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Rudeness Stress is all too prevalent now, as more people are stressed out than ever before, and it seems “reasonable” to them to be rude, nasty, and profane to you. Of course you feel stressed by someone being rude, but you’ve come to the right place. This column is committed to helping you live with the most joy and satisfaction you can. Science and reason come together here, to give you the best ways to have the best life you can: best relationships, improved health and less aging. We call this Upbeat Livingsm.
So when you inevitably get rude and nasty behavior aimed at you, know this:
- Difficult people are a very common source of stress. They can totally suck your energy and leave you exhausted and frustrated– if you let them.
- And that is what they want! Some are insecure and trying to bring others down to their level.
- Some see your light shining and are jealous, so they want to dim your light, if they can.
- Some simply enjoy others’ pain, and they hope to hurt you, especially in front of others.
- Your best response is usually no response. And others will give YOU credit.
- And you are always at choice about how you respond.
An unknown writer said,
Be thankful for the difficult people. They have shown you exactly who you don’t want to be.
Famous motivational pastor, Joel Osteen, said,
Sometimes, God uses difficult people, like sandpaper, to rub the rough edges off of us.
So, for example, if someone has just made you the butt of a joke in front of others, keep smiling. They gave you a gag award for talking too much? Here’s your strategy. With a cheerful smile on your face, and possibly a little laugh, say, “Isn’t it wonderful we all have such a great sense of humor!” Then quietly, peacefully, walk away. No rolling your eyes. Portray pleasant happiness. Smile as you walk away. If you think they were trying to humiliate you, they were. If you can pretend you found the humiliating circumstance funny, do that, laugh, and again, walk away, because you are very busy and need to get to your next meeting/deadline/appointment. If it was at a company party, never go again. You are so busy, you can’t think what your calendar holds for that day, when they ask you to the next company party. A lot of people never go to company parties, and now you are one of them.
Are there experiences you have had with rude and/or nasty people? How did you deal with it? What now seems like the most effective way to deal with it?
A fractured Latin phrase advises us: Nil Illegitimi Carborundum, or “Don’t let the bastards wear you down”. Again, don’t give them energy. You have a right to lead a healthy and happy life. When you encounter Rudeness Stress next time, be brief in dealing with anything negative. Soon, you will notice your stamina rising and your happiness taking over. And that’s Upbeat Living!
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- Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert. She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within: Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office. Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com.
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I just had this happen to me the other day, a lady called the HOA association and started with an attitude. As I bit my tongue, I was so pleasant, answering her but she was getting even more upset and rude as I was being polite. I think she wanted a confrontation but I didn’t give in.
Kebba Buckley Button said:
Martha, I’m sure you are right: she wanted the release of exploding, and she was trying to use you as a fuse. Magnificent that you kept your elegant manner!
Tammy Rome said:
Timely reminders not to let the “energy vampires” suck you dry.
Kebba Buckley Button said:
Tammy, yes! So important. Otherwise, you don’t have the energy, health, and cheer you need, to do what you are actually here to do. Thanks so much for visiting and commenting!