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Today we’re talking about the number one thing you can do for yourself: choose joy! Joy not only feels wonderful– it causes our body chemistry to shift in ways that make us stronger and more well. Whatever your state of mind, situation, or health, this is a primary strategy for any good thing you want in your life. Wait– strategy? There’s a strategy? Yes!
And here is how you get there.
- Release the past
- Practice gratitude
Forgive: Much has been written about the power of forgiveness and how to forgive. Bernard Baruch said,
One of the secrets of a long and healthy life is to forgive everybody everything before you go to bed each night.
Resentment, anger, and hurt impact your body in specific and pervasive ways. The longer you hold these within, the more they turn into headaches, back pain, dis-ease, and deep health issues. I have a number of articles on forgiveness. You may want to start with this one: https://kebbabutton.wordpress.com/2016/08/10/upbeat-living-lighten-up-with-forgiveness/ And remember, this forgiveness is for you, not for them.
Release the past: Whatever you need to do to turn forward by releasing your past, do it for you! You don’t need to contact the friend/colleague/relative who wronged you. You don’t have to hold confrontations. You simply need to make a decision that your NOW and your FUTURE are more important than the mistakes you and others made in the past. And this decision itself will set you free. Tools like counseling and journaling will also help. Do it! A great affirmation, author unknown, is:
I bless and release all past failure, fear, and alienation.
This is a great one to post by your computer, in your kitchen, or anywhere else where you tend to stop and think about your unsatisfactory past. If you are a Christian, then you know you are forgiven, so it’s definitely always timely to bless and release all that stuff. Another way to look at your own “E & I”, or Errors and Immaturity, is that it wasn’t the present You who made those mistakes. You are not the immature person you were at 8, or 18, or any other previous age. Each day you are a fresh new you, and your NOW and your FUTURE beckon to be created.
Practice gratitude: This one is the simplest, yet most therapeutic, tools you have. Write lists of everything, big or tiny, that you are grateful for. Keep a gratitude journal or a cumulative list in NOTES on your iPhone. The more you notice that is good and excellent and worthy and enjoyable in your life, the more you will notice. So write these down. Marianne Williamson has said,
Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.
Repeat: In a noisy world, it is easy to let these tools fade or rust. Keep this article handy somewhere. Review it, practice the 3 skills, and notice your joy building!
As you practice moving more into joy, you’ll find your heart getting lighter and your smiles becoming more frequent. Your relationships will shift. You’ll feel more healthy. There may be people and situations you will vibrate away from or who will vibrate away from you: you are simply too joyful for them.
And now you’re in the realm of Healthy Happy Loving Lifesm!
Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert and award-winning author who celebrates life. She also is an ordained minister and has a natural healing practice. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within: Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office. To email us, firstname.lastname@example.org .