Stress is often caused by what our mind thinks is true, whether it is real or not. Yes! Whatever your belief system, to have the life you want, you have to hold the most positive thoughts and images in your mind. Ernest Holmes (1887-1960), the founder of Science of Mind, described “The Law of Mental Equivalents.” He said, basically, that what you hold in your thoughts is what you will get in your reality. This has been proven true in a number of fields, as your brain and body take instruction from your thoughts.
Do you ever wonder why some people always cheerfully get success, while others are moody and fail at many points in life? Success is very much rooted in what your mind thinks it knows. Your thoughts are then acted out by your nervous system. Even if you believe in God and that God is working for your success, a negative mental framework can crash any hot opportunity God puts in your path. Try this experiment.
- Find a 10-pound object or a gallon bottle of liquid, and lift it before and after you say these phrases. Ready?
- Lift the object. Notice how heavy or light it is for you at this moment.
- Say 10 times, at any speed, “I am a weak and unworthy person.” Your nervous system will take this literally.
- Now pick up the object again. Notice how much heavier it is?
- Now reverse the effect. Say 10 times, at any speed, “I am a vital, strong, valuable person.”
- Pick up the object again. Notice it has become lighter.
Always remember that your brain and nervous system are listening to everything you say. Consider the phenomenon that your brain and nervous system do not know the difference between a real situation of terrible conflict, like a nasty fight or an assault, and a portrayed situation, as in a TV show or movie. Truly, you choose what stress and negativity you feed your mind and body.
Consider an apparently simple example. Think of a really hot, humid summer day. Think of a day so hot that you would rather not be out, but relaxing in your air-conditioned home, your air-conditioned car, or your air-conditioned office. That’s a healthy strategy! However, we all know people who, on this kind of day, must chant out loud, “Boy is it hot! It is so sticky! Aren’t you hot? How can you wear that? Aren’t you miserable? It’s just miserable!”
Chanting like that, the person will begin to feel hotter and hotter, because the brain is listening to every word they say and making it true. And if you listen and/or repeat their comments, silently or to others, you will feel hotter also! Do not dismiss this as “just psychological.”
The sensations are real, and you have a right to live the best and most comfortable life that you can construct for yourself. That is the basis of the Upbeat Living philosophy. So have several cheerful replies ready for when the heat-chanters start in. The one I use most is, “Yes! You know, it’s almost like Phoenix in the summertime!” Then I leave.
Do not get sucked into anyone’s negativity, on any subject! You will pay for it with fatigue and an unclear mind. If you are a person of faith, remember God wants you to use your creativity to make the most of your life and your gifts. Do you want to live your best life now? Good! Then notice stress caused by your mind’s eye, and change your focus to create the best brain, body, and lifestyle you can. That’s real Upbeat Living, and it’s up to you.
- Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert. She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You, plus the 2013 book, Peace Within: Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. All the books are available through her office. Just email firstname.lastname@example.org.
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