Caution: Assumptions Can Kill Relationships

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©2015  Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM.  World Rights Reserved.

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Have you ever caught yourself assuming something you have no way of knowing? A lot of gossip comes from, well, nothing. It’s human nature to fill in the blanks when curious about something. But we need to take care we are neither consumed by our natural curiosity nor creating problems for someone with our assumptions.

 

Here’s a relatively harmless example from a business networking meeting. To get the dynamics, you need to know that I only ever eat small meals. This particular group always has a buffet, so it’s interesting to see what people choose to put on their plates. However, normally members never comment on what others are eating. This one day, an unusually fine-boned, thin (as in, no one is thinner) and athletic member took a massive interest in my lunch plate.

 

“I came across some awful characters when I got some kind of status and came to Hollywood. Then you have directors trying to sleep with you, assuming that you will do things because of the way you dress.”

~ Stacey Dash

 

She asked me loudly, “[I]s that all you’re going to eat?” I hate becoming the center of attention for something so trivial, but I replied pleasantly, “[O]h, I never eat much.” At the same moment, this woman finished taking the food she wanted, and turning out of the buffet line, saying even more loudly, to the room,“[O]h! She’s on a diet!!” To make that statement, she had to be assuming that I felt overweight and wanted to lose pounds, and further that I was choosing food reduction as a means of losing pounds. I did not enjoy the flash realization that my “friend” thought I was overweight. Nor did I enjoy her telling the entire group that I was overweight and had decided to diet, to lose weight.

 

“I’m just trying to get rid of all the mystery surrounding me and let people see what I’m thinking. So they can understand me and stop assuming things about me.”

~ Juliana Hatfield

 

In part, at first, I felt humiliated. I also saw this could escalate into a group discussion, as others started peering at my plate and considering what the ultrathin woman was saying. It was horrible being put in this position by someone else’s broadcasted assumptions. Taking a deep breath and a huge risk, I matched the ultrathin woman’s volume and said calmly to the room, “I’m not on a diet. I never eat much. Don’t make stuff up!” Interestingly, the woman went silent and kept moving, without even looking at me again (ever, so far), let alone apologizing. I no longer seek her out or regard her as a friend.

 

What do you believe about people and situations? How much of your belief system about each friend or colleague is based on fact, and how much on imagination? If you are disturbed by someone’s behavior, is your discomfort based on actual conversation with them? Or is it based on your ideas about why they said and did what they said and did? When you are frustrated by a situation, try writing down what you actually know, what you guess, and what came from rumors. Eliminate the conjecture for a clearer picture, and try starting fresh. You’ll have much less stress and much more peace within.  Will you let assuming consume you? It’s a burden you don’t need, and it’s up to you.

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• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office. Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com.
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Upbeat Living: Gratitude, Power, Peace

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© 2014  Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM.  World Rights Reserved.

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This morning I woke up realizing my mind was chanting “thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.”  I had a perfect day yesterday, with meaningful paying work, good food, satisfying writing and editing, a client meeting, and a professional meeting full of loving colleagues and friends.  After the meeting, I drove home in my cute PT Cruiser with the great air conditioning and hung out with my amazing, delightful husband.  I was (am) so grateful!  It would be hard for life to be sweeter.  My consciousness was so filled with peace within, so permeated with my gratitude, that my brain was chanting it when I woke up today.

 In daily life we must see, that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.

~ Brother David Steindl-Rast

So: what if everyone on the Planet were this grateful and happy for the Good?  Wouldn’t there be less stress and more Upbeat Living?  Would we not all be quicker with appreciation and slower to anger (Prov 14:29)?  Could we end up with peace among peoples and nations?

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more.  It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.  It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.  Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. 

~ Melody Beattie

Do you dream of world peace?  A basic practice of peacemaking is to BE the peace we want to see. Then our inner peace multiplies all around us into a force of and for peacefulness.  One of the negative human traits that generates the most conflicted thinking and conflicted interacting is resentment.  And the most effective antidote for resentment is gratitude.  When we are unhappy or frustrated with someone else’s choices, we feel resentment.  And resentment can turn into anger, conflict, and violence.  Resentment is the basis of racism and of religious hatred.

But if we focus on how grateful we are for our good and for the good of others, we cannot simultaneously be in resentment.  Focusing on the good, and our gratitude for every positive thing and every positive happening, is the basis for joy.  And joyful people emanate peacefulness.  They BE the peace they want to see.  Are you in?

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition (http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc).  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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UpBeat Living: Forgiveness Part 2: Forgiveness for Empowerment

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© 2014  Kebba Buckley Button,  MS, OM.  World Rights Reserved.

 

Dr. Eileen Borris

In Forgiveness Part 1  (http://wp.me/pw4HM-jI), we talked about how important it is to your own health and wellbeing, to forgive.  The extraordinary forgiveness of an Amish community showed how humans can choose to follow their faith, forgive murders, extend compassion to the family of the murderer, and move on in constructive ways.  This time, we consider the work of an international reconciliation expert and how we can choose to be affected by her work.

 

Dr. Eileen Borris (www.globalpeaceinitiatives.com) can teach you what you need to know about finding forgiveness.  She has been teaching forgiveness and reconciliation around the world for the Institute for Multi-Track  Diplomacy (Washington, DC), the U.S. Agency for International Development (USAID) and the United Nations Development Fund for Women (UNIFEM).  The last time I saw her she had just returned from giving workshops in Kuwait.  She was about to go to Rwanda, for the Healing Wounds of History Conference.  Wherever she goes, Dr. Borris transforms.

 

It is possible to realize that the past is past, that continuing to feel anger and hatred serves no purpose.

~ The Dalai Lama

 

In her book, Finding Forgiveness, the Foreword is offered by none other than His Holiness, The Dalai Lama.  His Holiness points out that: “When we become angry, we stop being compassionate, loving, generous, forgiving, tolerant, and patient altogether.  We deprive ourselves of the very things that happiness consists of…it is possible to realize that the past is past, that continuing to feel anger and hatred serves no purpose.”

 

Dr. Borris’s core methodology involves 7 steps:  becoming clear, telling your story, working with anger, working with guilt, reframing the situation, absorbing pain, and gaining inner peace.  She does not ask you to deny the wrong that occurred.  She does not ask you to forget it.  She does not ask you to not-seek appropriate justice where a crime has occurred.  What she does do is expose the complexities of forgiveness and invite you to work this process, ultimately setting yourself free.

© 2014 Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM

 

Why do we need to forgive?  The final purpose for the individual is empowerment.  You  are at choice at all times.  When you forgive, you get back your power over whoever made you their victim.  Dr. Borris makes the point that animals do not hate.  Hatred requires conceptual thought.  But humans are able to hold thoughts of hate and vengeance lifelong.  How much energy does this steal from a person’s upbeat living lifestyle, joy, health, and productivity?

 

Try this for a moment:  bring to mind some terrible personal injustice that was done to you, which you have had trouble forgetting.  Perhaps someone attacked you.  Perhaps a boss treated you badly or even fired you unfairly.  Perhaps Mom always loved your sibling better.  Perhaps someone badmouthed you, telling tales that were totally unfounded.  Bring this injustice to mind and feel vividly the stress and emotions that come with it.  Did your heart hurt or your back tighten up between the shoulder blades?  Did your shoulder tops tighten painfully?  How about your neck, your head, or your stomach?  Do these sensations feel like they are blessing or enhancing your beingness in any way?  Of course not.  So what has the toll on your mind, heart, body, and spirit been, in the months or years since the injustice occurred?  Is that toll enriching your life in any way?  Of course not.

 

 Whatever your faith basis, does it make sense to hang onto any burden you do not need to hang onto?

~ Rev. Kebba Buckley Button

 

If you would like to challenge yourself, try the following exercise.  Get a pen and paper, and make notes of your thoughts and experiences as you do this.  Imagine your life if the injustice had never occurred.  What hours would you have spent enjoying life and your loved ones?  Would your marriage be better?  What friendships might you have developed, based on sharing happiness and companionship, that you did not because of the injustice?  How well would you have slept?  What excellent health would you have had all this time?  How much better would your concentration have been, on the job or in fulfilling recreation or charity work?  Would you have earned more money?  So what if you could have forgiven this injustice early in the game, and not spent any of this time on distraction, negativity, complaining, and generally experiencing a burden?  These may be tough questions for many of us.

 

Whatever your faith basis, does it make sense to hang onto any burden you do not need to hang onto?  You are always at choice.  What is your willingness to possibly hang up self-burdening beliefs about the importance of an injustice to you?  If these questions are provocative for you, why not pursue them further?  Your journey can be very freeing.

 

Now imagine living in a community where everyone is compassionate, everyone forgives and there is no impulse for revenge.  Now imagine that in the World community.  Countries would be waging peace, not war.  Imagine.

 

Some resources for further reading and techniques include:  Bruderhof Forgiveness Guide (www.foregivenessguide.org), A Course In Miracles (acim.org), Forgiveness Foundation (forgivenessfoundation.org), and the Forgiveness Project (forgivenessproject.com).

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition (http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc).  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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UpBeat Living: What to Do After Boston?

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© 2013 Kebba Buckley Button.  World Rights Reserved.

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By now, you know very well that bombs went off near the Finish Line of the Boston Marathon yesterday.  About 27,000 runners were participating, from most States and from 100 countries.  Many thousands more were watching.  About half had already crossed the Finish Line.  According to CNN, 8-year-old Martin Richard of Boston hugged his dad at the Finish Line.  Then a bomb went off, killing Martin, and seriously injuring his sister and mother.  Martin’s sister lost her leg, and his mother has brain injuries.  Martin lost his life.

Amazingly, massive presence of medical personnel onsite, and ambulances standing by, resulted in the speedy transport of patients to area hospitals.  Several hospitals together treated 176, while 3 died.  About 20 lost limbs, and as of this morning, 3 limbs were potentially being lost.  Dr. George Velhamos, chief of Trauma Surgery at Boston General Hospital, said, “[T]he patients are amazing!”  He said the medical resources at his hospital were virtually limitless, with staff staying for multiple shifts and “pressing through” pleasantly.  One BGH doctor, who had run the Marathon, reported to the hospital, dehydrated, to assist in treating patients.

Video immediately after the bombing showed servicemen in desert camouflage gear already helping to move the injured.  How did they get there instantaneously?  They were already there:  they had been running in the Marathon, with full packs!

Dr. Ron Walls, of Brigham and Women’s Hospital, said that BWH took 31 patients after the Marathon bombing.  In this group there was one amputation and there were 2 limbs at risk, as of this morning.  Impressed with both the patients and his staff, Dr. Walls said, “[T]he more people are challenged, the more they rise.” He also commented that because the hospital was staffed up for race day, and because it was daytime, “we had virtually the entire surgical staff available”.

The wife of the Ohio Secretary of State, Tina Husted, is an elite runner who completed the Marathon well ahead of the bombing.  Interviewed by CNN, she agreed with everyone else that “[T]he medical support at this race is incredible.”  One CNN commentator said there were actually four doctors for every patient on the ground.

Law enforcement was similarly speedy and organized, with the FBI and ATF appearing almost immediately, as the thousands of remaining runners were diverted and offered transport.  Governor Patrick and Boston’s Police Commissioner apparated in minutes and coordinated press briefings.  They said the Mayor was on his way from the hospital; the Mayor arrived in a wheelchair, wearing a suit, with a cast on his foot.  A microphone was already in place at the correct height for the Mayor’s comments.  Established  protocols for municipal emergencies and terrorism were snapped into place, and well-rehearsed connections were made and well-utilized.  The CIA was briefed and the President appeared in a televised message, offering whatever Boston needed.

Within hours, they announced the restricted area was shrinking.  Although the bombings were not expected, the interlocking response teams were ready.  They moved swiftly, smoothly, and expertly, against the effects of vicious bombings.  The damage to  people’s lives and bodies was minimized by the swiftness of the responses.  Now we need to overcome any fear, find our personal peace, and let the experts do what they do so well.

With the experts at work, now what can we all do?   We can do three things.  First, let’s pray thanks for all those expert responders and the incredible work they do.  Second, let’s keep praying for the victims, the loved ones, those who saw horrible things, and those who are still treating the victims.  Third, LET’S FLY OUR FLAGS and show we’re more united than ever.  The FBI Agent-In-Charge in Boston said, the best thing we can do is go about our lives and show the terrorists we don’t fear them.  We love this country, and we intend to live our lives.  So FLY YOUR FLAGS, wear your flag pins, put those flag decals on your car and window.

Boston, we’re with you!  More united than ever.

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UpBeat Living: What To Do When There’s Nothing You Can Do About That

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© 2013 Kebba Buckley Button.  World Rights Reserved.

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From time to time, we are stuck in, or we see, a situation that is ridiculous, absurd, and not right.  We feel stressed and anxious.  We may feel frustrated, even to the point of having a tight stomach, a headache, or knots in our back, because there is nothing we can do.  Here are several examples.

A TV show tells the story of a house that disappeared overnight.  The husband came home and found his house missing– a site-built home, not a mobile home.  It evolved that there was an inheritance dispute. Do you feel stressed, hearing about this? Yet there is nothing the observer can do about it.

In a famous story, a family hired architect Frank Lloyd Wright to build a home for them adjacent to their favorite wooded picnic spot, a flat rock at the edge of a stream, with its own waterfall.  The family wanted to easily access their favorite picnic spot and eat there more often. The architect decided he wanted to build the rock and waterfall into the home, so the family lost their favorite outdoor picnic spot.  In addition, according to their son, “you can’t really live in such a house”.  So they lost their picnic spot, spent massive funds, were unable to live in the house, and made an architect famous for “The House at Fallingwater”.  The house became a museum.  Do you feel frustrated or angry when you think about this?  Yet there is nothing the observer can do about it.

In the news this week from Wisconsin, a video bubbled up that portrays several men trapping a deer, wrestling with it to put a yellow t-shirt on it, and laughing.  The deer escaped and has been seen since, still wearing a portion of the yellow t-shirt.  Wisconsin Department of Natural Resources advises that the deer looks healthy and should be left alone.  Watching the video, a friend was reminded of human sexual assault, and she imagined how the three men treat the women in their lives, then laugh.  My friend feels very disturbed by this story and the behavior of the three men.  Do you?  And yet, there is nothing the observer can do about it.

The stock market is acting squirrelly, the US border with Mexico is not secure, North Korea may launch missiles at another country, another abused child has disappeared.  Yet there is nothing the observer can do about it.

But wait!  Yes, the observer/you can do three things:

1. Pray or hold Go(o)d Thoughts, even if the event seems to be over.
2.  Detach, exhale, drop your shoulders, and turn your attention away.  Relax physically, and don’t allow yourself to go over and over the sequence.  No obsessing.  If the bad thoughts come back again, exhale each time.
3.  Focus on what is good, uplifting, and meaningful to you.  This will cause the lower thoughts to be displaced, and your energy level will begin to rise immediately.

Phillipians4:8 advises us:

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

What to do when there’s nothing you can do?  Pray, hold Good Thoughts, and let it go.  And get on with your life.

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UpBeat Living: Celebrating Martin Luther King, Jr.

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at choice, Martin Luther King, MLK, Peacemaking, personal peace

© 2013 Kebba Buckley Button.  World Rights Reserved.

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Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. said,

“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is: ‘What are you doing for others?'”

On Monday, President Barack Obama will take the Oath of Office for the second time.  He will hold Dr. King’s personal Bible for a time, the one the Kings normally keep in a glass case. The one with his hand-written notes in the margins. This year’s inauguration falls on Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, January 21, 2013.  The day was first signed into law by President Ronald Reagan in 1983, to honor the civil rights leader.  The date was selected as the third Monday of January each year, to be close to Dr. King’s birthday, January 15th.  The holiday was finally adopted by all the states as of 2000.

Dr. King was a pastor known for nonviolent methods of creating social change, especially working against poverty, racism, and violence.  He was assassinated in Memphis, April 4, 1968, having traveled there to support striking African-American sanitation workers seeking rights.  He is remembered for poetic and strongly inspiring speeches, such as the “I have a dream” speech.  In that speech, he said,

“I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: ‘We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal.’  I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia, the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners will be able to sit down together at the table of brotherhood…”

19 years ago, Bill Clinton signed into law a bill that made Martin Luther King, Jr., Day a National Day of Service.   Organizations and volunteers now match with each other for needed service, on the federal website, MLKDay.gov.  As Clinton said at his second inaugural address, “We must be repairers of the breach.”

Bernice King, the youngest daughter of Dr. King said today, “Everyone is important, no matter how you define yourself.  We have to finish the work of Dr. King.”

Together, let us celebrate Dr. King and the strides made as a result of his work.  Together, let us celebrate the good works of good people around the Globe.  Together let us celebrate the question, “What are you doing for others?”

For more on the work currently being carried forward in Dr. King’s name, visit the King Center for Nonviolent Change, http://www.thekingcenter.org/.

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a corporate stress management trainer and the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (on Amazon.com >Books>Buckley), and the 2012 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core (on Amazon.com >Books>Button).  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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UpBeat Living: What’s Personal Peace? Part 1

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© 2012 Kebba Buckley Button.  World Rights Reserved

My first book, Discover The Secret Energized You, addressed the ongoing exhaustion people have from a stress-accumulating lifestyle.  It covered causes and solutions for stress.  It offered that people can actually trade in their stress habits for energizing habits and end up feeling younger and more vital.  In taking this material to groups, I was surprised to find most people don’t have a calm center to touch in with.  Most people don’t have peace within.  While my book offered ways to calm down, to feel more centered, and release stress, it did not cover creating and building up a personal inner reservoir of utterly serene centeredness.  I have heard motivational speakers and pastors exhort people:  “Don’t let anyone steal your peace!”  But what if a person has no fundamental inner peace?  This new book, then, Peace Within, is a tool for people to use in looking for that calm, sure center, or building it, or strengthening the peace within they do already have.

Do you believe that life is basically good?  In 1963, in the United States of America, the national mood was relatively optimistic and peaceful.  Then, in November, President John F. Kennedy was shot to death in Dallas, in front of many people.  There was widespread shock and sadness.  Individuals were jolted out of their sense of well-being.  In schools, teachers went into the hallways and whispered to each other.  Finally, the students were told why the teachers were whispering.  There was astonishment, upset, and tears.  Across the country, churches opened their sanctuaries for those who sought to process their pain, to find their peace within once more.

Now, almost 50 years later, life in the USA is mainly urban, busy, and noisy.  People hold their cellphones and iPods close.  Many live such a mental life and in such concentrated communication that they check and send email on a computer or phone while attending a live meeting.  War, tsunamis, floods, fires, recessions, national security and budget issues, together with crowded populations, erode people’s confidence that life is indeed good.  People seek relief from worry, fear, overstimulation, and generalized stress.  They seek comfort, calm, serenity, relaxation, inner peace and “letting go”.

And well they should.  The bodymind system craves what will help it.  We know from medical studies that there are many benefits of managing stress through relaxation.  The renowned Mayo Clinic lists some of these positive health changes as:  slowing heart rate, lowering blood pressure, slowing breathing, increasing blood flow to major muscles, reducing muscle tension and chronic pain, improving concentration, reducing anger and frustration, and boosting confidence to handle problems.  Clearly, relaxing feels better than stressing.  A number of approaches can help a person to achieve a state of physical relaxation.

Relaxing the body is not the same as peace within, but it can help get you there.  Peace within is something more, a soul peace, a calm knowingness, a fully heart-installed faith that God is there and all is truly well, whatever the appearance of things.  So, what if your relaxation efforts were coupled with terrific internal surety and serenity?  What if your heart, mind, and soul were on board with your relaxation quest?  What is this state that people seek?  This book has called it peace within. However, it goes by various names:  serenity, soul ease, contentment, personal peace, sweet relief, inner peace, tranquility, peace of mind, soul peace, a calm heart, certainty, centeredness, wellbeing, mental peace, and State of Grace. Perhaps you have heard other expressions for it.

–Stay tuned for “What’s Personal Peace?” Parts 2 and 3, continued on my spiritual blog, http://www.UpBeatSpiritualLiving.wordpress.com–

Kebba Buckley Button is the author of the 2012 book,  Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core.

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