and waterfall into the home, so the family lost their favorite outdoor picnic spot. In addition, according to their son, “you can’t really live in such a house”. So they lost their picnic spot, spent massive funds, were unable to live in the house, and made an architect famous for “The House at Fallingwater”. The house became a museum. Do you feel frustrated or angry when you think about this? Yet there is nothing the observer can do about it.
In the news this week from Wisconsin, a video bubbled up that portrays several men trapping a deer, wrestling with it to put a yellow t-shirt on it, and laughing. The deer escaped and has been seen since, still wearing a portion of the yellow t-shirt. Wisconsin Department of Natural Resources advises that the deer looks healthy and should be left alone. Watching the video, a friend was reminded of human sexual assault, and she imagined how the three men treat the women in their lives, then laugh. My friend feels very disturbed by this story and the behavior of the three men. Do you? And yet, there is nothing the observer can do about it.
The stock market is acting squirrelly, the US border with Mexico is not secure, North Korea may launch missiles at another country, another abused child has disappeared. Yet there is nothing the observer can do about it.
But wait! Yes, the observer/you can do three things:
- Pray or hold Go(o)d Thoughts, even if the event seems to be over.
- Detach, exhale, drop your shoulders, and turn your attention away. Relax physically, and don’t allow yourself to go over and over the sequence. No obsessing. If the bad thoughts come back again, exhale each time.
- Focus on what is good, uplifting, and meaningful to you. This will cause the lower thoughts to be displaced, and your energy level will begin to rise immediately.
Phillipians4:8 advises us:
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
What to do when there’s nothing you can do? Pray, hold Good Thoughts, and let it go. And get on with your life.
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● Kebba Buckley Button is a Master’s Degree scientist, a minister, and the award-winning author of the 2012 book, Peace Within: Your Peaceful Inner Core (http://tinyurl.com/abd47jr), and also Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br). She also has a natural healing and stress management practice and is a celebrated public speaker.
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