Staleness Stress: How You Got That Way and How to Prevent it In Future

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Recently, I wrote about Staleness Stress and Instant Ways to Get Unstuck (http://wp.me/pw4HM-oF). These are crucial tools for the Upbeat Living framework on Life.  Some of you have been really taking those quickstart pointers to heart.  This time, the topic is Staleness Stress for non-emergencies.  For how to prevent Staleness Stress, so you don’t get into a totally stuck situation, read on.  Then do the steps!

The Main Reason You’re Stale and Stressed

So you’re not on a deadline.  This is the perfect time to look at your bigger picture.  There are 2 main causes for your Staleness Stress.  First, maybe you’re thinking, “[W]ell, my last client session/chapter wasn’t that hot.” So actually, you’re stuck in worry that you’re not good enough and your work   is not good enough.  Here’s the truth:  you need to– and you can– get some fresh new input in your life and overall routine.

You need to let go of old thoughts and self-judgement.  No one is more qualified to do exactly what you do than you are. Now consider that you are currently the best You that you have ever been.  The Universe has unique plans for each of us, and each of us is uniquely qualified for our particular journey.

The Other Reason You’re Stale and Stressed

The second reason your sense of things has gone stale is simply that you need to mix it up!  A pipe can’t deliver water unless there is water flowing in.  If you dam up a stream, it dries up.  So if your thoughtstream or your heartstream are dry, the dam needs to let new thoughts and feelings flow in and through.  The quickest way to do this may be to shift your routine or your scene, even for a couple of hours.

Lyor Cohen, CEO and founder of 300 Entertainment, said:

I like moments of staleness and mildew, simply because it creates the lane for change.

How to Really Solve Staleness

What a great way to look at staleness stress!  Are you in?  Then check this out:  the top method for refreshing your professional brain in 2 hours is one that may surprise you.  You can mix it up by taking a couple of webinars with people you dislike!  Seriously.  As you listen, you can object to their methods and have a lively session, taking notes and running a wildfire through your professional mind.  Now your work is fresher.  Oh, hey, you knew there were reasons why you disliked them [SMILE].

For your overall mind-body system, take a microvacation to the Botanical Garden or the Zoo, camera in hand. Or see an indy movie.  Go ice-skating at that indoor rink you keep driving by.  Have lunch on the patio of a new café afterward.  As you take in the new sights, smells, sounds, and activities of these places and experiences, journal out (into the Notes section of your phone, if you like) your new thoughts and feelings.  Take more photos, even videos, even selfie videos of your experiences.  Now there’s new flow in your thoughtstream and heartstream. Now schedule in time to make bigger trips, see new people, do new arts, and have new adventures.  Sign up with a coach;  book a retreat, plan a trip to the beach, book a few days at a cabin with hiking.  Go somewhere you’ve never been.  Just the planning can refresh your thoughtstream.  And the New Thing doesn’t have to be expensive to be rejuvenating.

Any time is the perfect time to freshen up your life and your work.  This is your new moment, your new day. Allow it.  Journal about it.  Court it.  Be it. The freshness is yours.  Enjoy your fresh start!  Now that’s Upbeat Living!

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Energy – Peace – Meditation

 

• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. Both that book and Peace Within are available through her office. Just email books@kebba.com.
• For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: calendar@kebba.com.

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UpBeat Living: What Causes Your Stress?

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“Stress is probably ultimately the underlying cause of all disease.”

 –Dr. Gladys T. McGarey

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“The Mother of Holistic Medicine”, Dr. Gladys T. McGarey (M.D., M.D.H.), has said, “Stress is probably ultimately the underlying cause of all disease.”  Now, medical research has revealed that there is no longer any doubt that stress is a factor in human health conditions, especially depression, heart disease, HIV/Aids, and some virally caused cancers. In a review of a range of medical studies, psychology professor Sheldon Cohen, of Carnegie Melon University, found two pathways by which stress might increase how sick we are.

Stress creates changes that create changes that may, in turn, cause or increase illness.

First, stressed people don’t sleep well and are less likely to take care of themselves and follow doctors’ orders.  Second, stress impacts the body’s endocrine system, which should be releasing certain patterns of hormones that affect the immune system and inflammation.  Stress creates changes that create changes that may, in turn, cause or increase illness.  Cohen found a strong relationship between stress and depression, especially in people with strong social stress factors, like a divorce or the death of someone they love.  Workplace stress and other forms of chronic stress, however, were more likely to contribute to heart disease.  Since 2000, a number of studies have also shown that there is a link between stress and HIV/AIDS.

Have you ever noticed you were more tired when stressed?  Did you ever have a cold that got worse when you got bad news?  Who has experienced neck pain and headaches, when there is too much to do, or there is just too much going on around you?

Your symptoms are natural!  The body does not like negative stress!  Below is a chart of Stress Sources.   Glance over the chart and ask yourself, “when was this true for me?”  Then journal out your thoughts.

How do you react to stress, or how you have reacted in the past?

Next time, we begin a series on specific tools for beating stress, whatever the cause!  Stress is costly, and this is your life!

Figure 1.  Stress Sources

 

CONFLICTS

Difficult People

Available Time vs. Needs and Goals

Available Resources vs. Needs and Goals

Personal Values vs. Values of an Authority Figure

UNMET NEEDS

Unmet Emotional Needs

Unmet Physical Needs

Pain, Chronic Health Conditions

Limited Body Mobility

Old Emotional Agendas

Feeling Limited Or Trapped

UNEXPECTED EXTERNAL FACTORS

Significant Personal Loss (Death of Spouse, Job Loss)

Significant Community Loss (9/11 Attacks, Hurricane Katrina, Superstorm Sandy)

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a corporate stress management trainer and the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You, and the 2012 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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