Healthy Happy Loving Life: Is it Time for a Break? 6 Top Tips!

11 Thursday Nov 2021

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We all know what “a break” would be, but do we all know when it’s high time to schedule one for ourselves? The man in the above image has multiple tasks going at once. Laptop open, he is also reading from a hardcover book, and he has a pen next to his mug. So he is taking some form of notes on paper as well. His eyes are tired, and his glasses are off, set aside while he rubs his eyes. He is so tired that he has brought an open cup of coffee (or tea) to his desk, forgetting that one spill can ruin his hard drive– yes– ask me about The Great Hot Chocolate Incident of 2009! This man is also clearly on deadline, as an hourglass is pouring sand enthusiastically, silently ticking down the man’s minutes to meet his deadline or fail. Don’t you feel tired, just studying him? I hope someone is bringing him dinner soon.

So, eyes tired, brain stale, back and backside weary: this man needs a break! What should he do, after he meets his deadline? I have 6 top tips:

Plan 24-48 hours of real time off, not taking any business calls, and with an out-of-office message on your voicemail. Stash the children with relatives who don’t feed them sugar.
Choose a vacation from guilt! Promise yourself you will not think about your normal worries. Guilt shifts your nervous system, and what you need is a break from pressure on your nervous system.
Change your channel. Find a place where they won’t find you. Leave for the nearest hotel with pools and gardens. Decide if you may want to go there regularly.
Get some physical relaxation. Schedule a massage. Take their yoga or tai chi class. If you enjoy swimming or lounging in the jacuzzi, do that. Practice stretching across the bed or couch. It’s great for your back muscles and circulation generally.
Eat berries for breakfast and dark green organic leafies– salad or stir-fry– for other meals. The high antioxidant levels in these foods will recharge you within hours.
Consider adding a day. I once did this in San Francisco, where I had gone for business. Then I had free time, and I walked miles every day, exploring the city. I felt so great on the third day that I asked the hotel if I could stay another day. They readily agreed, as did the airline. Yes, this was back when you phoned and made arrangements with a real person. The real persons were charmed that I was just having a good time and wanted to stay longer.

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So, here is a measure of your success at creating a refreshing break: what age did you feel when you left for your day/s off? Notice you feel much younger at the close of your break? Now your eyes and brain and heart and back and backside are all refreshed. Everything will seem clearer and easier. You may find yourself smiling more and enjoying everything more. And that’s you: more and more Healthy Happy and Loving Life^sm!

Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert, holistic healer, and award-winning author who celebrates life. She has a longtime natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within: Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office. To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: When Have You Had A Real Day Off?

27 Friday Aug 2021

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If you feel stressed and tired, and you can’t remember the last time you didn’t feel that way, maybe you need a real day off. In my natural healing practice, I often work with clients whose stress is unceasing. Couple that with the heavy world news and the overburden of politichatter—the inevitable election cycle events and conversation—whatever family issues you have, any career decisions on the horizon, and the electrochemistry and noise of the urban environment… well, maybe you need to take a break!

Now, maybe you’re thinking, no way! The cost, the time off work, the yard growing out of control and ruining my neighborhood reputation… A two-week vacation was a standard, decades ago. Then professionals decided those caused more stress than they cured. So people shifted to taking long weekends. This trend was so strong that the Federal Government moved most of the federal holidays to Mondays. That Monday Holiday Law, passed in 1968, was meant to “bring substantial benefits to both the spiritual and economic life of the Nation.” Wow!

But then everyone was driving out of town at the end of the week and returning Monday night. Now many are discovering the joys of midweek 2-day timeouts or even a single midweek overnight-plus-one-day timeout. The key is to really take a break, a genuinely refreshing change day. Or two. Just 24 hours can give you a re-set. And you need it!

Your thoughts and attitude can get stale without change. Your brain can actually get channels worn in it, from reviewing the same worries all the time. So change your channel, change your scene. Find a place to go to where there is a low level of electromagnetic frequencies (EMF); possibly a cabin or bed and breakfast in a small town. Use your computer as little as possible. This will refresh your nervous system. Pick a place with natural beauty where walking will be irresistable. This will repump your DHEA, the master hormone. If you can go to a beach, that’s the highest natural-energy environment, and you will absorb a lot of energy there. Turn off your phone and don’t think about your usual concerns. When you think of something that you ought to do, put it on a list in the Memo section of your phone; then forget it until you’re back at your desk. Let go of all the Usual.

For the fastest recharge, eat dark green leafy salad–organic, if possible– and have very little sugar. This will bring your vital life force energy up very fast. Try to get berries for breakfast. Those will raise your antioxidant levels quickly and refresh your attitudes. Move around. Do yoga in your room or go for walks. Go swimming, if you have found a place with a beach or pool. A business owner I knew used to go to a small motel in Yuma, Arizona, where no one would recognize her. It was inexpensive, there was no traffic noise, and no one could call her. She ate produce (her business), walked and swam and closed out all business thoughts for 2 days at a time. She said it was like Heaven, a real day off and then another. She totally relaxed.

Come up with your own formula. Give yourself the elements you need to have a real day off, to really take a break. Savor every moment. Then let me know what worked for you, and consider repeating! After all, you have a formula now. And that would be you, more and more Healthy Happy Loving Life^sm!

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: What’s On Your Mind?

10 Saturday Oct 2020

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What’s on your mind?

What are the first three things that come to you, when you hear, “so what’s on your mind?” Are you thinking of:

relationship conflicts?
physical pains, headaches, back pains, stomach doesn’t work well?
too much to do?
fatigue?
lateness?
getting more done?
drank too much caffeine and feel twitchy now?
the best nutrition for your needs?
can’t concentrate?
sleeping too little or too much?
how grateful you are?

My holistic healing practice evolved from seeking solutions to physical pain issues I had. As a Masters’ Degree scientist, I was very systematic in learning as much as possible about natural pain release and relief. A major principle I learned is that if you have issues (emotional agenda items) in your tissues (pain and dysfunction in the body), your tissues will in turn create issues. So issues and tissues are intimately related. We can use the body to relieve mental/emotional distress (energy therapy, nutrition, homeopathic drops), and we can use spiritual, mental, and emotional methods to relieve physical distress.

For example, a person who is angry a lot may have liver stress or liver meridian stress. Think of a person who goes to a bar, drinks, and gets into fights. Classic, right? This person is easily ticked off, too. Balance the liver energy in the body and you will see much less anger. Or the end of anger. We would use energy therapy and possibly certain holistic or homeopathic drops.

In Chinese medicine, it’s understood that the issues lodge in the tissues of the body. It is also understood that certain issues impact specific parts of the body. When my father was told something needed to be solved, he used to exclaim, “OH MY ACHING BACK.” And, in fact, his back hurt, exactly where Chinese medicine would have predicted, for foundation issues.

My practice has now greatly evolved to helping people understand the issues side of the equation. In fact, I have Zoom sessions now, with people who only want to discuss their social/mental/emotional/spiritual issues and solutions. They don’t need me to use energy healing to clear their body’s discomforts. Rather, we talk, and I help them find perspectives, as well as specific approaches and even phrases to use.

Fatigue has been the biggest issue people talk about, by far. I answered the same client questions about fatigue so many times over the years, that I finally wrote a book about trading in your stress for energy. This one is called, Discover The Secret Energized You. In it, I invite people to take 4 steps (with multiple options in each step) to become vital and energized instead of tired:

Quit feeding your fatigue
Manage your energy, not your stress
Discover the secret energized you and
Rise higher.

A wise meme (author unknown) circulating is:

The people in your life should be a source of reducing stress, not causing it. If not, let go.

I have hundreds of article online, using about 100 keywords. May I have your help? Would you please glance through the keywords on this page, and tell me what you would most like me to write about in upcoming articles? Or name anything else to do with pain, stress, energy, joy, and happiness?

If you are healthy, then you will be happy. If you are happy, you will be healthy! Then you can reach the ultimate state of living in The Flow, loving your life. This is what I call the realm of Healthy Happy Loving Life^sm! Are you in? Got any questions? I would love to help.

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Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert and award-winning author who celebrates life. She also is an ordained minister and has a natural healing practice. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within: Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office. To email us, kebba@kebba.com .

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: Change Your Channel to Recharge

09 Friday Oct 2020

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Stress builds up, and so does boredom. Stress lodges in your body in many ways, creating discomforts, and boredom impairs your brain functions. Sometimes a person needs to recharge their batteries. And a quick way to do this is to change your channel. Remember old-fashioned TVs, with a knob that turned from number to number? With each different number, you got tuned in to a different channel. If you don’t remember seeing such a TV set in your real life, here’s a photo of one, above.

The beauty of this machine was that you were very aware of choosing what channel you tuned to. If you were bored, you walked up to the knob and turned it, then found you were tuned in to something else. The knob made a loud “clunk” sound when you turned it.

Today, I recommend you learn one of the most powerful stress management and recharge tools you could ever find: change your channel.

If you are having bad thoughts about a recent argument, change your channel firmly to recall pleasant conversations; your brain and body will shift. If you are dwelling on a neighbor situation you can do nothing about, change your channel firmly to focus vividly on the new baby in your family or another joyful thought; your brain and body will shift. When you deliberately put a new program in your mind, your brain must let go of the annoying program, at least for a time. If your mental program change is vivid and joyful enough, your brain will produce more DHEA, the master hormone, literally making you more well, strong, and generally recharged.

Many people use travel to change their channel. Pushing all other thoughts aside, they plan, plan, plan for a trip. Their inner TV screen gets filled with vivid thoughts of cities or countryside or beaches. Their inner TV screen shows places where they can stay, how they will travel there, and when exactly they will go. When they actually take that trip, their mind and body are refreshed by new sights, sounds, and thoughts, and it’s impossible to remain in the old humdrum or stressed state of mind.

A friend of mine is a fund manager. His entire stress management plan is, “Oh, I just go to London!”

Oliver Wendell Holmes said:

A mind that is stretched by travel can never go back to its old dimensions.

Maybe travel is for you. Maybe novels or movies are for you. Maybe guided meditation is for you, taking you to streams and valleys and chapels in the woods that you would never have seen in your mind’s eye otherwise.

Whatever way works for you, it’s crucial to change your channel from time to time and refresh your brain and body chemistry. And now you’re in the realm of Healthy Happy Loving Life^sm!

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Healthy Happy Loving Life: A Real Day Off

06 Tuesday Oct 2020

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Maybe you’re thinking, no way! The cost, the time off work, the yard growing out of control and ruining my neighborhood reputation… A two-week vacation was a standard, decades ago. Then professionals decided those caused more stress than they cured. So people shifted to taking long weekends. This trend was so strong that the Federal Government moved most of the federal holidays to Mondays. That Monday Holiday Law, passed in 1968, was meant to “bring substantial benefits to both the spiritual and economic life of the Nation.” Wow!

But then everyone was driving out of town at the end of the week and returning Monday night. More stress. Now many are discovering the joys of midweek 2-day timeouts or even a single midweek overnight-plus-one-day timeout. The key is to really take a break, a genuinely refreshing change day. Or two. Just 24 hours can give you a re-set. And you need it!

Your thoughts and attitude can get stale without change. Your brain can actually get channels worn in it, from reviewing the same worries all the time. So change your channel, change your scene. Find a place to go to where there is a low level of electromagnetic frequencies (EMF); possibly a cabin or bed and breakfast in a small town. Use your computer as little as possible. This will refresh your nervous system. Pick a place with natural beauty where you would be very tempted to go walking. This will repump your DHEA, the master hormone. If you can go to a beach, that’s the highest natural-energy environment, and you will absorb a lot of energy there. Turn off your phone and don’t think about your usual concerns. When you think of something that you ought to do, put it on a list in the Memo section of your phone; then forget it until you’re back at your desk. Let go of all the Usual. Anne Lamott has said:

Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes. Including you.

Eat dark green, organic, leafy salad and have very little sugar. This will bring your vital life force energy up very fast. Try to get berries for breakfast. Those will raise your antioxidant levels quickly and refresh your attitudes. Move around. Do yoga in your room or go for walks. Go swimming, if you have found a place with a beach or pool. A prominent business owner I knew used to go to a small motel in Yuma, Arizona, where no one would recognize her. It was inexpensive, there was no traffic noise, and no one could call her. She ate produce (her business ), walked and swam and closed out all business thoughts for 2 days at a time. She said it was like Heaven, a real day off and then another. She totally relaxed.

Come up with your own formula. Give yourself the elements you need to have a real day off, to really take a break. Savor every moment. Then let me know what worked for you. Now you’re in the realm of Healthy Happy Loving Life^sm!

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Upbeat Living: A Real Day Off

28 Wednesday Sep 2016

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Your thoughts and attitude can get stale without change. Your brain can actually get channels worn in it, from reviewing the same worries all the time. So change your channel, change your scene. Find a place to go to where there is a low level of electromagnetic frequencies (EMF); possibly a cabin or bed and breakfast in a small town. Use your computer as little as possible. This will refresh your nervous system. Pick a place with natural beauty where you would be very tempted to go walking. This will repump your DHEA, the master hormone. If you can go to a beach, that’s the highest natural-energy environment, and you will absorb a lot of energy there. Turn off your phone and don’t think about your usual concerns. When you think of something that you ought to do, put it on a list in the Memo section of your phone; then forget it until you’re back at your desk. Let go of all the Usual.

Eat dark green leafy salad and have very little sugar. This will bring your vital life force energy up very fast. Try to get berries for breakfast. Those will raise your antioxidant levels quickly and refresh your attitudes. Move around. Do yoga in your room or go for walks. Go swimming, if you have found a place with a beach or pool. A business owner I knew used to go to a small motel in Yuma, Arizona, where no one would recognize her. It was inexpensive, there was no traffic noise, and no one could call her. She ate produce (her business ), walked and swam and closed out all business thoughts for 2 days at a time. She said it was like Heaven, a real day off and then another. She totally relaxed.

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Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert and award-winning author. She also is an ordained minister and has a natural healing practice. Among her books are:Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br),and Peace Within: Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. That book and Peace Within are available through her office. Just email books@kebba.com or call the office at 480-250-1177.
For an appointment or to book Rev. Kebba to speak for your group, email calendar@kebba.com

Opinion Stress: What You Think of Me Is None of My Business

30 Friday Jan 2015

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Now be honest: how many times today did you consider someone else’s ideas about you? How many decisions did you make because someone else would or would not like exactly what you did? If your hair is royal blue and forms a peak across the center of your skull, maybe this isn’t you. Or maybe it is.

As a stress management expert, I want you to navigate as freely and joyfully through your life as you can. I want you to find the greatest health and fulfillment you can. And that means dealing firmly with the things that cause you stress, pain, and fatigue. The results are a lifestyle I call Upbeat Living, always emphasizing the Up beat, like the music term.

One of the things I see most draining people is the desire to make a choice that is harmless to others, but there is fear of others’ opinions. So many of these fears are small. For example: you’re having lunch with a vegetarian, but you really crave a burger, and that’s better for your metabolism; you’re afraid to order what you want, for fear of disapproval. Or you want to cut your hair short and dye it vivid red, but you’re afraid of negative feedback in the workplace or that the one you’re dating will be less attracted to you. But some of these fears are bigger: maybe you want to leave your current financial career that’s sucking your soul dry. But you’re afraid your family will disown you if you become a chef.

Argue for your limitations and they are yours.

~ Rev. Terry Cole-Whittaker

If the vegetarian expresses disapproval of your lunch order, the message is that you are wrong—not worthy. If your workplace expresses disapproval of your hair color, the message is that you are wrong—not worthy—for their group. And if your family would disown you for quitting your draining job and becoming a chef, the message is that you are wrong and not worthy.

Several decades ago, I encountered a book by (Rev.) Terry Cole-Whittaker, with the most amusing title: What You Think Of Me Is None Of My Business. Cole-Whittaker believes firmly that each of us is already a complete person, with nothing missing. So we cannot be inadequate.

God does not make junk!

~ Rev. Terry Cole-Whittaker

So according to Cole-Whittaker, other people are not our source, the Divine is. Since God/the Universe/the Divine is completely infinite, all options are open to us, and the sky is the limit. Or not even. She encourages us to think very freely about why we’re attached to what and whom, and to be open to just releasing those attachments. We often have a very strong sense of possession: MY job, MY hairdresser, MY beloved. She tells of realizing she was hanging onto her first marriage, long after it was no longer working or salvageable. She finally got honest with herself and saw she didn’t want anyone else to have her husband!

Try this: find 15 minutes of you-time in a quiet place. Or find it in a charming coffee shop where you plug in your laptop, with the hum and chatter of the place creating happy white noise. Now free-write to yourself and the Universe about your life—what you like and don’t, what’s working and what isn’t, what and how you would have things in your dream life. Do you see ways in which you’re feeling stuck? Now: YOU are the only person who can choose differently.

What I think of you is none of your business. And what you think of me is none of my business. But what you think of your life, what nurtures you, and what would make you happy and fulfilled—those things are entirely your business. Create some you-time every day, as you can, and keep writing to yourself and the Universe. Keep adding to the “discussion” you have going with you and the Divine. Notice what makes your heart dim or race. Notice you’re beginning to make small changes. And maybe you’re starting to make big ones. Now, that’s Upbeat Living!

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Is Your Backstory Creating More Stress?

17 Saturday Jan 2015

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These days, most of us have plenty of stress without looking around for more. Many of us are caring for kids and/or elders and trying to get everyone everywhere they need to be on time, with the right gear. Many of us work in organizations with personality and philosophy conflicts. The national and international news carry many stories of plane crashes, kidnappings, mass shootings, stock market drops and rises. So do we need to dig around to find more things to be concerned, uncertain, worried, sad, mad, or depressed about?

As a stress management expert, I say no! To live a joyful, satisfying, effective life, each of us needs to be as clear in mind and heart as we can be. We need to be as healthy in our bodies and brains as we can be. Spiritual people need to be as connected as they/we can be. Today has enough to concern us without borrowing from the future or past. Even Jesus said, “[T]oday has enough troubles of its own (Matt 6:34).”

So why do so many cling to their unhappy backstory? I understand celebrating memories of happy childhoods, great schools, fine friends, loving pets, thrilling cities we’ve lived in, and gorgeous countryside we’ve enjoyed. This will actually raise your DHEA and make your metabolism happier. But some have bad memories they keep recounting. Whenever you hold a negative thought for a few minutes, it depresses your parasympathetic nervous system and you literally become weaker. If you sustain negative thoughts, you become more likely to get sick. But some people cling to their horror, pain, and negative imaginings as though their life depends on it. And actually, their life depends on the opposite.

Leave the past in the past. Tomorrow’s not promised. Today’s a gift. I guess that’s why it’s called The Present.

~ Joe Budden, Hip-Hop Artist

Years ago, I took a self-realization seminar that lasted 5 days. Each morning the 70 participants were invited to “tell their story”, and we heard amazing tales of fabulous and horrific formative experiences. One woman said she had had an incestuous relationship with her father for a number of years (shock number one) and she said actually it had been the most supportive relationship of her life (shock number two). Another woman said her father had been a fiend and that’s why she was heavy; she was in her 50’s. Later, I realized she was running her narrative about her childhood, in her heart and mind, every hour of every day. It was creating huge mental interference and general stress.

On the last day, it was time for those of us who had not told Our Story to share. On the way to the seminar, it washed over me: IT DOESN’T MATTER. Since I wanted to live life forward, and actually there is no other way to live it, no aspect of stress from the past was relevant to how I lived today. For the time, when Getting It All Out was a cultural value, I was taking a radical position. It changed my life. I now mainly live my life in the present moment with an eye to the future God and I are cocreating together.

People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.

~ Thich Nhat Hanh

When someone asks you how you are, are you tempted to tell them you’re depressed or frustrated? Then you have some items to take care of. A balanced person does not dump their stuff at the “Hello”. Write down what you’re feeling and what needs to be addressed. Healthy people want to reach some degree of Peace Within, and peaceful people never reply to “how are you?” with negative statements.

Do you believe that some negative factor from your past is holding you back? If so, and if you say you want a happy and fulfilled life, it’s time to bust your backstory and get some professional help. Get some counseling, journal through the process, read any recommended books, and do any exercises the counselor recommends. If you suspect you need a prescription for anxiety or depression, start with your doctor. When you have achieved a new balance, you may want to work on your life skills with a coach, read some books on relationships, and keep journaling. Get your eyes opened to some visions of your positive potentials and future!

It’s natural for people to want to improve: their health, their communications skills, their workplace talents, even their hair control. Don’t let stress from your backstory hold you back. Don’t let old stories keep you from having a satisfying day, career, and relationships. You are the only person who can put your right foot in front of your left and step forward. Create your great new life. Are you in?

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UpBeat Living: Unshoulder Your Stress!

05 Saturday Jan 2013

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Are your shoulders and your neck tight and painful? Here are several two-minute LifeTools(sm) that can take you straight to the Secret Energized You. To start, touch the top of each of your shoulders, and note how hard or soft each feels. Give each shoulder a score of one- to ten. A score of one is for very relaxed shoulder tops that feel like pudding. Ten is the score for shoulder tops that feel like concrete. Left and right may be very different. Got your starting scores?

Everyone knows that stress can register in the body and make many physical areas tight, tired, or painful. You can even get sick from stress. But few know this secret: the shoulders take the biggest squeeze from stress and can be your secret weapon to unlock that stress.

We have many phrases that suggest the shoulders are a hub for stress storage in the body. We talk about “shouldering a burden” and “squaring our shoulders” to prepare for a challenge. We speak of “shouldering forward” to make progress in a competition or a thick crowd. We say, “The responsibility landed square on his shoulders.”

Feel your shoulder tops again. Are they at the same index or even tighter following the discussion of what can tighten them? How old do you feel now?

We talk about “taking on the yoke of responsibility” for a long-term role or job, suggesting that “the weight of responsibility” is to be supported on the shoulders in the way that an ox or a team of oxen “shoulder the yoke” to plow forward with their work. Different kinds of thoughts lodge in different parts of our anatomy. According to Chinese medicine, the question “How am I going to solve it?” is understood to lodge in the shoulder tops, in the cross-fibers of the trapezius muscle group, and in several sets of connected neck muscles. When these muscles are tight, they squeeze on the nerves that pass through them.

Great shoulder stress then means you will have tight facial muscles. This leads, eventually, to age lines in your face. Also, ear discomfort and ringing, head pain, loss of concentration, and tooth pain can all be caused by shoulder stress. When tight shoulder-top muscles squeeze the brachial plexus nerve group, which serves the arms, this stress can cause arm fatigue and impairment of your fingers, sometimes with pain, numbness, or electric-shock sensations. General shoulder-level muscle tightness, especially over a period of time, impairs circulation to the remainder of the body and can cause great fatigue. All this will make you feel old!

So what can you do? The good news is, you can “unshoulder your burdens” to a great degree, quickly and at no cost. Unshouldering is actually easy, and you will relieve your pain, fatigue, and premature facial aging. Try these three LifeTools:

Run in place for two minutes. Check your shoulder-top scores, left and right. They should be down a bit. Your feet and hands may feel warm now.

Take two minutes and stretch your shoulders gently in every direction you can think of. Make it a silly game, as if you were a child getting up from one of those cramped little school desks, stretching your arms and winding them around everywhere. Feel how this movement stretches out your shoulders and how glorious that new circulation feels in your upper torso, head, and face. Check your shoulder-top scores again, left and right. They should be down one or two points.

For two minutes, think of anything that makes you smile and laugh, such as that goofy look your pet gives you when you run in place and stretch about strangely in your living room. Check your shoulder-top scores once more. At this point, most people’s Stress Self-Assessment scores are down at least four points from their starting scores; they feel younger and healthier, and their hands are more flexible. They may feel a pleasant warmth or tingling in the feet.

Look at your initial scores and the age you said you felt six minutes ago. How young do you feel now? Turn this shoulder-loosening experiment into a twice-daily habit. Add your own variations, and soon you’ll be discovering more of your secret energy and beating stress’s biggest squeeze.

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● Kebba Buckley Button is a corporate stress management trainer and the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You, and the 2012 book, Peace Within: Your Peaceful Inner Core. She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister.

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UpBeat Living: Letting Go

25 Thursday Oct 2012

Posted by Kebba Buckley Button in Attachments, Detaching, Letting go, living beyond, Moving on

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Recently, I met a man in a meditation class who said all the major things in his life had just changed. His relationship, his career, and the part of town he lived in had all changed quite recently. He was feeling highly impacted by all these things shifting at once, even though he was looking forward to the positive results and new horizons. He seemed almost shell-shocked. He was trying meditation as a means to collect his wandering, stressed consciousness and perhaps help him feel grounded again. He was aware of a need to emotionally let go of his previous ideas of who he was, and also to let go of bonds he had had with family, friends, neighbors, and colleagues. I heard myself saying to him, “it’s only the process of detaching that hurts”.

The more we hang on to the past, the stronger we grip the ties that bind, the more we give the bonds strength. For example, we may care about a relative or romantic interest who does not care much about us. The more we talk about that love we want, that we are not getting from that person, the more energy we are giving the relationship, and the stronger the bond is—on our part. Continuing to love and ache for returned love, from a person who does not return those feelings, is no thankful situation. It is unrewarding. I once heard this described as, “going to a hardware store looking for milk”. Yet, giving up that one-sided caring may be extremely painful. And we need to give it up.

In the 1980’s , the term “codependence” , or “codependency”, came into use, in part for unrequited caring. When a person wants something from another who cannot or will not give it, and the person keeps pursuing it, that behavior may be viewed as controlling. If you want to read more about this way of looking at things, look for books by Melody Beattie, such as Codependent No More.

Some time ago, a young couple who were neighbors of mine moved away. I found out only hours before the moving van removed them from my street. I was jolted. I felt distracting pangs of loss for days. Ouch! I asked myself what I was “missing” so strongly. I was very fond of the couple and yet knew that our friendship really never got off the ground. I would probably not hear from them again. So what were these pangs? Then I realized, the young couple didn’t care that I cared. My admiration and affection for them was entirely one-sided. They had no particular interest in me. While it is always good to like and admire people, and to wish them the best, I needed to let go of the idea that we would become friends someday. I had entirely created my own pangs! Then I remembered that word for one-sided attachment: codependency. Oh yes! Time to laugh at my humanity. And I did laugh!

I got busy with my real life and my real friends and lost my distraction over the loss of the lovely neighbors. Only the detaching was painful. It feels great to have no further bonds there. Who and what do you need to let go of?

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