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Possibly all of us would like to have our homes and offices be neater and contain less Stuff. Would you? Some have enough Stuff that it looks like someone is moving. Some even have so much Stuff that we would qualify for a Hoarders Help TV show. Where are you on that scale? The issue of controlling Stuff is actually an issue of Keeping.
The significance of Keeping really came home to me when my beloved mother died in Denver. Keeping is the opposite of releasing. Mom kept stuff for several reasons. See if any of these sound familiar.
- She wasn’t sure where to store it.
- She wasn’t sure who she could give it to, to prevent having to store it.
- She didn’t want to rip off future family historians, who might want that document or photo, to document something about the family.
- She wouldn’t know what to call the file, or where to put it, if she were to keep that document. How could it be retrieved when wanted?
Now understand, my mother was a Depression Kid. Born in 1925, she grew up with people who washed every container and kept EVERYTHING: bottle caps, plastic tubs without lids, newspapers and magazines, string and wire, uncut fabric, broken jewelry, packaging… on and on, across every area of possible possessions. Her belief was that everything should be kept until its next purpose or place was identified. Nothing should be discarded, because we were poor, or thought we were. We might not have a source for that string when we might need some later. So it was a sin to waste. Anything.
So after Mom passed in 2017, my older sister did what she could inside the house. Then she called me to come lead the clearing of the garage. Ha! I thought this would be about a 3-day project. Oh no! The deceptively neat stacks of boxes actually held thousands of potentially significant documents, articles, photos, and small objects. My sister and I sat knee-to-knee, going through each box together. Even my mother’s wedding ring was in a group of desktop-type gear. (Yes, thank you, I love being able to wear her ring.)
Near the box being explored, we always had a Goodwill box and a trash box. It still took us 3 WEEKS to clear that garage, because of the document/photo boxes. While the garage looked neat, it really was what today is viewed as a hoarder situation. The garage was so full that no car could fit in it. This experience helped me to realize that I had Mom’s long-held belief lurking in my consciousness: it’s a sin to waste anything. We might need that later. Keeping is vital.
But while clearing the garage, my consciousness turned that long-held belief over and now really hates excess Stuff. It believes releasing is good! So now I try to release something every day. About weekly, I walk into a room and ask myself, “what can I remove from this room?” I often donate things I used to enjoy but which I no longer need. I pass those things to a certain friend, when we have dinner, because she works in a charity shop. I switched from paper memo notes to digital: my smartphone NOTES section holds my lists; this has massively reduced the need for filing. My goal is to be keeping half the books and miscellaneous storage that I have now, possibly within 3 months.
I feel freer, having released this long-held belief of the necessity to KEEP. My home looks better and better. I frequently find new ways to not bring things home to start with, which means I don’t have to store or release those things, ever.
Would you like to have a clean and clear office, or home, or both? Would you like to spend less time cleaning, because you have less Stuff? Would you like to avoid leaving weeks of clearing for your family, when you pass away? Then release your Keeping, release extra Stuff, and enjoy being ever more Healthy, Happy, and Loving Lifesm!
Kebba Buckley Button is a stress solutions expert and award-winning author who celebrates life. She also has a longtime natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. Among her books are: Discover The Secret Energized You (http://tinyurl.com/b44v3br), Inspirations for Peace Within: Quotes and Images to Uplift and Inspire, and Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. The books are available on Amazon and through Kebba’s office. To email us, firstname.lastname@example.org .