Upbeat Living:  Rudeness Stress and How to Handle It

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Rudeness Stress is all too prevalent now, as more people are stressed out than ever before, and it seems “reasonable” to them to be rude, nasty, and profane to you.  Of course you feel stressed by someone being rude, but you’ve come to the right place.  This column is committed to helping you live with the most joy and satisfaction you can.  Science and reason come together here, to give you the best ways to have the best life you can: best relationships, improved health and less aging.  We call this Upbeat Livingsm.

So when you inevitably get rude and nasty behavior aimed at you, know this:

  • Difficult people are a very common source of stress. They can totally suck your energy and leave you exhausted and frustrated– if you let them.
  • And that is what they want! Some are insecure and trying to bring others down to their level.
  • Some see your light shining and are jealous, so they want to dim your light, if they can.
  • Some simply enjoy others’ pain, and they hope to hurt you, especially in front of others.
  • Your best response is usually no response. And others will give YOU credit.
  • And you are always at choice about how you respond.

An unknown writer said,

Be thankful for the difficult people.  They have shown you exactly who you don’t want to be. 

 

Famous motivational pastor, Joel Osteen, said,

Sometimes, God uses difficult people, like sandpaper, to rub the rough edges off of us. 

 

So, for example, if someone has just made you the butt of a joke in front of others, keep smiling.  They gave you a gag award for talking too much?  Here’s your strategy.  With a cheerful smile on your face, and possibly a little laugh, say, “Isn’t it wonderful we all have such a great sense of humor!”  Then quietly, peacefully, walk away.  No rolling your eyes. Portray pleasant happiness.  Smile as you walk away.  If you think they were trying to humiliate you, they were.  If you can pretend you found the humiliating circumstance funny, do that, laugh, and again, walk away, because you are very busy and need to get to your next meeting/deadline/appointment. If it was at a company party, never go again.  You are so busy, you can’t think what your calendar holds for that day, when they ask you to the next company party.  A lot of people never go to company parties, and now you are one of them.

Are there experiences you have had with rude and/or nasty people?  How did you deal with it?  What now seems like the most effective way to deal with it?

A fractured Latin phrase advises us:  Nil Illegitimi Carborundum, or “Don’t let the bastards wear you down”.  Again, don’t give them energy.  You have a right to lead a healthy and happy life. When you encounter Rudeness Stress next time, be brief in dealing with anything negative. Soon, you will notice your stamina rising and your happiness taking over.  And that’s Upbeat Living!

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UpBeat Living: Heaven’s Thoughts on Landscaping

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What does Heaven think of the way we use our gifts?  What are Heaven’s Thoughts on how we use the incredible array of resources we have been blessed with? Here’s a light look at how the conversation might go, if God and a couple of saints were talking about it.   And you don’t have to be a person of faith to enjoy it.  I found this piece circulating the Internet, Author Unknown.  Enjoy!

GOD (to St. Francis of Assisi):
Frank, you know all about gardens and  nature. What in the world is going on down there on the planet? What happened to the dandelions, violets, milkweeds and stuff I  started eons ago? I had a perfect no-maintenance garden plan. Those plants grow in any type of soil, withstand drought and multiply with abandon. The nectar from the long-lasting blossoms attracts butterflies, honey bees and flocks of songbirds. I expected to see a vast garden of colors by now. But, all I see are these green rectangles.

ST.  FRANCIS:
It’s  the tribes that settled there, Lord. The Suburbanites. They started calling your flowers ‘weeds’ and went to great lengths to kill them and replace them with grass.

GOD:
Grass? But, it’s so boring. It’s not colorful. It doesn’t attract butterflies, birds and bees; only grubs and sod worms. It’s sensitive to temperatures. Do these Suburbanites really want all that grass growing there?

ST.  FRANCIS:
Apparently so, Lord. They go to great pains to grow it and keep it green. They begin each spring by fertilizing grass and poisoning any other plant that crops up in the  lawn.

GOD:
The  spring rains and warm weather probably make  grass grow really fast. That must make the Suburbanites happy.

ST.  FRANCIS:
Apparently not, Lord. As soon as it grows a little, they cut it– sometimes twice a week.

GOD:
They cut it? Do they then bale it like hay?

ST.  FRANCIS:
Not  exactly, Lord. Most of them rake it up and put it in bags.

GOD:
They bag it? Why? Is it a cash crop? Do they sell it?

ST.  FRANCIS:
No, Sir, just the opposite. They pay to throw it away.

GOD:
Now,  let me get this straight. They fertilize grass so it will grow. And, when it does grow, they cut it off and pay to throw it away?

ST.  FRANCIS:   Yes, Sir.

GOD:
These Suburbanites must be relieved in the  summer when we cut back on the rain and turn up  the heat. That surely slows the growth and saves them a lot of work.

FRANCIS:You  aren’t going to believe this, Lord. When the grass stops growing so fast, they drag out hoses and pay more money to water it, so they can continue to mow it and pay to get rid of it.

GOD:
What  nonsense. At least they kept some of the trees.  That was a sheer stroke of genius, if I do say so myself. The trees grow leaves in the spring to provide beauty and shade in the summer. In the autumn, they fall to the ground and form a natural blanket to keep moisture in the soil and protect the trees and bushes. It’s a natural cycle of life.

ST.  FRANCIS:
You  better sit down, Lord. The Suburbanites have drawn a new circle. As soon as the leaves fall, they rake them into great piles and pay to have them hauled away.

GOD:
No!?  What do they do to protect the shrub and tree roots in the winter to keep the soil moist and loose?

ST.  FRANCIS:
After throwing away the leaves, they go out and buy something which they call mulch.  They haul it home and spread it around in place of the leaves.

GOD:
And where do they get this mulch?

ST.  FRANCIS:
They cut down trees and grind them up to make the  mulch.

GOD:
Enough! I don’t want to think about this anymore. St. Catherine, you’re in charge of the arts. What movie have you scheduled for us tonight?

CATHERINE:

‘Dumb and Dumber’, Lord.  It’s a story about….

GOD:
Never mind, I think I just heard the whole story from St. Francis.

So: how are you using your gifts and resources?  Could you be doing more?  Recycling?  Growing veggies? Wrapping gifts with reuseable bags?  The list goes on, and so can you, in helping the Planet.  And that’s Upbeat Living!

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Upbeat Living: 25 Ways to Use Chopsticks

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Part of the Upbeat Livingsm philosophy is that we need to use our creativity to keep our thinking and our lifestyles fresh; for example, how many ways can you repurpose the simple, disposable chopsticks from an Asian eatery?  I have found chopsticks are terrific tools, without even painting them glossy or trimming them to use as dowels.  I was awakened to the incredible versatility of these humble devices, when one day, I looked at my water crock (held a 3-gallon bottle) and suddenly saw it needed…something.

My crock had a blue line but no other decoration.  I pulled out a box with about 30 craft paint bottles in it, and I stared at the crock.  It was glossy.  A brush wouldn’t work.  So I reached for a chopstick, dipped the large end in paint, and began making colorful lines of dots, parallel to the blue line.  When I was done, there were about 6 lines of dots, and both the look and the energy of the crock were completely different.   Since that fateful day, I have seen chopsticks turn into tools for all kinds of jobs.  And no guilt:  you were going to throw them away anyway, weren’t you?  Here is a list of 25 of my favorite uses for chopsticks.  See if this list inspires you.  stress, chopsticks, Upbeat Living, Kebba Buckley Button, creativity

  • Pick up food to eat
  • Pick up noodles, from pot or bowl
  • Style hair
  • Build into art projects
  • Small end- clean pesto from threads of rocket blender
  • Large end- stir pesto through noodles, tube pasta, or fusilli
  • Either end- paint impressionist art one dot at a time
  • Small end- pierce foil seal of yogurt when seal refuses to politely roll off when tab is pulled
  • Small end- break vacuum seal on pound jar of nuts so you can pull pieces of the seal away
  • Lift hot teabag out of a tall mug or teapot
  • Large end- Stir/whip protein powder into moo in tall glass for protein shake
  • Large end- stir powdered Vitamin C drink-  [dissolves better due to square end]
  • Large end, or 2 chopsticks held together with large ends 1/4” apart- briskly beat one or 2 eggs
  • Large end- reach, snag, and pull watch or glasses which are otherwise out of reach on your desk
  • Large end- make hole in center of beef patty to broil evenly
  • Small end on its side- crimp edges of pie crust before baking
  • Pop bubble when frittata or omelette forms one.
  • Small end stuck in soil, fasten plant that needs support
  • Separate spaghetti or fettuccine while cooking
  • Adjust food presentation on plate by tiny distances, to perfect the look for photography or Mom
  • Small end covered by dust cloth, run along inner edges of picture frames or smartphone/smart pad screens to get that last dust out of there
  • Small end- apply single drops of glue or cement to repair torn leather
  • Small end- make 1-3 punctures in top of banana to help snap stem end off
  • Mix tiny amounts of craft paints to get perfect match for furniture touch-ups
  • [What else can you think of?]

In what other ways have you ever used chopsticks?  May I add those to my collection?  Do you have a picture?  Has this piece “about chopsticks” made any other kinds of creativity or repurposing ideas flow into your mind?  Yes, that’s Upbeat Living!  And I hope you have a joyful day!

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Upbeat Living: Sugar vs. Artificial Sweeteners

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Do you sometimes wonder about the benefits and health costs of sugar vs. artificial sweeteners?  Have you ever had the idea that you should cut back on sugar?  Was it your dentist who suggested it, saying sugar could cause cavities?  Or was it someone telling you that sugar makes you gain weight?  Then, if you cut back on sugar, what are your sweet alternatives?  In the US, various ideas about sugar being Bad For You caused a great increase in the development of artificial sweeteners, and in the 1960’s, the war of the sweeteners was on.

Cyclamates were big in Europe, and those compounds tasted much like sugar.  They were banned in the US after a study showed they caused cancer in lab rats.  Saccharin took over the sweetener market, and diet sodas began showing up everywhere.  There were even store-brand sodas made with saccharin. The same group that said cyclamates were Bad For You now said saccharin was Bad For You, and aspartame (“Nutrasweet” and several other names) hit the market.  Many tried it and liked it; many got headaches and kidney pain. For years, respected sources have been saying Nutrasweet is actually dangerously Bad For You.  One detailed resource on this is Dr. Joseph Mercola’s webpage:  http://aspartame.mercola.com/ .  Are you sensing a pattern here?

The next artificial sweetener to come out was Splenda (sucralose).  But this year it has been proven to cause cancer.  And many had digestive distress from it.  Now are you seeing a pattern here, about trying to avoid sugar by trying artificial sweeteners?  Some other unpleasant findings about artificial sweeteners:

  • Caused lab monkeys to lose their sense of food volume, resulting in a huge increase in how much they ate
  • Are associated with decreased sweet-sensing in normal sweet foods and a decrease in palatability of non-sweet foods like vegetables.  Sugared sweets tasted less satisfying and vegetables became yukky.
  • Are associated with metabolic syndrome and weight gain in humans
  • May be addictive.  Rats preferred saccharin to cocaine in one study.  Look out, humans!

Plus, in Chinese medicine, it’s not the calories in sugar that swell your waistline. It’s the quality of yin (the expanding forces of the Universe) in a food or drink.  So anything you consume that is sweet for any reason—will cause your belly to get bigger.

This brings us around to the natural sweetener, stevia.  It is FDA approved, available in many health food stores and even in sodas.  But if you’re adding it to foods and drinks to “lose weight”, i.e., be thinner, stevia is still yin and could cause your waistline to swell.  Time to add ab lifts to your workout.

Sugars have been condemned for rotting teeth and leading us to diabetes.  But those studies are done with refined sugars, including high fructose corn syrup.  Until studies are done on the effects of unrefined sugars, consider sticking to small amounts of raw honey, maple syrup, and dried cane syrup.  Also, cinnamon sprinkled on top of foods or beaten into your scrambled eggs will enhance sweetness. Your best bet with desserts is to skip the highly sweetened ones and switch to fruit.  Fruit contains much more nutrition than conventional cake and ice cream, and it will fill and satisfy you in many fewer calories.

The moral of this story is: switch what you swallow, and you’ll feel better and look better.  And that’s Upbeat Living!

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Upbeat Living: Worry Less About Your Health

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With the virtual tsunami of health advice splashing into our email, magazines, and TV news, people have started feeling overwhelmed by information and advice:  even as a holistic stress/energy expert, I say, “Worry less about your health!”  There is a lot of conflicting information out there.  There are also a lot of early results from unqualified studies, which doesn’t make those results valid.  And many results are reported as if they apply to everyone, not the specific group the study was testing (i.e., forgetful diabetics with freckles and psoriasis).

So yes!  Maybe it’s time we lightened up a bit.  What if we  took generally good care of ourselves and laughed more?  That would put us firmly in the range of Upbeat Livingsm

And how do we get there?  Let’s look at stress differently.  A general effect of stress is the lowered production of DHEA, dehydroepiandrosterone, the master hormone.  That makes you tired and flat-brained.  However, your own body makes DHEA whenever you are in a bliss state.  Then you feel less stressed!  I have previously written about how you can increase your own DHEA (http://wp.me/pw4HM-oc ).  One of those ways is lightening up and even laughing.

Advice from an unknown author, often quoted in emails is:

Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, Chardonnay in one hand, chocolate in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming ‘WOO-HOO, what a ride!!’

 

That writer is talking about ramping up your joyful, adventuring side, which will net you very high serum (in your blood, measured with a blood test) DHEA!

Now here is an amusing piece that circulates the Internet.  It’s funny, it’s thought-provoking, and I’ll give you the correct information after you quit laughing:

For those of you who watch what you eat, here’s the final word on nutrition and health. It’s a relief to know the truth after all those conflicting nutritional studies.

  1. The Japanese eat very little fat and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
  1. The Mexicans eat a lot of fat and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
  1. The Chinese drink very little red wine and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
  1. The Italians drink a lot of red wine and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans…
  1. The Germans drink a lot of beer and eat lots of sausages and fats and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

CONCLUSION:  Eat and drink what you like.  Speaking English is apparently what kills you!

 

Wasn’t that fun?  Now here are the actual rankings of those countries, in coronary heart disease deaths per 100,000:  China 99, Mexico 80, US 77, Germany 63, Italy 48, Japan 30, France 30.

This shows us a few things, primarily that we shouldn’t get our health care information from cute emails circulating the Internet.  You have a right to the best life you can put together.  So laugh, read the article on DHEA, and pump up your pzazz with laughter and bliss.  And worry less about your healthAnd that’s Upbeat Living!

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Upbeat Living:  Dishwashing Stress, Or Why I Don’t Do Dishwashers

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Over the years, and across a variety of dwellings, I have discovered I can cut my stress by handwashing my dishes and eliminating the use of any dishwashers.  That’s right.  I cook and bake a lot, and I have less stress without using a dishwasher.  Conventional wisdom says a dishwasher is a time-saving convenience, and everyone should have and use one.  Some people would call mine a unique stress solution:  not what would work best for everyone.  But as you consider my reasons, ask yourself if there are things you are going along with because conventional wisdom says you “should”, and that’s not really working for you.  Here are the 7 ways dishwashing machines just don’t work for me, instead causing me stress:

  • The noise dominates both the kitchen and surrounding area, even with a “quiet” dishwasher.
  • The vibration is fundamentally disturbing.
  • The smell of dishwasher detergent is unpleasant, cloying, and expands into adjacent rooms.
  • It makes you wait.  With dishes for 2, it would take days to reasonably fill that dishwasher.  And who wants to wait, for their favorite paring knife, cup measure, and spatula?  I have to wash those to reuse them twice a day, anyway.
  • It takes time to load and unload. People think you save time by using the dishwasher.  But you still have to scrape and rinse the dishes, install them in favorable positions in the machine.  Then you have to wait.  Then some dishes have little puddles on them or little white mineral shadows, and they have to be hand-rubbed with a dish towel.  I would rather soak, hand wash, then hand dry the dishes with lightweight cotton dish towels.  My dishes are always clean and sparkling, and each batch is done in far less time than the dishwasher would take.
  • The machine is simply the wrong tool.  My strongest reason for not doing dishwashers is:  many of my favorite tools are not dishwasher-qualified.  Either they would melt in the dishwasher, or they are so light that they would flip around, get bent, even fill with detergent water which spills on the dry dishes, as soon as the dishwasher door is opened.
  • As a bonus, the hot water for hand washing the dishes provides moist heat therapy for my hands.  It feels good.  If the dishes went into the dishwashing machine, I would need to create another habit to give my hands heat therapy.

My conclusion:  dishwashing machines are not for me.  I’m happy about it, so others’ opinions don’t count.  Are there things other people say you should do or own or practice, that just don’t work for you?  Then slash your stress by doing what does work for you.  Feel your tension go down and your energy rise.  And that’s Upbeat Livingsm!

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  • Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com. 
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Upbeat Living:  What Puppy is for You?

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When you think of puppies, what do you feel?  Does your face break out in a huge, soft smile?  Does your whole body relax with joy?  When you pick up a puppy, how do you feel?  Do you feel love?  I personally believe that the greater purpose of dogs on this planet is to express unconditional love.  Read the following story and see if you come to share my belief.

There is an iconic story, author unknown, of a farmer who had some puppies he wanted to sell.  One version goes as follows:

The farmer painted a sign advertising the 4 pups and set about nailing it to a post on the edge of his yard. As he was driving the last nail into the post, he felt a tug on his overalls. He looked down into the eyes of a little boy.  “Mister,” he said, “I want to buy one of your puppies.”  “Well,” said the farmer, as he rubbed the sweat off the back of his neck, “these puppies come from fine parents and cost a good deal of money.”

The boy dropped his head for a moment. Then, reaching deep into his pocket, he pulled out a handful of change and held it up to the farmer.  “I’ve got thirty-nine cents. Is that enough to take a look?”

“Sure,” said the farmer. And with that he let out a whistle. “Here, Dolly!” he called.  Out from the doghouse and down the ramp ran Dolly, the mother dog, followed by four little balls of fur.

The little boy pressed his face against the chain link fence. His eyes danced with delight. As the dogs made their way to the fence, the little boy noticed something else stirring inside the doghouse.  Slowly another little ball appeared, this one noticeably smaller. Down the ramp it slid. Then in a somewhat awkward manner, the little pup began hobbling toward the others, doing its best to catch up.

“I want that one,” the little boy said, pointing to the runt. The farmer knelt down at the boy’s side and said, “Son, you don’t want that puppy. He will never be able to run and play with you like these other dogs would.”

With that the little boy stepped back from the fence, reached down, and began rolling up one leg of his trousers.  In doing so he revealed a steel brace running down both sides of his leg attaching itself to a specially made shoe.  Looking back up at the farmer, he said, “You see sir, I don’t run too well myself, and he will need someone who understands.”

With tears in his eyes, the farmer reached down and picked up the little pup.  Holding it carefully he handed it to the little boy.  “How much?” asked the little boy.  “No charge,” answered the farmer, “There’s no charge for love.”

This story speaks to one of the most primal instincts we have:  to love and to be loved by someone who understands us.  The puppy with uneven legs represents unconditional love.  He also is a being that the little boy can pour out love to.  The puppy will be receptive to being loved affectionately and will be expressing his love with warmth and affection.  Think of the different personalities, enthusiasm, and receptivity of the different balls of fur rolling out of the doghouse.  So, what are you looking for in friends and in loving relationships?  Which puppy would be for you?  Which friends are for you? Living by your values puts you square in Upbeat Livingsm!  Make the choices that fits you best.  After all, it’s your life!

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  • Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com. 
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Upbeat Living:  Beating Renovation Stress—Keeping Your Cool in the Heat of Renovations

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Here are top tips for beating Renovation Stress!  Yes, you’ll be keeping your cool in the heat of renovations!  Your goal will be feeling energized and feeling good and being pleasant, while the shape and order of your home is going gaga.  Take it from me:  we just had most of the carpet in our home replaced.  What an adventure!  We learned a lot.  Anything you normally reach for will not be where it normally is.  It’s noisy, stinky, and messy.  So try these top tips to stay sane:

  1. Plan an R&R spot where you can sit/rest/sip/munch/make calls/check email. This will be out of the noise/dust/bustle of the renovation project.  It also gets your sweet little feet off the new carpet or tile, if that’s what you’re having done.  Defend this spot, since you definitely will need rest breaks.  The photo above shows Hunky Husband reclining in his own recliner, but outside in the Feng Shui Garden.
  2. Have a supply of cold water, in the refrigerator or in our RRS. Have enough to share with any workers or volunteers.  Drink plenty of water.
  3. Have healthy, tasty snacks pre-made. Don’t count on having the time and motivation to run out to get lunch to go.  Or knowing where your car keys are.   See #4.
  4. Have a box or tote in which you toss your favorite electronics—phone, iPad, laptop—and their chargers, your checkbook, your purse, your keys, and the bills you need to pay today. Also put your primary calendar in this box.
  5. Get clean flatpack bankers’ boxes from your nearby office supplies store. We used 35 of them to pack for a flooring job for half our house.  This style stacks well and invites labeling.  Mark each one with your code for the room they came from, i.e., LR for Living Room and BR for Bedroom. The boxes slide easily along your floor, if you decide you want the stack in a different place. You can also easily fill them with things to toss or donate, as you unpack.
  6. Box any delicate items, such as wineglasses and trophies, carefully. Use your hand towel collection and remember, a décor basket counts as a box.
  7. After the carpet/tile/paint is installed, start unpacking. Notice how you love the spare look of each clean room with no Stuff in it!?  How much less Stuff would you like to own—30%?  Then discard/recycle/shred/put in donation boxes about a third of everything you would be unpacking
  8. Enjoy your improved, clean and cleared space!

Notice how happy you are now?  And how much more energy you have?  And how much less allergy you have?  And how free you feel?  Now that’s Upbeat Livingsm!

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  • Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com. 
  • For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: calendar@kebba.com .

 

UpBeat Living:  End All Excuse-Making!

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Today, I urge you to consider reducing your stress by ending all excuse-making. It doesn’t help you or your responsibilities.  It weakens you, your relationships, and any products you are delivering late. You can do your best to complete your commitments in a timely manner, or you can make excuses. If you are routinely running late, it’s time to change how much you commit to.  It’s making you look bad and frustrating everyone involved.

When you were a kid, you probably remember some other kid telling the teacher, “[T]he dog ate my homework!’  The kid’s excuse was the reason s/he gave for not having the homework done, or at least not having it to turn in.  The “excuse” was offered to hopefully get out of the responsibility for the commitment, in this case, arriving with completed homework.  The kid was not taking responsibility.

A friend produces an e-newsletter every week, for a large group.  As Editor, with the needs for list maintenance and editing the event submittals every week, she spends an average of a half day a week on the e-newsletter.  She finishes the newsletter event section each week, when a particular movie event submittal comes in.  The movie event obviously depends on theater listings, which don’t come out until Friday morning each week.  Recently, my editor friend received an email request, just as she was finishing sending the week’s e-newsletter.  The Late Requester wanted her to send out an event announcement for a couple of days forward.

My friend e-replied that the e-newsletter had already gone out for the week.  She said she had needed the event information by the night before, or at the latest, by 9 am that morning.  She highlighted the section of the e-newsletter that always gave the deadline.  The Late Requester wrote again, asking if the Editor couldn’t make an exception just this one time; the Late Requester said she had been waiting for the entertainment listing to be determined, so she would not create a conflict with the entertainment event for the same date.  The Editor and the Requestor had been sent the entertainment event information 5 hours before the late request.  The Editor chose not to waste her time and energy replying again.

Are you curious?  What was the Late Requester doing during the 5 hours between the time the entertainment event details were emailed to her and the time she emailed the Editor?  And why did the Late Requester not dial the phone and ask the Editor to “hold the presses”?  The Editor’s phone number is conveniently listed in every week’s e-newsletter, as well as in the print newsletter, and on the group’s websites.  If you think the Late Requester could have been more effective, then you understand that “waiting for the entertainment event details” was simply an excuse.  Further, did the Late Requester think, with a good enough excuse, that the e-newsletter would magically retract in time and not-have-gone-out?  She missed the deadline!  The e-news was gone across the e-waves!  The Late Requester would have received her own copy by then!  Is that what made her realize she meant to submit a listing?  Let’s exhale together now.

If, like the Late Requester, you love making excuses, rather than taking responsibility for making things go the way you want, you may love this website:  http://madtbone.tripod.com/, or, “The Mother of All Excuses Place”.  The site was inspired by a wealth of excuses people in a particular workplace offered, for not coming to work for the day.  The collection was so entertaining that it expanded to include sections for:  missing school and homework excuses, police or accident excuses, kids excuses, getting out of family events and holiday functions, breaking dates, doctor excuses, doctors note, missing church, wedding, diet excuses, why I ate that, debt excuses, tax excuses, not paying the rent, getting out of home repair excuses, unwanted house guest excuses, jury duty, defense excuses, not voting, no sex, miscellaneous excuses, excuses for becoming addicted to online slots, excuse related humor, and more.

If what you want is the best life you can create, consider ending all excuse making!  Take responsibility to empower yourself and have better results everywhere.  And that’s Upbeat Living!

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  • Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. That and her newest book,  Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, are available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com. 
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Upbeat Living: Profanity Stress?

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Is the English-speaking segment of the World now in Profanity Stress?  In the last few months, I have noticed a large shift in one area of the American language:  an upswing in the use of language that would have been unacceptable even 2 years ago.  It’s languaging that is still regarded as rude or profane enough that it needs to be bleeped in broadcast media.  Yet, on television evening talk shows, in live entertainment shows, and in campaign speeches, we now have the common and deliberate use of profanity.  Try to find one episode of one entertainment show without it.

In order to report on these performances, media need to cover the speaker’s mouth with a pixelated effect, a cartoon “pow”, or other obscuring effects, plus making some sound that prevents hearing the word/s.  A new video of a key Presidential candidate goes on for minutes with a montage of recent public occasions where he spoke in ways that required bleeping. Urban music has been using profanity for years, but performances on broadcast media often use substitute words for Those Words.  So why would current candidates use these words?  (I’ll wait…)

Apparently, they believe they will gain favor with those particular audiences, and that favor is worth the negative reactions they will get later from some.  But harsh wording is harsh on your nervous system.  You get a little stress jolt from hearing profanity.  The more profanity, the more of a stress jolt.  And you’ll get a social reaction jolt from people who don’t need to hear profanity.

I have written articles previously on the phenomenon that profanity can, in fact, release stress  (http://wp.me/pw4HM-mG), IF you don’t use it very much.  Swearing can actually reduce pain when you get injured.  But that isn’t what this current phenomenon is.

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One of my key references for how life has changed with the decades is my 1912 edition of Everybody’s Cyclopedia, a 5-volume set of words people thought were important several years before World War I.  That’s right.  I own a dictionary/encyclopedia from 1912.  It was prepared by writers and scholars connected to the Encyclopedia Britannica. And in this fascinating set of the best of the World’s concerns and knowledge 100 years ago were:  none of the words being bleeped today!  The word “profanity” isn’t even in Everybody’s Cyclopedia, let alone the names of personal body parts or sexual functions.  Not even the word “sex”.

Do we really need to be using profanity in public venues?  Do late-night talk show hosts really think it’s punchy and funny? Or are they trying to be “relevant”?  Has the American public sunk so low in education and taste, that they will only “enjoy” a Presidential candidate and vote for her/him if s/he uses profanity?  And what are those speechwriters thinking as they compose this material?

Is this languaging simply “relevant” noise?  For each of us, we need to decide how to craft our best life.  We are at choice at all times.  And using language that gives us a stress jolt is likely not for our Highest and Best good.  Don’t we all have enough stress already?  Dump your Profanity Stress and live at a higher level.  And that’s Upbeat Livingsm!

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  • Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office.  Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com.  
  • For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: calendar@kebba.com .