Healthy Happy Loving Life: Changing a Long-Held Belief About Keeping

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Possibly all of us would like to have our homes and offices be neater and contain less Stuff.  Would you?  Some have enough Stuff that it looks like someone is moving.  Some even have so much Stuff that we would qualify for a Hoarders Help TV show. Where are you on that scale? The issue of controlling Stuff is actually an issue of Keeping.

The significance of Keeping really came home to me when my beloved mother died in Denver.  Keeping is the opposite of releasing.  Mom kept stuff for several reasons.  See if any of these sound familiar.

1. She wasn’t sure where to store it.
2. She wasn’t sure who she could give it to, to prevent having to store it.
3. She didn’t want to rip off future family historians, who might want that document or photo, to document something about the family.
4. She wouldn’t know what to call the file, or where to put it, if she were to keep that document.  How could it be retrieved when wanted?

Now understand, my mother was a Depression Kid.  Born in 1925, she grew up with people who washed every container and kept EVERYTHING: bottle caps, plastic tubs without lids, newspapers and magazines, string and wire, uncut fabric, broken jewelry, packaging… on and on, across every area of possible possessions.  Her belief was that everything should be kept until its next purpose or place was identified.  Nothing should be discarded, because we were poor, or thought we were.  We might not have a source for that string when we might need some later. So it was a sin to waste. Anything.

Releasing Stuff feels great!

So after Mom passed in 2017, my older sister did what she could inside the house.  Then she called me to come lead the clearing of the garage.  Ha!  I thought this would be about a 3-day project.  Oh no!  The deceptively neat stacks of boxes actually held thousands of potentially significant documents, articles, photos, and small objects. My sister and I sat knee-to-knee, going through each box together.  Even my mother’s wedding ring was in a group of desktop-type gear.  (Yes, thank you, I love being able to wear her ring.)

Near the box being explored, we always had a Goodwill box and a trash box.  It still took us 3 WEEKS to clear that garage, because of the document/photo boxes.  While the garage looked neat, it really was what today is viewed as a hoarder situation.  The garage was so full that no car could fit in it. This experience helped me to realize that I had Mom’s long-held belief lurking in my consciousness:  it’s a sin to waste anything. We might need that later.  Keeping is vital.

But while clearing the garage, my consciousness turned that long-held belief over and now really hates excess Stuff.  It believes releasing is good!  So now I try to release something every day.  About weekly, I walk into a room and ask myself, “what can I remove from this room?”  I often donate things I used to enjoy but which I no longer need.  I pass those things to a certain friend, when we have dinner, because she works in a charity shop.  I switched from paper memo notes to digital: my smartphone NOTES section holds my lists; this has massively reduced the need for filing.  My goal is to be keeping half the books and miscellaneous storage that I have now, possibly within 3 months.

I feel freer, having released this long-held belief of the necessity to KEEP.  My home looks better and better. I frequently find new ways to not bring things home to start with, which means I don’t have to store or release those things, ever.

Would you like to have a clean and clear office, or home, or both?  Would you like to spend less time cleaning, because you have less Stuff?  Would you like to avoid leaving weeks of clearing for your family, when you pass away?  Then release your Keeping, release extra Stuff, and enjoy being ever more Healthy, Happy, and Loving Life^sm!

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Kebba Buckley Button is a stress solutions expert and award-winning author who celebrates life.  She also has a longtime natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within:  Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine.  The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office.   To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Opinion Stress: What You Think of Me Is None of My Business

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© 2015 Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM. World Rights Reserved.

 

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Now be honest: how many times today did you consider someone else’s ideas about you? How many decisions did you make because someone else would or would not like exactly what you did? If your hair is royal blue and forms a peak across the center of your skull, maybe this isn’t you. Or maybe it is.

 

As a stress management expert, I want you to navigate as freely and joyfully through your life as you can. I want you to find the greatest health and fulfillment you can. And that means dealing firmly with the things that cause you stress, pain, and fatigue.  The results are a lifestyle I call Upbeat Living, always emphasizing the Up beat, like the music term.

 

One of the things I see most draining people is the desire to make a choice that is harmless to others, but there is fear of others’ opinions. So many of these fears are small. For example: you’re having lunch with a vegetarian, but you really crave a burger, and that’s better for your metabolism; you’re afraid to order what you want, for fear of disapproval. Or you want to cut your hair short and dye it vivid red, but you’re afraid of negative feedback in the workplace or that the one you’re dating will be less attracted to you. But some of these fears are bigger: maybe you want to leave your current financial career that’s sucking your soul dry. But you’re afraid your family will disown you if you become a chef.

 

Argue for your limitations and they are yours.

~ Rev. Terry Cole-Whittaker

 

If the vegetarian expresses disapproval of your lunch order, the message is that you are wrong—not worthy. If your workplace expresses disapproval of your hair color, the message is that you are wrong—not worthy—for their group. And if your family would disown you for quitting your draining job and becoming a chef, the message is that you are wrong and not worthy.

 

Several decades ago, I encountered a book by (Rev.) Terry Cole-Whittaker, with the most amusing title: What You Think Of Me Is None Of My Business. Cole-Whittaker believes firmly that each of us is already a complete person, with nothing missing. So we cannot be inadequate.

God does not make junk!

~ Rev. Terry Cole-Whittaker

So according to Cole-Whittaker, other people are not our source, the Divine is. Since God/the Universe/the Divine is completely infinite, all options are open to us, and the sky is the limit. Or not even. She encourages us to think very freely about why we’re attached to what and whom, and to be open to just releasing those attachments. We often have a very strong sense of possession: MY job, MY hairdresser, MY beloved. She tells of realizing she was hanging onto her first marriage, long after it was no longer working or salvageable. She finally got honest with herself and saw she didn’t want anyone else to have her husband!

 

Try this: find 15 minutes of you-time in a quiet place. Or find it in a charming coffee shop where you plug in your laptop, with the hum and chatter of the place creating happy white noise. Now free-write to yourself and the Universe about your life—what you like and don’t, what’s working and what isn’t, what and how you would have things in your dream life. Do you see ways in which you’re feeling stuck? Now: YOU are the only person who can choose differently.

 

What I think of you is none of your business. And what you think of me is none of my business. But what you think of your life, what nurtures you, and what would make you happy and fulfilled—those things are entirely your business. Create some you-time every day, as you can, and keep writing to yourself and the Universe. Keep adding to the “discussion” you have going with you and the Divine. Notice what makes your heart dim or race. Notice you’re beginning to make small changes. And maybe you’re starting to make big ones.  Now, that’s Upbeat Living!

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• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office. Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com.
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UpBeat Living: What To Do When There’s Nothing You Can Do About That

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From time to time, we are stuck in, or we see, a situation that is ridiculous, absurd, and not right.  We feel stressed and anxious.  We may feel frustrated, even to the point of having a tight stomach, a headache, or knots in our back, because there is nothing we can do.  Here are several examples.

A TV show tells the story of a house that disappeared overnight.  The husband came home and found his house missing– a site-built home, not a mobile home.  It evolved that there was an inheritance dispute. Do you feel stressed, hearing about this? Yet there is nothing the observer can do about it.

In a famous story, a family hired architect Frank Lloyd Wright to build a home for them adjacent to their favorite wooded picnic spot, a flat rock at the edge of a stream, with its own waterfall.  The family wanted to easily access their favorite picnic spot and eat there more often. The architect decided he wanted to build the rock and waterfall into the home, so the family lost their favorite outdoor picnic spot.  In addition, according to their son, “you can’t really live in such a house”.  So they lost their picnic spot, spent massive funds, were unable to live in the house, and made an architect famous for “The House at Fallingwater”.  The house became a museum.  Do you feel frustrated or angry when you think about this?  Yet there is nothing the observer can do about it.

In the news this week from Wisconsin, a video bubbled up that portrays several men trapping a deer, wrestling with it to put a yellow t-shirt on it, and laughing.  The deer escaped and has been seen since, still wearing a portion of the yellow t-shirt.  Wisconsin Department of Natural Resources advises that the deer looks healthy and should be left alone.  Watching the video, a friend was reminded of human sexual assault, and she imagined how the three men treat the women in their lives, then laugh.  My friend feels very disturbed by this story and the behavior of the three men.  Do you?  And yet, there is nothing the observer can do about it.

The stock market is acting squirrelly, the US border with Mexico is not secure, North Korea may launch missiles at another country, another abused child has disappeared.  Yet there is nothing the observer can do about it.

But wait!  Yes, the observer/you can do three things:

1. Pray or hold Go(o)d Thoughts, even if the event seems to be over.
2.  Detach, exhale, drop your shoulders, and turn your attention away.  Relax physically, and don’t allow yourself to go over and over the sequence.  No obsessing.  If the bad thoughts come back again, exhale each time.
3.  Focus on what is good, uplifting, and meaningful to you.  This will cause the lower thoughts to be displaced, and your energy level will begin to rise immediately.

Phillipians4:8 advises us:

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

What to do when there’s nothing you can do?  Pray, hold Good Thoughts, and let it go.  And get on with your life.

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UpBeat Living: 3 Ways You Can Release Pain and Stress by Holding Your Fingers

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Got physical discomforts from stress and emotional burdens? From fatigue and appetite problems to skin eruptions and ulcers, our bodies may store our distressful experiences. Spiritual, mental, and emotional ills can make us feel bad physically. Also, if we feel bad physically, it is harder to feel great emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Releasing stress and pain feels good and means less effort is required to live each hour. It takes more work to hold in pain and hurts than it does to release them.  Here are three simple, portable LifeTools(sm) to help you release stress and pain, even physical pain. Finger holds and pressure points are related to acupressure, the art of using access points to the nervous system to release build-ups of discomforts.

First, gently hold and take three complete breaths on each finger and then the palm center. Start by gently grasping your left thumb with your right hand. Wrap the right fingers and thumb around your left thumb as if “hugging” it. Don’t squeeze. Pressure is not necessary or helpful. Take 3 slow, complete breaths and move to holding your left forefinger. Repeat with each finger on both hands. Also, touch your right fingertips to the left palm and take 3 slow, complete breaths, then repeat with the left fingertips to the right palm.  This series will release overall stress, and it can be used to prevent jet lag.

Second, hold the thumb-forefinger web about an inch below the large knuckle of the forefinger. Hold the muscle that feels like firm tofu.  Ideal for tension headaches and headaches caused by high-pollution days, this is a general pain releaser for the body.  Also works for throat pain from high-pollution days.

Third, place the thumb of each hand over the ring-fingernail of the same hand, and hold as long as you like. This releases constricted breath or lessens temporary pain, such as that caused by dental drilling.  Do this while jogging!  Relax your hands and no one will ever notice you are doing finger poses.

If you are interested in learning more ways to use healing arts on yourself:  in the Phoenix area, our next Jin Shin Jyutsu Self-Help Classes are coming up.  Part 1 will be held February 2d, from 9 am to 1 pm, and Part 2 will be February 16, from 9 am to 1 pm.  The class is $100 for each part, which includes the book for that part and a laminated chart of the key points.  Your payment (Cash-Check-Visa-MC-Amex) holds your place.  Space is limited, so call or email now, 480-250-1177 or kebba@kebba.com.

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a corporate stress management trainer and the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (on Amazon.com >Books>Buckley), and the 2012 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core (on Amazon.com >Books>Button).  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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