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We tend to think of things as good or bad— events, experiences, weather, choices– but do we know for sure? And how would we define “good” and “bad“? My Chinese locust tree buds and leafs out enthusiastically most of the year, here in Phoenix. It provides lush shade for parking in the late afternoon. But suddenly, in about December, all the leaves turn brown and fall away! They do this over a 3-day period. You’re thinking, “Oh no! This is bad! Is the tree sick?” But then, equally suddenly, about 6 weeks later, the tree begins to bud and leaf out again. And you never know exactly when this will happen.
There is a timeless parable about a Chinese rice farmer, that poses this question of good things vs. bad things. Here is Alan Watt’s summary of the story:
Once upon a time there was a Chinese farmer whose horse ran away. That evening, all of his neighbors came around to commiserate. They said, “We are so sorry to hear your horse has run away. This is most unfortunate.” The farmer said, “Maybe.” The next day the horse came back bringing seven wild horses with it, and in the evening everybody came back and said, “Oh, isn’t that lucky. What a great turn of events. You now have eight horses!” The farmer again said, “Maybe.”
The following day his son tried to break one of the horses, and while riding it, he was thrown and broke his leg. The neighbors then said, “Oh dear, that’s too bad,” and the farmer responded, “Maybe.” The next day the conscription officers came around to conscript people into the army, and they rejected his son because he had a broken leg. Again all the neighbors came around and said, “Isn’t that great!” Again, he said, “Maybe.”
The whole process of nature is an integrated process of immense complexity, and it’s really impossible to tell whether anything that happens in it is good or bad — because you never know what will be the consequence of the misfortune; or, you never know what will be the consequences of good fortune.
As each thing happened, the Chinese farmer declined to judge its nature. He simply accepted what was. In today’s terms, he gave no energy to judging or reacting to each event. He remained calm and allowed events to unfold. I have heard a version in which the farmer always says, “Good thing, bad thing–who knows?” and another in which he says, “We’ll see.” I have many times seen people judge and assume, then get upset and burn a lot of energy– only to find out events were unfolding in their favor. Where do you want to put your energy?

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Have you ever caught yourself “rushing to judgement” and realized you had totally wasted your frustration energy? How about the times when you thought you had lost your keys, you panicked, and at last, the keys showed up near where they should have been? Choose where you put your energy, judge not, and you’ll be more and more Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm! It’s up to you!
Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM, is a stress solutions expert, holistic guide, and award-winning author who celebrates life. She has a longtime energy healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within: Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office. To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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I tend to remain calm when things happen. The one time I panicked was when I realized 10 minutes later I left my wallet phone case in the cart at CVS. Not having a phone to call them, we rushed back to the store. It seems like I left it in the baby seat of the cart while I was putting my items in the truck. I was rushing and ran the cart back to the store. The clerk told me a customer found it and returned it. I so wish they had left their name. So my “bad thing” turned into a “good thing” from a good person.
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Martha, I totally understand!
I’m usually everyone’s calm rock. But one day I got out the door of our huge Target and realized I must have left my phone, possibly in the water section, as far as possible from the front door. I went into raw panic. I went back in and asked “my” cashier. She got
excited and said a man had just turned it in! He found it in the water area! They handed me my phone. I could have saved so much energy by staying my peaceful self! 🤣 Some things just get us, don’t they?
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Interesting! I have heard that story, too, with the farmer, where something is bad and then good and then and and then good. I see your point about not rushing to judgement.
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Jeanine, yes, that story really keeps us thinking, doesn’t it?
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You know, Kebba, in my younger days, I used to get upset about many things. Then I decided to practice the prayer of serenity and believe God when He says in the scriptures that all things work together for the good of those who love Him. Since then, my life has been calm and more enjoyable.
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Florence, I admire you for being consistently in the flow of the serenity prayer. After many years of practice in awful dynamics, my body sometimes tenses up and I have to remind it: “Cast (my) cares on him” [Peter] and “grant me the serenity…” and “it is well with my soul”. Like you, I find serenity natural more of the time than when I was young and had not shaped my own life. 👍🏻
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I have heard this Chinese parable too in one of its many versions.. and I am normally like that as well.. I like to think I take after my dad who was definitely the most unflappable and cheerful person I have known (or rather I aspire to be more like him everyday – as a tribute to him)..
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