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If you are ready for more love in your life, this article on Love Codes is for you! Many don’t realize that people communicate respect, regard, caring, affection, and love in at least six different styles. And when we know what some of these styles are, we suddenly notice the many, many signals of caring and love that are coming our way all the time. We can also then choose to get our love messages across in another person’s style, to be sure they’re getting our signals.
The easiest people to hear are The Verbalizers. They use words. They tell you “I love you,” “You’re super,” “I’m so glad you’re in my life,” “We’re so glad you could come for dinner this evening,” “Let’s get together again soon.” You can use words back to them. This is clear. You know when these folks are expressing love.
Second easiest to understand are The Gifters. These folks give you stuff. They show up with a flower from their garden, a packet of cookies they made, or a card for your birthday. Of course, they may bring fine chocolates and jewelry, and that’s all right too. Some of these folks may even send you a plane ticket.
The third group is still somewhat easy to understand. These are The Touchers. They hug you hello, they touch your arm for emphasis, they hold your hand, they may rub your neck. They show they care through touch. One holiday, I went to join friends at their home. Their small nephew really likes people. As the front door opened, I saw a streak coming toward me. It was the Human Love Bullet! Tiny Riggs jetted into my leg, throwing his arms around my knee. I felt so loved.
The fourth type is often unrecognized. These are The Do-Fors. These people are always doing something for you. In men, this may take the form of always fixing things around your house or taking your car in to the garage. In women, this more often takes the form of cooking something for you or offering you something they have prepared. These folks bring your paper in from the driveway, pick up something you’ve dropped, and ask if you need anything from the grocery store. For a group, they volunteer to sing and do readings, make the photocopies, email the membership meeting notices, and set up the chairs for events.
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Now, you may be thinking, “But, I give gifts and do things for people.” Yes, you are a combination type. And most people are combination types. Your loved ones are lucky. And perhaps you have known people who share love in 3, 4, 5, or even all of the Love Codes. Great! Enjoy.
The fifth type is the most difficult love communicator for many people to understand. These are the Quality Time People. They hang out with you. They may call and just stay on the phone, waiting for you to talk. And you’re thinking, “What does this person want?” They’re telling you they care about you by spending time with you. They may come by your house for no apparent reason. They want to spend time with you. They may not know this is their way of communicating regard, affection, or even love. But now you know. To nurture relationships with these people, plan activities with them. It may not matter what activity, just plan something, and spend time with them.
The last group is the Cash Communicators. They tell you they care with money. We see this in parents of college kids, who often ask, “How are things going? Do you need any money?” In this type of love communication, money is truly the currency of caring. They donate to worthy causes, and they give generous tips. Some people who can’t communicate caring any other way rely on offering money as their means of sharing their love.
So we can see that love takes many forms. And there’s so much more love going around than we have been recognizing. How about that kind driver on the freeway this week who sweetly pulled back to let you into the lane you needed? This is lovingkindness. How about the smile from a stranger in the grocery store? This is the look that tells you that another human wishes you well.
Love: it feels good and helps your health. Let’s receive it, send it, and enjoy it, in all its forms. The Apostle Paul said, “Make love your aim.” Now you can aim more accurately. And, now you can decode when love is aiming for you.
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Kebba Buckley Button is a stress/energy management expert, holistic healer, and award-winning author who celebrates life. She has a longtime natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within: Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office. They are also available in Scottsdale, Arizona, at the Franciscan Renewal Center bookstore and at the bookstore at St. Barnabas on the Desert Episcopal Church. Or simply email us to order: kebba@kebba.com . Thank you!
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