Resolutions That Powerfully Work for You

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© 2015  Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM.  World Rights Reserved.

 

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So how is your New Year going so far? Did you go ahead and make those resolutions? On New Year’s Day, I recommended you wait, and just gently transition into the New Year (http://wp.me/pw4HM-kV). Yesterday, I shared the biggest secret of resolutions that can’t work (http://wp.me/pw4HM-l0). Finally, today, I’m talking about resolutions that can actually work for you, and work powerfully.

 

Making resolutions each New Year’s is one of the most popular traditions we have. What can that mean, except that people are not happy with the conditions or qualities or achievements of their lives and lifestyles? And that they believe they can and should take steps to make things better?   Americans most often resolve to : spend more time with loved ones, get fit, lose weight, quiet smoking, enjoy life more, quit drinking, get out of debt, learn something new, help others, and get organized.

 

“And now we welcome the new year , full of things that have never been.”

~ Rainer Maria Rilke

So what happens to all these well-meant resolutions? Do your last for at least 2 weeks? Are they forgotten within a month? What happened to your resolutions from a year ago?  Some people make commitments to complete their resolutions and some are more in wishcraft.  One study, published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology, found that people who make explicit resolutions succeed at 10 times the rate of people who have an idea that they would like to make a change later.  People with explicit resolutions held onto their resolve with surprising success:   after 6 months, 46% were still on track.  Whereas, after 6 months, only 4% of those who did not make explicit resolutions were still on track.  Which group would you like to be in?

Experts say there are three components of goals that actually work:

1. Write them down.
2. Be specific.
3. Track your progress in some measurable way.

Ramp up your success by posting reminders on your mirrors and refrigerator, even inside your wallet.  Some people get a success boost with an accountability partner, perhaps a friend who shares the goal and will be supportive over a multimonth period.  Some people succeed with a mastermind group.

How long will it take to meet your goal?  Be sure your resolution includes completing the goal in a reasonable period of time.  What if your desire is, for example, to lose 20 pounds, and never have it find you again?   Write down what you will do to achieve this goal, in, for example, a three-month framework.  Will you switch what you swallow (“diet”)?  Will you start taking great multivitamin and mineral supplements?  Will you exercise?  Where will you exercise, and what times and days?  If you are an extrovert, plan on classes or fitness center programs.  If you are an introvert, perhaps workout videos are for you.  After the three months, what will your maintenance program include?  Write it out and post it.  Do you get the pattern here?  Yes, work out the details of your resolution, and recognize that this is your success plan for this resolution.

Your life is a creative process, your greatest experiment.  What tools will you choose, as you craft it into the most joyous, healthy, and fulfilling life you can possibly have?  It’s up to you. I wish you great success and happiness!

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Energy – Peace – Meditation

 

 

• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office. Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com.
• For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: bookings@kebba.com .

 

 

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The Biggest Secret Roadblock Preventing Your Successful New Year

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New Year's Resolutions, releasing the past, resolutions, stress, The life you want

© 2015  Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM.  World Rights Reserved.

 

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In yesterday’s article , I urged you to glide gently into your fabulous New Year, 2015 (http://wp.me/pw4HM-kV). I urged you to wait before setting resolutions, to simply drink water, gently exercise, and otherwise detox from the holidays, while considering your options. Today, I’m asking you to wait one more day before making those resolutions.

 

Today, I’m sharing the number one unrecognized secret roadblock causing the failure of New Year’s goals and resolutions, and any other goals and resolutions you may ever have. You must recognize and deal with this phenomenon honestly and completely, if you are to succeed any time, now, this year, or throughout your future. READY?

 

Ack! Actually, readiness is the secret. When you are not ready, the goal is roadblocked! There are 3 secrets to being beating this roadblock:

1. Believability:  Your mind must be able to believe the goal is achievable.
2. Worthiness:  Your personality must allow the changes necessary to achieve the goal. Will your mind and heart allow you to be that person? Are you worthy enough?
3. Release:  Your desire for the new condition or level must be greater than the inertia of staying as you are. Are you willing to let go of that roadblock? Can you say goodbye to the old you?

 

“This is a new year. A new beginning. And things will change.”

~ Taylor Swift

 

Let’s do a simple example using a popular New Year’s Resolution. Using Secret 1, you want to lose 30 pounds, which is, let’s say, 3 sizes. When was the last time you were that size? Or were you ever that size? If you have been trying to lose weight for 10 years, since you were that size, does part of you possibly believe that you can’t really lose 30 pounds? If so, you’re sunk before you’ve started. Research shows that your mind must find a goal believable, so this one is a candidate for sectioning. Now let’s break it up into 5-pound segments. Would your mind believe you can lose 5 pounds in the next 2 months? Sure! So take that goal to start with, meet it, then go for another 5 pounds.

 

Now, using Secret 2, will your mind allow you to be the 3-sizes-smaller person? Are you worthy of being that attractive and fit? Or does part of you think you should never presume to claim the small-thin-fit image? This can be a little tricky. How do you feel about your current weight, fitness, and attractiveness? Write down or keyboard out what the consequences would be, if you were 3 sizes smaller. What would that look and feel like? Who would your friends and colleagues be? Would you have better business opportunities? Are you worthy of making more money?

 

Now we’re applying Secret 3: would you feel uncomfortable with that much social attention? Would you be tempted to give up your singleness and then be possibly risking dating and relationships? Sure, it’s comfortable staying as you are and getting what you’ve always gotten. But that’s exactly your roadblock: staying the same is comfortable. Is the new size you want worth shaking up your routines and results? Can you say goodbye to the old You and hello to a really new You? Only you can decide.

 

Now try walking through this process with other goals you may have. Privately write down everything you’re thinking and feeling. What do you really want? Who are you willing to be? What are you worthy of?

 

Don’t you feel different now than you did a few minutes ago? Fantastic! I stand for your most joyous, fulfilled, successful 2015. Please let me know how you have used these secrets, and with what results. Meanwhile, tomorrow, I will finally talk about Resolutions to Revolutionize Your Year!

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Energy, Peace, Meditation

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

• Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert.  She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), plus the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition(http://tinyurl.com/mqg3uvc ). Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, available through her office. Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com.
• For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: bookings@kebba.com .

UpBeat Living: Calling In Your Fantastic New Year

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© 2014 Kebba Buckley Button.  World Rights Reserved.

Happy New Year, Everyone!  Don’t you love new starts?  And today, you can kick off your best year ever—so far!  Hopefully, you read my suggestion, posted on New Year’s Eve (http://wp.me/pw4HM-fh) that you list and appreciate all you accomplished in the last year.  How did last year come out, compared to your goals and desires?

So now, it’s time to set the vision of the qualities and happenings you want to see in your 2014.  Get out your favorite notepad or iPad, and make a list: excitement and travel? Peace and a cozier home?  A really comfortable bed? More time with friends?  Organized files?  A small or enlarged garden?  More efficient workdays?  Making twice last year’s income? More leisure in natural spaces?  Higher level professional projects?  Working with a great business coach or holistic/energy healer (call me!)?  Moving that book project to completion (call me!)?  Getting closer with your honey/spouse/significant other?  Having an actual vacation for a week during the summer?

Don’t worry if your list is not complete.  Just sketch out what comes to mind in a few minutes.  You can always add to it or change a quality you’ve described, even drop something.

Now write all these qualities into a letter to yourself, as though you are grateful all these things are currently true.  For example: “I just love my life in this beautiful year, 2014!  I enjoy being so cheerful and motivated all the time.  I love my perfect husband, my fulfilling professional projects, and the great rates I’m paid for each area of my work.  It fills my heart that this year I am __ pounds lighter than last year—my body feels so light and moves so easily!  Exercising an hour a day is easy and fun.  My office files are supremely organized, as are my to-do lists, and it’s very easy for me to sit down and get a task done.  I love all the calls I get from loving relatives, sharing news and wishing me well.  [And…  And…]  I’m so grateful for all this Go(o)d in my life, right now!”  Add as many claims as you like.  With your heart and spirit, you are calling them in, calling them by faith.

Now, put a copy on your physical or electronic desktop, on your bedside table, or by your coffeemaker.  Read it to yourself every night before bed and every morning as you rise.  Vividly imagine these things are all true right now.  Let the satisfaction and gratitude fill all your cells and flood your heart and soul.  Be open to amazingly fast results.

Check in with yourself and your visions every month, feel satisfied and give thanks for how much closer you and your visions are than ever before.  And please let me know what you notice.  I would love to hear from you.

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● Kebba Buckley Button is the author of the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core (Second Edition).   Keep this book with you constantly, to quickly recharge your Peace Within, with quotes, photos, and poems that take you directly there!  Kebba is a corporate stress management trainer, and she also has a holistic healing practice.

● Liked this blog?  Why not buy Kebba’s books?  Just click the links!

• Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core (Second Edition)( http://perfectboundmarketing.gostorego.com/authors/kebba-buckley-button.html)
• Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br). ● Enjoyed this post?  Please click “like” in the FB widget in the right hand column!  You’ll have our undying gratitude plus a huge rise in your Good Karma.

● Your comments are welcome!

● Reach the writer at kebba@kebba.com .

UpBeat Living: Quick! Say A Proper Goodbye to 2013!

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UpBeat Living: Closing Out 2013

© 2013 Kebba Buckley Button.  World Rights Reserved.

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It’s the last day of the old year, 2013, and already people are wishing each other a Happy New Year.  TV networks have aired video summaries of the most colorful events of 2013.  This morning, Arizona time, as people watched those videos over breakfast, Sydney, Australia had already crossed into the New Year and celebrated with fireworks.  You have to watch those pesky time zones.

But wait!  Have you properly said “[G]oodbye” to 2013?  Before you launch into your New Year’s resolutions—and you know you will—how about first making your own summary list of all you accomplished or weathered or observed in the old year?  My husband held a great-granddaughter on his lap for the first time.  I finished the second edition of my newest book, Peace Within, and officiated an interfaith prayer service in a Catholic Church (think about it—I’ll wait) for International Day of Peace in September.  A new Pope was elected, an Italian-speaking Hispanic, who embodies God’s love and goes by “Francis”, after St. Francis.  And CBS says Esquire Magazine has named the Pope Best-Dressed Man Of The Year!  For a Pope, he dresses simply, in white.

Why not make a list of all the frustrations and victories, disappointments and joys, that were there for you in this outgoing year?  Take a piece of paper, or a word processor document, or create lists in your phone.  Make 3 columns:  what I didn’t like, what I did like, and what happened in the World that affected me.  Take just 15 minutes, or more, if you realize it’s a powerful thing for you.  You’ll notice a lot of accomplishments.  Be proud.  Celebrate the good.  Toast to the wonders of the Old Year, and wait until midnight to ring in the New Year.

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● Kebba Buckley Button is the author of the 2013 book, Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core (Second Edition).   Keep this book with you constantly, to quickly recharge your Peace Within, with quotes, photos, and poems that take you directly there!  Kebba is a corporate stress management trainer, and she also has a holistic healing practice.

● Liked this blog?  Why not buy Kebba’s books?  Just click the links!

• Peace Within:  Your Peaceful Inner Core (Second Edition)( http://perfectboundmarketing.gostorego.com/authors/kebba-buckley-button.html)
• Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br). 
• Enjoyed this post?  Please click “like” in the FB widget in the right hand column!  You’ll have our undying gratitude plus a huge rise in your Good Karma.

● Your comments are welcome!

● Reach the writer at kebba@kebba.com .