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Last time, we talked about how you know you have Junk Stress (http://wp.me/pw4HM-sL), and I offered a quiz and a challenge. Did you take the quiz? So now, are you ready to beat your Junk Stress? Hint: it isn’t laziness or simple disorganization. Here are the three top reasons you’re not letting go, and how you can.
- It’s the feeling of the thing, not the thing itself. You have actually bonded with the thing, and you need to break the bonds. Think of one item you know you don’t want to give space to anymore, but which you just hate to release. In my case, I had a set of 100-year-old encyclopedias that I couldn’t let go of. In 5 clothbound volumes, each 6” x 9” x 2”, it was entitled Everybody’s Cyclopedia, created by an Encyclopedia Britannica team in 1912. I only read it every few years, but it made me feel so warm and cozy to look at it on the shelf. An elder I know keeps jelly jars from when her children were young. They remind her of Those Days. Her kids would like to put them in the glass recycling. The answer to releasing the precious object can be to take a photo, then bless and release the object to a meaningful recipient. My Cyclopedia set went to an historic district yard sale. I knew the new owner of the set would be someone who lived in that district and would treasure it. After a photo, the jelly glasses may go on Craig’s List or eBay.
- Junk helps keep you from moving forward. Wait, wasn’t that the problem statement? Yes, and it’s also the secret motivation for not changing things. You can’t be efficient, get the book written, get the research/report done, design the software, or have guests in. If you are single and fear getting into a relationship, Junk Stress can keep you safe from an involvement. Junk is embarrassing. Plus, it takes time and energy you could be putting into something useful and/or gratifying.
- You might use it someday. Well, so might someone else, and you’re tired of being crowded by all this junk! Consider targeting removal of a percent of the overall volume of your home’s contents. I recently took about 20% out of every room: books, clothing, décor, furniture, a stuffed toy, kitchen gear, baskets, pillows, plants, and another round of every category. A church chef was happy to receive 3 full-size ladles, and the youth program got a lot of cookie cutters. We sold a stair-stepper to friends who whisked it away in their truck. I timed my 20% push to coincide with one friend’s yard sale (donated to sell) and another friend’s move to a larger home (gifted to use, especially décor items). Most of the 20% was retrieved by others in their trucks. The more I released, the faster it went and the easier it was. My home feels so light and free! Now I’m thinking of going for another 20%.
Will you set yourself a challenge, so you can live more freely and be more productive? Try for releasing even one object, or if you’re brave, one box, from each room each week, and you’re on your way. Now that’s Upbeat Living!
- Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert. She also has a natural healing practice and is an ordained minister. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You, plus the 2013 book, Peace Within: Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine. All the books are available through her office. Just email email@example.com.
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